Acharei Mot, Machar Chodesh and Mevarchim Chodesh (about Leah bat Reuven - Lori Gilbert-Kaye z'l)

~ Why, in your opinion, does the Torah say that God spoke directly to Aharon after the death of his two sons, Nadav and Avihu?

Saul Bellow

Humboldt's Gift

Death is the dark backing that a mirror needs if we are to see anything.

(א) וַיְדַבֵּ֤ר ה' אֶל־מֹשֶׁ֔ה אַחֲרֵ֣י מ֔וֹת שְׁנֵ֖י בְּנֵ֣י אַהֲרֹ֑ן בְּקָרְבָתָ֥ם לִפְנֵי־ה' וַיָּמֻֽתוּ׃

(1) The LORD spoke to Moses after the death of the two sons of Aaron who died when they drew too close to the presence of the LORD.

(א) וַיִּקְח֣וּ בְנֵֽי־אַ֠הֲרֹן נָדָ֨ב וַאֲבִיה֜וּא אִ֣ישׁ מַחְתָּת֗וֹ וַיִּתְּנ֤וּ בָהֵן֙ אֵ֔שׁ וַיָּשִׂ֥ימוּ עָלֶ֖יהָ קְטֹ֑רֶת וַיַּקְרִ֜בוּ לִפְנֵ֤י ה' אֵ֣שׁ זָרָ֔ה אֲשֶׁ֧ר לֹ֦א צִוָּ֖ה אֹתָֽם׃ (ב) וַתֵּ֥צֵא אֵ֛שׁ מִלִּפְנֵ֥י ה' וַתֹּ֣אכַל אוֹתָ֑ם וַיָּמֻ֖תוּ לִפְנֵ֥י ה'׃

(1) Now Aaron’s sons Nadav and Avihu each took his fire pan, put fire in it, and laid incense on it; and they offered before the LORD alien fire, which He had not enjoined upon them. (2) And fire came forth from the LORD and consumed them; thus they died at the instance of the LORD.

(ג) וַיֹּ֨אמֶר מֹשֶׁ֜ה אֶֽל־אַהֲרֹ֗ן הוּא֩ אֲשֶׁר־דִּבֶּ֨ר ה' ׀ לֵאמֹר֙ בִּקְרֹבַ֣י אֶקָּדֵ֔שׁ וְעַל־פְּנֵ֥י כָל־הָעָ֖ם אֶכָּבֵ֑ד וַיִּדֹּ֖ם אַהֲרֹֽן׃

(3) Then Moses said to Aaron, “This is what the LORD meant when He said: Through those near to Me I show Myself holy, And gain glory before all the people.” And Aaron was silent.

Six months ago - 4th November 2018 - the attack on the Tree of Life Synagogue where 11 souls were slaughtered. When we learned about them, we also learned about how each was a supporter and a giver to their community, each in their own capacity and ability.

And now we learned about another attack, last Shabbat, which claimed the life of Lori Gilbert-Kaye, z"l, or Leah Bat Reuven. And here are a few things that were said about her:

Audrey Jacobs (on Facebook)

"Lori you were a jewel of our community a true Eshet Chayil, a Woman of Valor. You were always running to do a mitzvah (good deed) and gave tzedaka (charity) to everyone. Your final good deed was taking the bullets for Rabbi Mendel Goldstein to save his life"

Hannah Kaye (her daughter)

“Everyone was her sister, everyone was her trusted confidante,”

“Everyone was her friend.”

The Times of Israel

Lori Kaye was known to drive hours to visit a sick friend.

She bought six months’ worth of medication for someone without insurance. She left her freshly baked challah in mail boxes and on doorsteps all over town and would buy extra bagels and coffee during her morning routine to be able to give them away, her family and friends said.

Her mission was to help others enjoy life, just as she did and she gave to numerous charities.

