חובת נשים בלימוד תורה

"ללמדו תורה": מנלן? דכתיב: (דברים יא, יט) "ולמדתם אותם את בניכם". והיכא דלא אגמריה אבוה, מיחייב איהו למיגמר נפשיה, דכתיב: "ולמדתם". איהי מנלן דלא מיחייבא? דכתיב: "ולימדתם" * "ולמדתם" כל שמצווה ללמוד מצווה ללמד, וכל שאינו מצווה ללמוד אינו מצווה ללמד.

ואיהי מנלן דלא מיחייבה למילף נפשה? דכתיב: "ולימדתם" "ולמדתם" כל שאחרים מצווין ללמדו מצווה ללמד, את עצמו וכל שאין אחרים מצווין ללמדו אין מצווה ללמד את עצמו.

ומנין שאין אחרים מצווין ללמדה? דאמר קרא: "ולמדתם אותם את בניכם" בניכם ולא בנותיכם.


*רשי:
דכתיב ולמדתם - קרא אחרינא הוא ולמדתם אותם ושמרתם לעשותם (דברים ה׳:א׳):

that anywhere that there are only five sela available, i.e., enough to redeem only one man, and one is obligated to redeem both himself and his son, he, the father, takes precedence over his son. What is the reason? It is that his own mitzva is preferable to one that he performs on behalf of others. When they disagree is in a case where there is land worth five sela that is liened property that has been sold, i.e., he sold this land to other people but it can be reclaimed by his prior creditor, and five sela which is entirely unsold property. And the reasoning behind the dispute is as follows: Rabbi Yehuda maintains that a loan that is written in the Torah, i.e., any financial obligation that applies by Torah law, is considered as though it is written in a document, and therefore it can be collected from liened property, like any loan recorded in a document. This means that the liened property worth five sela is available for one’s own redemption, but not for that of his son, as the sale of the property occurred before the birth of his firstborn. Consequently, with these five sela upon which there is no lien he redeems his son, and the priest goes and repossesses the land worth five sela that is liened property for his own redemption. In this manner one can fulfill both mitzvot. And the Rabbis maintain: A loan that is written in the Torah is not considered as though it is written in a document, since buyers will not be aware of this obligation, so that they should be aware that the land may be repossessed. And therefore there is no advantage for this man to redeem his son with the five sela upon which there is no lien, and his own mitzva is preferable, which means he redeems himself with the free land. With the liened property that is left he cannot redeem his son, as the land was sold before the birth of his firstborn. The Sages taught: If one has money to redeem his son and to ascend to Jerusalem on the pilgrimage Festival, he redeems his son and then ascends to Jerusalem on the pilgrimage Festival. Rabbi Yehuda says: He ascends to Jerusalem on the pilgrimage Festival and then redeems his son. His reasoning is that this trip to Jerusalem for the pilgrimage Festival is a mitzva whose time soon passes, and this, the redemption of the firstborn son, is a mitzva whose time does not soon pass, as it can be fulfilled later. The Gemara asks: Granted, according to the opinion of Rabbi Yehuda, it is as he stated in his reasoning, i.e., Rabbi Yehuda provided the rationale for his opinion. But what is the reasoning of the Rabbis, who say that he should first redeem his son? The Gemara answers that the reason is that the verse states: “All the firstborn of your sons you shall redeem” (Exodus 34:20), and it then states, in the same verse: “And none shall appear before me empty,” referring to the pilgrimage Festival in Jerusalem. The order of the verse indicates that one should redeem his firstborn son before traveling to Jerusalem on the pilgrimage Festival. The Sages taught: From where is it derived that if one had five firstborn sons, from five different women, he is obligated to redeem them all? The verse states: “All the firstborn of your sons you shall redeem” (Exodus 34:20), and the emphasis of “all” includes any of one’s firstborn sons. The Gemara asks: Isn’t it obvious this is the case? After all, the Merciful One made this mitzva dependent upon the opening of the womb, as it states: “Sanctify to Me all the firstborn, whoever opens the womb” (Exodus 13:2). Since each of these sons is the firstborn of his mother, it is clear that the father is required to redeem each of them. The Gemara answers that this ruling is necessary lest you say that we should derive a verbal analogy between “firstborn” stated here and “firstborn” from the verses dealing with inheritance: Just as there, the verse describes a firstborn who receives a double portion of the inheritance as: “The first fruit of his strength” (Deuteronomy 21:17), i.e., he is the firstborn son to his father, and not the first child born to his mother; so too here, with regard to the redemption of the firstborn son, it is referring to the first fruit of his strength, which would mean that the father need redeem only his oldest child. Therefore, this baraita teaches us that this is not the case. Rather, every firstborn son to his mother must be redeemed. § The baraita teaches that a father is obligated to teach his son Torah. The Gemara asks: From where do we derive this requirement? As it is written: “And you shall teach them [velimadtem] to your sons” (Deuteronomy 11:19). And in a case where his father