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12 From when the Temple was destroyed, the Sages that were in that generation ordained that we never build a building that is whitewashed and ornamented like the building of kings. Rather one plasters his house with plaster and whitewashes it with lime and leaves over without lime a space an ell by an ell, across from the entrance. And [in a case of] one who buys a whitewashed and ornamented courtyard: It is surely in its presumed state (of not having been built for a Jew); so we do not obligate him to peel the walls. 13 And they also ordained that one who sets a table to make a meal for guests lack a little from it and leave an empty place without one of the bowls that it is fit to place there; and that when a women makes [herself up with] silver and gold jewelry, she leaves off one of the types of jewelry to which she is accustomed, such that the jewelry not be complete; and that when a groom marries a woman, he takes burnt ashes and puts it on his head in the place of where the tefillin lay. And all of these things are so as to remember Jerusalem, as it is stated (Psalms 137:5-6), "If I forget you, O Jerusalem, let my right hand wither. Let my tongue stick to my palate if I cease to think of you, if I do not raise up Jerusalem above my highest joy."