THE TAKEAWAY: WHAT DOES THE CRYING REALLY REPRESENT:
Rabba Claudia Marbach - When is a Neck Just a Neck? https://rabbaclaudia.substack.com/p/vayigash?utm_source=facebook&sd=pf
So why can’t a reunion just be a reunion? Maybe because reunions are inherently complicated. Sometimes we overlay situations with too much meaning or we want to escape from the meaning in front of our eyes. Perhaps Rashi is reflecting the unease of the brothers. Did they wish they were elsewhere? Sometimes it is just easier to focus on some future tragedy rather than on rebuilding the relationship on hand. Yosef seems, to my reading, to be in earnest and present at those moments. Maybe that is why our Rabbis call him Yosef haTzadik, Yosef the righteous one.