did not teach him he is obligated to teach himself, as it is written, i.e., the verse can be read with a different vocalization: And you shall study [ulmadtem]. From where do we derive that a woman is not obligated to teach her son Torah? As it is written: “And you shall teach [velimadtem],” which can be read as: And you shall study [ulmadtem]. This indicates that whoever is commanded to study Torah is commanded to teach, and whoever is not commanded to study is not commanded to teach. Since a woman is not obligated to learn Torah, she is likewise not obligated to teach it. The Gemara asks: And from where do we derive that she is not obligated to teach herself? The Gemara answers: As it is written: “And you shall teach [velimadtem],” which can be read as: And you shall study [ulmadtem], which indicates that whoever others are commanded to teach is commanded to teach himself, and whoever others are not commanded to teach is not commanded to teach himself. And from where is it derived that others are not commanded to teach a woman? As the verse states: “And you shall teach them to your sons” (Deuteronomy 11:19), which emphasizes: Your sons and not your daughters. The Sages taught: If one wishes to study Torah himself and his son also wants to study, he takes precedence over his son. Rabbi Yehuda says: If his son is diligent and sharp, and his study will endure, his son takes precedence over him. This is like that anecdote which is told about Rav Ya’akov, son of Rav Aḥa bar Ya’akov, whose father sent him to Abaye to study Torah. When the son came home, his father saw that his studies were not sharp, as he was insufficiently bright. Rav Aḥa bar Ya’akov said to his son: I am preferable to you, and it is better that I go and study. Therefore, you sit and handle the affairs of the house so that I can go and study. Abaye heard that Rav Aḥa bar Ya’akov was coming. There was a certain demon in the study hall of Abaye, which was so powerful that when two people would enter they would be harmed, even during the day. Abaye said to the people of the town: Do not give Rav Aḥa bar Ya’akov lodging [ushpiza] so that he will be forced to spend the night in the study hall. Since Rav Aḥa bar Ya’akov is a righteous man, perhaps a miracle will occur on his behalf and he will kill the demon. Rav Aḥa found no place to spend the night, and he entered and spent the night in that study hall of the Sages. The demon appeared to him like a serpent with seven heads. Rav Aḥa bar Ya’akov began to pray, and with every bow that he bowed one of the demon’s heads fell off, until it eventually died. The next day Rav Aḥa said to the townspeople: If a miracle had not occurred, you would have placed me in danger. The Sages taught: If one has to decide whether to study Torah or to marry a woman, which should he do first? He should study Torah and afterward marry a woman. And if it is impossible for him to be without a wife, he should marry a woman and then study Torah. Rav Yehuda says that Shmuel says: The halakha is that one should marry a woman and afterward study Torah. Rabbi Yoḥanan says: How can one do this? With a millstone hanging from his neck, i.e., with the responsibility of providing for his family weighing upon him, can he engage in Torah study? The Gemara comments: And the amora’im do not disagree; this is for us and that is for them. In other words, one statement applies to the residents of Babylonia, whereas the other is referring to those living in Eretz Yisrael. § With regard to marriage, the Gemara relates: Rav Ḥisda would praise Rav Hamnuna to Rav Huna by saying that he is a great man. Rav Huna said to him: When he comes to you, send him to me. When Rav Hamnuna came before him, Rav Huna saw that he did not cover his head with a cloth, as Torah scholars did. Rav Huna said to him: What is the reason that you do not cover your head with a cloth? Rav Hamnuna said to him: The reason is that I am not married, and it was not customary for unmarried men to cover their heads with a cloth. Rav Huna turned his face away from him in rebuke, and he said to him: See to it that you do not see my face until you marry. The Gemara notes: Rav Huna conforms to his standard line of reasoning, as he says: If one is twenty years old and has not yet married a woman, all of his days will be in a state of sin concerning sexual matters. The Gemara asks: Can it enter your mind that he will be in a state of sin all of his days? Rather, say that this means the following: All of his days will be in a state of thoughts of sin, i.e., sexual thoughts. One who does not marry in his youth will become accustomed to thoughts of sexual matters, and the habit will remain with him the rest of his life. Rava said, and similarly, the school of Rabbi Yishmael taught: Until one reaches the age of twenty years the Holy One, Blessed be He, sits and waits for a man, saying: When will he marry a woman. Once he reaches the age of twenty and has not married, He says: Let his bones swell, i.e., he is cursed and God is no longer concerned about him. Rav Ḥisda said: The fact that I am superior to my colleagues is because I married at the age of sixteen, and if I would have married at the age of fourteen,

ואבי אביו מי מיחייב? והתניא: (דברים יא, יט) "ולמדתם אותם את בניכם" ולא בני בניכם, ומה אני מקיים (דברים ד, ט) "והודעתם לבניך ולבני בניך", לומר לך: שכל המלמד את בנו תורה מעלה עליו הכתוב כאילו למדו לו ולבנו ולבן בנו עד סוף כל הדורות!

הוא דאמר כי האי תנא, דתניא: "ולמדתם אותם את בניכם" אין לי אלא בניכם, בני בניכם מנין? ת"ל "והודעתם לבניך ולבני בניך" א"כ מה ת"ל "בניכם" בניכם ולא בנותיכם!

The Gemara asks: But is one’s father’s father obligated to teach him Torah? But isn’t it taught in a baraita, that the verse: “And you shall teach them to your sons” (Deuteronomy 11:19), indicates: But not your sons’ sons? And how do I realize, i.e., understand, the meaning of the verse: “But make them known to your sons and to your sons’ sons” (Deuteronomy 4:9)? This serves to say to you that whoever teaches his son Torah, the verse ascribes him credit as though he taught him, and his son, and his son’s son, until the end of all generations. The Gemara answers that the tanna of this baraita stated his opinion in accordance with the opinion of that tanna, as it is taught in another baraita: From the verse “And you shall teach them to your sons” I have derived only that you must teach your sons. From where do I derive that there is an obligation to teach your sons’ sons? The verse states: “But make them known to your sons and to your sons’ sons.” If so, what is the meaning when the verse states: “Your sons” (Deuteronomy 11:19), which implies only sons? This limitation teaches: Your sons, but not your daughters.

... אֵינָהּ מַסְפֶּקֶת לִשְׁתּוֹת עַד שֶׁפָּנֶיהָ מוֹרִיקוֹת וְעֵינֶיהָ בּוֹלְטוֹת וְהִיא מִתְמַלֵּאת גִּידִין, וְהֵם אוֹמְרִים הוֹצִיאוּהָ הוֹצִיאוּהָ, שֶׁלֹּא תְטַמֵּא הָעֲזָרָה. אִם יֶשׁ לָהּ זְכוּת, הָיְתָה תוֹלָה לָהּ. יֵשׁ זְכוּת תּוֹלָה שָׁנָה אַחַת, יֵשׁ זְכוּת תּוֹלָה שְׁתֵּי שָׁנִים, יֵשׁ זְכוּת תּוֹלָה שָׁלשׁ שָׁנִים. מִכָּאן אוֹמֵר בֶּן עַזַּאי, חַיָּב אָדָם לְלַמֵּד אֶת בִּתּוֹ תוֹרָה, שֶׁאִם תִּשְׁתֶּה, תֵּדַע שֶׁהַזְּכוּת תּוֹלָה לָהּ. רַבִּי אֱלִיעֶזֶר אוֹמֵר, כָּל הַמְלַמֵּד אֶת בִּתּוֹ תוֹרָה, כְּאִלּוּ מְלַמְּדָהּ תִּפְלוּת...

She barely finishes drinking before her face becomes green, her eyes bulge, and she [seems] filled with sinews (or "veins"), and they [the priests] say, "remove her, remove her!" so she does not defile the courtyard. If she has merit, it [the effects described above] would be suspended for her. There is merit that suspends for one year, there is merit that suspends for two years, there is merit that suspends for three years. From here Ben Azai says: A man is obligated to teach his daughter Torah, for if she drinks [as a suspected-adulteress], she will know that the merit suspends it for her. Rabbi Eli'ezer says: Whoever teaches his daughter Torah is considered as if he taught her foolishness. Rabbi Yehoshua says: A woman desires a kav and foolishness more than nine kavs and abstinence. He would say: A foolish pious man, a cunning evil man, an [excessively] abstinent woman, and the self-flagellations of ascetics, all these destroy the world.