We can understand Aharon: he says nothing, there's nothing to say face tragedy. But we can understand what God wants: actions. Small actions speak volumes about our character. Whether we visit a friend who is sick, whether we donate our time to our shul and our community, whether we volunteer to hold the torch and pass it to the next generation.

Rabbi Claude Vecht-Wolf is the one who remarked: Both of Aharon's sons and Lori died in a holy place - a Mikdash - a shul. When they were closest to God. In dying, they were sanctified to God. Lori lived 60 years among us, and we can learn by her example, both last Shabbat and in the 60 years prior.

On Thursday, we commemorated Yom Hashoah, when we lost six million of our people.

Like Aaron, we could have remained silent, and many of the survivors did, during the years immediately following their liberation, recovery and reintroduction to typical life. But after a while, in varying degrees, they chose to speak. And our people too, in the decades since the Shoah, could have decided to remain silent, but we didn't. We have chosen to remember each and every one of the victims, year after year after year.

This week, we won’t be silent when we talk about Lori - Leah bat Reuven.

One of the questions brought up in our reading is the function of the rituals of Yom Kippur, which if you looked closely, have to do with the purifying of the altar and the Ohel Moed, the tent of meeting. In verse 16, we have an interesting idea: God's presence, which reveals itself in the tent of meeting, is abiding there despite the impurities brought by the sins of the children of Israel. Actions are not merely actions, that happen and disappear. They leave energy behind, and according to the actions so is the energy. In the case of sins, we are talking about a dark sort of energy, translated into the words impurity and uncleanness, in Hebrew, Tu'mah.

וְכִפֶּ֣ר עַל־הַקֹּ֗דֶשׁ מִטֻּמְאֹת֙ בְּנֵ֣י יִשְׂרָאֵ֔ל וּמִפִּשְׁעֵיהֶ֖ם לְכָל־חַטֹּאתָ֑ם וְכֵ֤ן יַעֲשֶׂה֙ לְאֹ֣הֶל מוֹעֵ֔ד הַשֹּׁכֵ֣ן אִתָּ֔ם בְּת֖וֹךְ טֻמְאֹתָֽם׃
Thus he shall purge the Shrine of the uncleanness and transgression of the Israelites, whatever their sins; and he shall do the same for the Tent of Meeting, which abides with them in the midst of their uncleanness.

Now Rebbe Nachman of Bratslav has a very interesting idea, a general overview of the essence of our souls, that I believe connects both with our difficult week and with a larger view of our purpose as Jews.

כִּי תְּחִלַּת הַבְּרִיאָה הָיָה כְּדֵי שֶׁיִּתְגַּלֶּה מִדַּת מַלְכוּתוֹ, וּמֵחֲמַת גֹּדֶל הֶאָרָתוֹ לֹא הָיָה בְּאֶפְשָׁרִי לְקַבֵּל, וְהֻכְרַח לְהִתְצַמְצֵם בְּתוֹךְ עוֹלָמוֹת. וְזֶה (תהלים קמה): מַלְכוּתְךָ מַלְכוּת כָּל עוֹלָמִים, הַיְנוּ שֶׁמִּדַּת מַלְכוּת הִתְלַבֵּשׁ בְּתוֹךְ עוֹלָמוֹת, כְּדֵי שֶׁנּוּכַל לְקַבֵּל. וְאֵין מִי שֶׁיְּקַבֵּל עֹל מַלְכוּתוֹ, לָכֵן יוֹצְאוֹת נַפְשׁוֹת יִשְׂרָאֵל, שֶׁיְּקַבְּלוּ עֹל מַלְכוּתוֹ, כִּי אֵין מֶלֶךְ בְּלֹא עָם.

The initial reason for Creation was in order to reveal His attribute of Malkhut (Kingship). However, the illumination of <the Blessed One’s> Light was so great that nothing could contain <it>. Thus it was necessary to contract it within the worlds, <level after level until this world of corporeality>. This is the meaning of “Your kingdom is a malkhut for all OLaMim (ages)” (Psalms 145:13)—i.e., that the attribute of Malkhut <had to be> clothed within the OLaMot (worlds) in order that we might be able to receive <it>. Still, there was no one to accept the yoke of His Kingship. The souls of the Jewish people therefore <went forth>, so that they might accept upon themselves the yoke of His Malkhut, because there is no king unless there are subjects.

וּמֵאַיִן יוֹצְאוֹת נַפְשׁוֹת יִשְׂרָאֵל, מֵעוֹלַם הַדִּבּוּר. וְזֶהוּ (שה"ש ה): נַפְשִׁי יָצְאָה בְדַבְּרוֹ, הַיְנוּ שֶׁנַּפְשׁוֹת יִשְׂרָאֵל יוֹצְאוֹת מֵעוֹלַם הַדִּבּוּר. וְהַדִּבּוּר הוּא בְּחִינַת מַלְכוּת, כְּמוֹ שֶׁאָמַר אֵלִיָּהוּ: מַלְכוּת פֶּה.
From where <did> the Jewish souls emerge? They [came] from the World of Speech. This is “my soul came forth when he spoke” (Song of Songs 5:6)—i.e., the souls of the Jewish people emerge from the World of Speech. And speech is the aspect of Malkhut, as Eliyahu taught: “Malkhut is the mouth” (Tikkuney Zohar, Introduction, p.17a) .
וּבְחִינוֹת שְׁכִינָה גַּם כֵּן, כִּי שׁוֹכֶנֶת אִתָּם תָּמִיד בְּלִי הֶפְסֵק רֶגַע, כְּמוֹ שֶׁכָּתוּב (ויקרא טז): הַשּׁוֹכֵן אִתָּם בְּתוֹךְ טֻמְאוֹתָם,
[Speech] is also the SheKhiNah, who ShoKheiN (dwells) with them continuously <even in exile>, as it is written (Leviticus 16:16), “that dwells with them in the midst of their impurity.”
וְהוּא בְּחִינַת: אֵם הַבָּנִים. הַיְנוּ, כְּמוֹ שֶׁהָאֵם הוֹלֶכֶת תָּמִיד עִם בָּנֶיהָ, וְאֵינָהּ שׁוֹכַחַת אוֹתָם, כֵּן הַדִּבּוּר, שֶׁהוּא בְּחִינַת שְׁכִינָה, הוֹלֶכֶת עִם הָאָדָם תָּמִיד. וְזֶהוּ (ירמיה לא): כִּי מִדֵּי דַבְּרִי בוֹ זָכוֹר אֶזְכְּרֶנּוּ; הַיְנוּ כְּמוֹ שֶׁאָמַרְנוּ, שֶׁהַדִּבּוּר זוֹכֶרֶת אוֹתוֹ תָּמִיד, וְהוֹלֶכֶת עִמּוֹ אֲפִלּוּ בִּמְקוֹם הַטִּנֹּפֶת.
This is the aspect of “a mother of children” (Psalms 113:9). Just as a mother always stays with her <child> and never forgets <him>, so the power of speech, which is the Shekhinah, is <forever with them>. This is the meaning of “whenever I speak of him, I surely remember him [more]” (Jeremiah 31:19). That is as we said: speech remembers him constantly, and goes with him even to a place of filth.

(יג) רַבִּי יְהוּדָה אוֹמֵר, הֱוֵי זָהִיר בַּתַּלְמוּד, שֶׁשִּׁגְגַת תַּלְמוּד עוֹלָה זָדוֹן. רַבִּי שִׁמְעוֹן אוֹמֵר, שְׁלשָׁה כְתָרִים הֵם, כֶּתֶר תּוֹרָה וְכֶתֶר כְּהֻנָּה וְכֶתֶר מַלְכוּת, וְכֶתֶר שֵׁם טוֹב עוֹלֶה עַל גַּבֵּיהֶן:

Rabbi Shimon says: There are three crowns: the crown of Torah, the crown of priesthood and the crown of monarchy - but the crown of a good name outweighs them all.