The letter ק alludes to קׅנְאָה, jealously, which is one of the three things that remove a man from this world:
(כא) רַבִּי אֶלְעָזָר הַקַּפָּר אוֹמֵר, הַקִּנְאָה וְהַתַּאֲוָה וְהַכָּבוֹד, מוֹצִיאִין אֶת הָאָדָם מִן הָעוֹלָם:
(21) Rabbi Elazar Ha-kappar said: envy, lust and [the desire for] honor put a man out of the world.
Passion is rot to the bones.
קִנְאַת סוֹפְרִים תַּרְבֶּה חָכְמָה
jealousy among teachers increases wisdom. The one who was dismissed will try to refine his skills so that he will be rehired, and this will prevent negligence on the part of the other teacher.
The letter ר alludes to רׅיב which can be translated to mean fight, quarrel, dispute, feud, strife, contention or conflict. Another word that is related to רׅיב is מַחֲלֹקֶת, dissension:
(א) מחלוקת באותיותיה נדרשת, מ' מכה, ח' חרם, ל' לוקין ק' קללה ת' תועבה. וי"א תכלית כליה מביא לעולם.
The terrible effects of controversy can be inferred from the words מַכָּה, hit, חָרוֹן, anger, לׅקּוּי, strike, קְלָלָה, curse and תַּכְלׅית, annihilation, whose initials spell the word מַחֲלֹקֶת, controversy.
Yet, there is one exception to מַחֲלֹקֶת.
(יז) כָּל מַחֲלֹקֶת שֶׁהִיא לְשֵׁם שָׁמַיִם, סוֹפָהּ לְהִתְקַיֵּם. וְשֶׁאֵינָהּ לְשֵׁם שָׁמַיִם, אֵין סוֹפָהּ לְהִתְקַיֵּם. אֵיזוֹ הִיא מַחֲלֹקֶת שֶׁהִיא לְשֵׁם שָׁמַיִם, זוֹ מַחֲלֹקֶת הִלֵּל וְשַׁמַּאי. וְשֶׁאֵינָהּ לְשֵׁם שָׁמַיִם, זוֹ מַחֲלֹקֶת קֹרַח וְכָל עֲדָתוֹ:
(17) Every dispute that is for the sake of Heaven, will in the end endure; But one that is not for the sake of Heaven, will not endure. Which is the controversy that is for the sake of Heaven? Such was the controversy of Hillel and Shammai. And which is the controversy that is not for the sake of Heaven? Such was the controversy of Korah and all his congregation.
Rabbi Jonathan Rietti notes the following:
“That the root word of מַחֲלֹקֶת is חֵלֶק. A מַחֲלֹקֶת starts when one sees only a חֵלֶק, part of the situation. On the other hand, שָׁלוֹם, peace, results when one sees שָׁלֵם, the whole picture.”
Think of what it will effect in the end,
When your fellow puts you to shame.
In certain situations, people can resolve their practical disagreements about the course of action to take by casting lots. Rather than trying to overpower each other, they can settle their quarrel in this peaceful manner (Vilna Gaon in his commentary on Mishlei 18:18).
הָכִי קָאָמְרִי לֵיהּ: רַבָּנַן פְּלִיגִי עִילָּווֹךְ, וְיָחִיד וְרַבִּים, הֲלָכָה כְּרַבִּים...
The Gemara answers that Rabban Gamliel’s sons did not ask him his opinion. Rather, they said to him as follows: Do the Rabbis fundamentally disagree with you concerning this halakha, holding that Shema may be recited only until midnight? If so, when there is a disagreement between an individual Sage and many Sages, the halakha is in accordance with the opinion of the many, in which case we must, in practice, follow the opinion of the Rabbis.
אמר רבי אילעא אין העולם מתקיים אלא בשביל מי שבולם את עצמו בשעת מריבה...
With regard to that verse, Rabbi Ile’a says: The world endures only in the merit of one who restrains [shebolem] himself during a quarrel...
וְאַל יְשַׁנֶּה אָדָם מִפְּנֵי הַמַּחֲלוֹקֶת...
The Sages stated a principle: And a person may not deviate from the local custom, due to potential dispute...
אמר רב יהודה לעולם יהא אדם זהיר בתבואה בתוך ביתו שאין מריבה מצויה בתוך ביתו של אדם אלא על עסקי תבואה...
Apropos the topic of how man should approach his household, Rav Yehuda says: A person must always be careful about ensuring that there is grain inside his house, as discord is found in a person’s house only over matters of grain...
Than a house full of feasting with strife.
The last letter ח alludes to חוּרבָּן, destruction. Both jealousy (קׅנְאָה) and strife (רׅיב or מַחֲלֹקֶת), ultimately leads to one’s destruction:
שֶׁכׇּל הַנּוֹתֵן עֵינָיו בְּמַה שֶּׁאֵינוֹ שֶׁלּוֹ מַה שֶּׁמְבַקֵּשׁ אֵין נוֹתְנִין לוֹ וּמַה שֶּׁבְּיָדוֹ נוֹטְלִין הֵימֶנּוּ
This teaches that anyone who places his eyes on that which is not his is not given what he desires, and that which he had is taken from him.
For instance, Korach wanted to serve as a Kohein and as a result, the ground opened in the formation of a mouth, swallowing him and his entire assembly:
Why specifically a mouth?
His words are a trap for him.
What exactly was Korach’s agenda behind the dispute? It was to nullify Moshe’s words.
Korach was foolish for challenging Moshe’s position. His demise teaches us: never startup with a Torah scholar.
(י) וֶהֱוֵי מִתְחַמֵּם כְּנֶגֶד אוּרָן שֶׁל חֲכָמִים... וְכָל דִּבְרֵיהֶם כְּגַחֲלֵי אֵשׁ:
(10) And [he also said:] warm yourself before the fire of the wise... and all their words are like coals of fire.
Let’s put our ego aside and focus on reaching our potential, rather than trying to be like someone else that we idolize in our minds: