Aristotle: Happiness is the ultimate goal at which all humans aim.
Anne Frank: We all live with the objective of being happy: our lives are all different and yet the same.
David Hume: (British philosopher): The great end of all human industry is the attainment of happiness. For this were arts invented, sciences cultivated, laws ordained, and societies modelled."
Tal Shachar: Wealth, fame, admiration and all other goals are subordinate and secondary to happiness; whether are desires are material or social, they are means towards one end: happiness.
Do you agree?
Websters Dictionary: A state of well being and contentment”.
It is impossonble to define adequately what happiness is since happiness is an emotional state, which is an experience and not a concept, Emotions are comprised of physiological states and only a person who has experienced them can know what they are.
Sigmund Freud: Man is driven by an instinctual need for pleasure.
Philosopher Robert Nozik asked in his book Anarchy, State and Utopia:
If you could take a pill and feel like we are experiencing any experience we could desire-would you take that pill?
Rav Hirsch teaches the word שמחה is related to the word צמיחה-joy requires growth.
Victor Frankl in Man's Search for Meaning:
Striving to find meaning in ones life is mans primary motivational force.
Frankl speaks of how Holocaust victims were able to survive by finding meaning in their lives, even when they were undergoing emotional torture.
George Bernard Shaw: This is the true joy in life, being used for a purpose recognised by yourself as a mighty one.
Tal Shachar: Happiness is the overall experience of pleasure and meaning. A happy person enjoys positive emotions while perceiving his life as purposeful.
This definition does not pertain to a single moment but to a generalised aggregate of ones experiences, a person can endure emotional pain at times and still be considered happy.
The question is not whether I am happy, the question is how can I be happier?
Carl Rogers:
“The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction, not a destination.
The Obligation To Serve Hashem With Joy:
(טו) וְהָיָ֗ה אִם־לֹ֤א תִשְׁמַע֙ בְּקוֹל֙ יְהוָ֣ה אֱלֹהֶ֔יךָ לִשְׁמֹ֤ר לַעֲשׂוֹת֙ אֶת־כָּל־מִצְוֺתָ֣יו וְחֻקֹּתָ֔יו אֲשֶׁ֛ר אָנֹכִ֥י מְצַוְּךָ֖ הַיּ֑וֹם וּבָ֧אוּ עָלֶ֛יךָ כָּל־הַקְּלָל֥וֹת הָאֵ֖לֶּה וְהִשִּׂיגֽוּךָ׃...
(מז) תַּ֗חַת אֲשֶׁ֤ר לֹא־עָבַ֙דְתָּ֙ אֶת־יְהוָ֣ה אֱלֹהֶ֔יךָ בְּשִׂמְחָ֖ה וּבְט֣וּב לֵבָ֑ב מֵרֹ֖ב כֹּֽל׃
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During the first half of the twentieth century, many meticulously observant Jewish immigrants to the United States were greatly anguished by their children’s choice to abandon mitzvah observance. They could not understand why their children turned their back on the heritage they had so desperately attempted to hand down. The truth is that one of the primary causes was an attitude expressed by a popular saying during those times: “Es is shver tzu zayn a Yid,” “It is hard to be Jewish.” This is wrong! We should communicate to our children the true and proper attitude: “It is beautiful and fulfilling to be Jewish!” |
You thank Him in mind and word, and if your joy leads you so far as to sing and dance, it becomes worship and a bond of union between you and the Divine Influence. Our Torah does not consider these matters optional; it lays down decisive injunctions concerning them…
Simcha Through Giving
(ט) וַיְבִאֵ֖נוּ אֶל־הַמָּק֣וֹם הַזֶּ֑ה וַיִּתֶּן־לָ֙נוּ֙ אֶת־הָאָ֣רֶץ הַזֹּ֔את אֶ֛רֶץ זָבַ֥ת חָלָ֖ב וּדְבָֽשׁ׃ (י) וְעַתָּ֗ה הִנֵּ֤ה הֵבֵ֙אתִי֙ אֶת־רֵאשִׁית֙ פְּרִ֣י הָאֲדָמָ֔ה אֲשֶׁר־נָתַ֥תָּה לִּ֖י יְהוָ֑ה וְהִנַּחְתּ֗וֹ לִפְנֵי֙ יְהוָ֣ה אֱלֹהֶ֔יךָ וְהִֽשְׁתַּחֲוִ֔יתָ לִפְנֵ֖י יְהוָ֥ה אֱלֹהֶֽיךָ׃ (יא) וְשָׂמַחְתָּ֣ בְכָל־הַטּ֗וֹב אֲשֶׁ֧ר נָֽתַן־לְךָ֛ יְהוָ֥ה אֱלֹהֶ֖יךָ וּלְבֵיתֶ֑ךָ אַתָּה֙ וְהַלֵּוִ֔י וְהַגֵּ֖ר אֲשֶׁ֥ר בְּקִרְבֶּֽךָ׃ (ס)
(יג) חַ֧ג הַסֻּכֹּ֛ת תַּעֲשֶׂ֥ה לְךָ֖ שִׁבְעַ֣ת יָמִ֑ים בְּאָ֨סְפְּךָ֔ מִֽגָּרְנְךָ֖ וּמִיִּקְבֶֽךָ׃ (יד) וְשָׂמַחְתָּ֖ בְּחַגֶּ֑ךָ אַתָּ֨ה וּבִנְךָ֤ וּבִתֶּ֙ךָ֙ וְעַבְדְּךָ֣ וַאֲמָתֶ֔ךָ וְהַלֵּוִ֗י וְהַגֵּ֛ר וְהַיָּת֥וֹם וְהָאַלְמָנָ֖ה אֲשֶׁ֥ר בִּשְׁעָרֶֽיךָ׃
(ה) כִּֽי־יִקַּ֥ח אִישׁ֙ אִשָּׁ֣ה חֲדָשָׁ֔ה לֹ֤א יֵצֵא֙ בַּצָּבָ֔א וְלֹא־יַעֲבֹ֥ר עָלָ֖יו לְכָל־דָּבָ֑ר נָקִ֞י יִהְיֶ֤ה לְבֵיתוֹ֙ שָׁנָ֣ה אֶחָ֔ת וְשִׂמַּ֖ח אֶת־אִשְׁתּ֥וֹ אֲשֶׁר־לָקָֽח׃ (ס)
And Rav Chelbo said in the name of Rav Huna: “Anyone who benefits from the banquet of the bridegroom and does not make him happy violates the spirit of the five “sounds” that are mentioned in the following verse, as it is stated (Yirmiyahu 33:11), “The sound of joy and the sound of happiness, the sound of the bridegroom and the sound of the bride, the sound of them that say, ‘Give thanks to the Lord of Hosts.’”
And if he does gladden the bridegroom, what is his reward?
Rav Yehoshua Ben Levi said: He merits the Torah, which was given with five “sounds”…
The rejoicing mentioned in the verse refers to sacrificial peace offerings… nevertheless, included in this charge to rejoice is that he and the members of his household should rejoice, each in a manner appropriate for him….
When a person eats and drinks (in celebration of the festivals), he should also feed strangers, orphans, and widows, as well as other poor unfortunates. When a person locks the gates of his courtyard … and does not provide food or drink to the poor and miserable, his happiness is not the happiness associated with a mitzva, but the happiness of his gut… Such happiness is a disgrace, as it is stated (Malakhi 2:3) “I will spread dung on your faces, the dung of your feasts.”
Rav Jonathan Sacks:
Simcha is one of the fundamental themes of Deuteronomy as a book.
The root s-m-ch appears only once in each of Genesis, Exodus, Leviticus and Numbers, but no less than twelve times in Deuteronomy.
It lies at the heart of the Mosaic vision of life in the land of Israel.
That is where we serve God with joy!
(ב) עִבְד֣וּ אֶת־יְהוָ֣ה בְּשִׂמְחָ֑ה בֹּ֥אוּ לְ֝פָנָ֗יו בִּרְנָנָֽה׃
(יג) וַיְהִ֗י כִּ֧י צָעֲד֛וּ נֹשְׂאֵ֥י אֲרוֹן־יְהוָ֖ה שִׁשָּׁ֣ה צְעָדִ֑ים וַיִּזְבַּ֥ח שׁ֖וֹר וּמְרִֽיא׃ (יד) וְדָוִ֛ד מְכַרְכֵּ֥ר בְּכָל־עֹ֖ז לִפְנֵ֣י יְהוָ֑ה וְדָוִ֕ד חָג֖וּר אֵפ֥וֹד בָּֽד׃ (טו) וְדָוִד֙ וְכָל־בֵּ֣ית יִשְׂרָאֵ֔ל מַעֲלִ֖ים אֶת־אֲר֣וֹן יְהוָ֑ה בִּתְרוּעָ֖ה וּבְק֥וֹל שׁוֹפָֽר׃
(13) When the bearers of the Ark of the LORD had moved forward six paces, he sacrificed an ox and a fatling. (14) David whirled with all his might before the LORD; David was girt with a linen ephod. (15) Thus David and all the House of Israel brought up the Ark of the LORD with shouts and with blasts of the horn.
The Baal Shem Tov said: "The ability to be joyous, by discerning the good and joyous within every experience, is considered by chassidim as a biblical command!"
More Advantages of Being Happy:
1) Rebbe Nachman Says (153)
G-d refuses to send messages to a sad person. G-d is ready to let you know what to do, but if you walk around with a long face, G-d is not interested in talking to you.
But if you are filled with joy, G-d lets you know what to do.
The Greatest Vessel
2) Rebbe Nachman says, every light needs a vessel.
God’s great light in order to shine into us needs a vessel. The name of that vessel is joy. There is no other vessel.
Rebbe Nachman Says 90
Mesilat Yesharim: Chapter 19
This is true happiness, rejoicing that one has been privileged to serve the Blessed Master, Who has no equal, and to occupy oneself with His Torah and His mitzvot, which embody true perfection and eternal preciousness.
בשמחה=מחשבה
Ruach Chaim on Avot 6:6 :
Rabbi Chaim Volozhin“With joy: Because one who learns with joy can learn more in one hour than what he can learn in many hours when he is sad. Also, the Torah is the plaything of the Holy One, Blessed be He, and one must be joyous about such a great thing.
תנו רבנן אין עומדין להתפלל לא מתוך עצבות ולא מתוך עצלות ולא מתוך שחוק ולא מתוך שיחה ולא מתוך קלות ראש ולא מתוך דברים בטלים אלא מתוך שמחה של מצוה.
Sichot Haran #4
Having a broken heart and being depressed are very different things. Depression is rooted in the unholy “other side”and God hates it. But being brokenhearted and contrite over ones sins and shortcoming’s is very dear and precious to God…Seclude yourself with God for a given time and break your heart with regret over your sins. Then be happy the rest of the day.
Sichot Haran #42: Being gloomy and depressed is like being angry with God for not satisfying ones desires. But someone with a broken heart is like a small child pleading with his father and complaining to him for being distant.
Sichot Haran #45: “After heartbreak comes joy."
The idea is that it is healthy at times to be broken hearted-or to be down. But the key is to not let this sadness turn into a depression.
שאין שכינה שורה לא מתוך עצבות ולא מתוך עצלות ולא מתוך שחוק ולא מתוך קלות ראש ולא מתוך שיחה ולא מתוך דברים בטלים אלא מתוך דבר שמחה של מצוה שנאמר ועתה קחו לי מנגן והיה כנגן המנגן ותהי עליו יד ה׳.
דרבה מקמי דפתח להו לרבנן אמר מילתא דבדיחותא ובדחי.
Similarly, “So I commended mirth,” that is the joy of a mitzva. “And of mirth: What does it accomplish?” that is joy that is not the joy of a mitzva. The praise of joy mentioned here is to teach you that the Divine Presence rests upon an individual neither from an atmosphere of sadness, nor from an atmosphere of laziness, nor from an atmosphere of laughter, nor from an atmosphere of frivolity, nor from an atmosphere of idle conversation, nor from an atmosphere of idle chatter, but rather from an atmosphere imbued with the joy of a mitzva. As it was stated with regard to Elisha that after he became angry at the king of Israel, his prophetic spirit left him until he requested: “But now bring me a minstrel; and it came to pass, when the minstrel played, that the hand of the Lord came upon him” (II Kings 3:15). Rav Yehuda said: And, so too, one should be joyful before stating a matter of halakha. Rava said: And, so too, one should be joyful before going to sleep in order to have a good dream. The Gemara asks: Is that so, that one should introduce matters of halakha joyfully? Didn’t Rav Giddel say that Rav said: Any Torah scholar who sits before his teacher and his lips are not dripping with myrrh due to fear of his teacher, those lips shall be burnt, as it is stated: “His lips are as lilies, dripping with flowing myrrh [shoshanim notefot mor over]” (Song of Songs 5:13)? He interpreted homiletically: Do not read mor over, flowing myrrh; rather, read mar over, flowing bitterness. Likewise, do not read shoshanim, lilies; rather, read sheshonim, that are studying, meaning that lips that are studying Torah must be full of bitterness. The Gemara explains: This is not difficult, there is no contradiction here, as this, where it was taught that one should introduce matters of halakha joyfully, is referring to a rabbi, and that, where it was taught that one must be filled with bitterness, is referring to a student, who must listen to his teacher with trepidation. And if you wish, say instead that this and that are referring to a rabbi, and it is not difficult. This, where it was taught that he must be joyful, is before he begins teaching, whereas that, where it was taught that he must be filled with bitterness and trepidation, is after he already began teaching halakha. That explanation is like that which Rabba did. Before he began teaching halakha to the Sages, he would say something humorous and the Sages would be cheered. Ultimately, he sat in trepidation and began teaching the halakha. And, the Gemara continues, the Sages sought to suppress the book of Proverbs as well because its statements contradict each other. And why did they not suppress it? They said: In the case of the book of Ecclesiastes, didn’t we analyze it and find an explanation that its statements were not contradictory? Here too, let us analyze it. And what is the meaning of: Its statements contradict each other? On the one hand, it is written: “Answer not a fool according to his folly, lest you also be like him” (Proverbs 26:4), and on the other hand, it is written: “Answer a fool according to his folly, lest he be wise in his own eyes” (Proverbs 26:5). The Gemara resolves this apparent contradiction: This is not difficult, as this, where one should answer a fool, is referring to a case where the fool is making claims about Torah matters; whereas that, where one should not answer him, is referring to a case where the fool is making claims about mundane matters.
Here is an analogy: sometimes, when people are happy and dance, they grab someone outside the circle who is depressed and gloomy. Against his will, they bring him into the circle of dancers; against his will, they force him to be happy along with them.
10 Languages of Joy
(י) עשרה שמות נקרא שמחה. אלו הן ששון. שמחה. גילה. רינה. דיצה. צהלה. עליזה. חדוה תפארת. עליצה:
“Avot D’Rabbi Natan 34:9, a minor tractate of the Talmud, lists ten words that are used to describe joy. But, according to our count, Judaism has at least four more. Each illuminates another facet of joy:
Simcha -considered the broadest word for joy, it also notes complete happiness in its fullest sense. (I would add that Simcha is also a word we use for a party/occasion celebrating a joyous moment. Eg, “I will be so happy to attend your Simcha.” Fill in wedding, bar mitzvah, baby naming. The actual Jewish event is called a Simcha!)
Chedva –pure and unfiltered, expressing the happiness of being with others
Ditza–awe-inspiring, related to dancing
Gila–a stronger sensation that bursts forth but is more transient and worldly (related to gal, meaning “wave”)
Hana’a–enjoyment of something specific
Nachas –prideful joy brought on especially by our children (In modern Hebrew the word is Nachat, but we still use the Yiddish and wish people much naches from their children and grandchildren)
Osher–deeper, abiding, connected to a yearning for inner peace and a life of meaning
Ora–signifying both “light” and “joy,” suggesting an interplay between awareness and uplift. (We say, “Torah Ora” –signifying that Torah is both light and joy for our lives, and “Ora v’Simcha”- “Light and Joy” lift our spirits and our souls)
Pitzcha–bursting into song
Ranan –being so overcome as to cry or shout in joy
Rina–related to singing and shouting, often very revitalizing
Sasson–happiness coming on unexpectedly
T’rua–joy expressed in a shout or cheer (like a shofar)
Tzahala–combining both happiness and dancing”
Jewish Spiritual Parenting: Wisdom, Activities, Rituals and Prayers for Raising Children with Spiritual Balance and Emotional Wholeness (2015) by Rabbi Paul Kipnes and his wife Michelle November, MSSW., Jewish Lights Publishing, (p. 167-8):
The Tanya explains that the soul is "literally a part of G‑d." So joy, ultimately, is not a technique to master, a goal to achieve, or even a state to surrender to. It's what we are, by virtue of our bond with the One whom "Strength and joy are His place" (I Chronicles 16:27).
Who is the happiest people you know? What makes them happy?
Think About your life: How do you think you could bring your life more purpose?
How could you bring more joy into your life?
1) What is the Gameplan to increase your joy this week?
מִצְוָה גְּדוֹלָה לִהְיוֹת בְּשִׂמְחָה תָּמִיד, וּלְהִתְגַּבֵּר לְהַרְחִיק הָעַצְבוּת וְהַמָּרָה שְׁחֹרָה בְּכָל כֹּחוֹ.