אומר בן עזאי חייב אדם ללמד את וכו' ר' אליעזר אומר כל המלמד את בתו תורה מלמדה תיפלות. תיפלות ס"ד? אלא אימא כאילו למדה תיפלות.

א"ר אבהו מ"ט(מה טעמו) דר"א(רבי אליעזר) ? דכתיב: (משלי ח, יב) "אני חכמה שכנתי ערמה" כיון שנכנסה חכמה באדם נכנסה עמו ערמומית.

§ The mishna states: From here ben Azzai states: A person is obligated to teach his daughter Torah, so that if she drinks and does not die immediately, she will know that some merit of hers has delayed her punishment. Rabbi Eliezer says: Anyone who teaches his daughter Torah is teaching her promiscuity. The Gemara asks: Could it enter your mind to say that teaching one’s daughter Torah is actually teaching her promiscuity? Rather, say: It is considered as if he taught her promiscuity. Rabbi Abbahu says: What is the reason for Rabbi Eliezer’s statement? It is as it is written: “I, wisdom, dwell with cunning” (Proverbs 8:12), which indicates that once wisdom enters into a person, cunning enters with it. Rabbi Eliezer fears that the woman will use the cunning she achieves by learning the wisdom of the Torah to engage in promiscuous behavior.

מטרונה שאלה את ר' אלעזר מפני מה חטא אחת במעשה העגל והן מתין בה ג' מיתות אמר לה אין אשה חכמה אלא בפלך אמר לו הורקנוס בנו בשביל שלא להשיבה דבר אחד מן התורה אבדת ממני ג' מאות כור מעשר בכל שנה א"ל ישרפו ד"ת ולא ימסרו לנשים:

​​​​​​​הרמב"ם כותב:

ומכל מקום אם היא עוזרת לבנה או לבעלה בגופה ומאודה שיעסוק בתורה חולקת שכר עמהם ושכרה גדול מאחר שהם מצווים ועושים על ידיה מה שאין כן באשה שלמדה תורה שיש לה שכר אבל לא שכר גדול כשכר האיש מפני שאינה מצווה ועושה. ואף על פי שיש לה שכר צוו חכמים שלא ילמד אדם את בתו תורה מפני שרוב הנשים אין דעתן מכוונת להתלמד ומוציאות דברי תורה לדברי הבאי לפי עניות דעתן ואם מלמדה תורה שבעל פה הרי זה כאלו מלמדה תפלות מפני שעל ידי זה נכנס בה ערמומית.

לסיכום: הרב משה מלכה

תלמוד תורה לנשים הוא נושא שנדון כבר רבות הן בגמרות ועד בפוסקי בין זמנינו.
המשנה במסכת סוטה מביאה את דעתו של ר' אלעזר האומר: "כל המלמד בתו תורה- מלמדה תיפלות. וכן הגמ' בירושלמי אומרת שעדיף שישרפו דברי תורה ואל ימסרו לנשים. עוד עולה מהסוגיה העיקרית במסכת קידושין דף כט ע"ב שאין חובה ללמד נשים תורה ואין מצווה על נשים ללמוד תורה או ללמד תורה. כלומר מתוך סוגיות ישנה גישה שלילת מאוד לגבי לימוד תורה לנשים, וכן נפסקו הדברים בשו"ע וברמב"ם.

ידועה הבעיה שאין מעמד האשה שבזמנינו דומה כלל למעמד האשה לפני 70 שנה וק"ו לפני 1700 שנה בזמן האמוראים והתנאים, ולכן דברים שנאמרו לפני שנים רבות מיוחסים דווקא למעמד האשה שהיה נהוג באותם זמנים. בזמנים הקדומים מעמד האשה היה נמוך מאוד ולעיתים גרוע ממעמד של עבד ללא זכויות. על כן יש לראות את דברי המשנה שאומרת שכל המלמד את בתו תורה- מלמדה תיפלות, ברקע של מעמד האשה באותם זמנים. כך כותב הרב חיים דוד הלוי "נראה שבזמנים ראשונים, כאשר הייתה האשה עקרת בית, והבנות לא למדו כל עיקר, היה קיים חשש שלימוד התורה, שכולה חכמה...תגרום אולי נזק לאותן נשים שהיו מרוחקות מכל חכמה אחרת, ולא התירו ללמדן אלא דינים הנחוצים להן בלבד. אבל בזמנינו, שלומדות לימודים כלליים בכל הרצינות, למה ייגרעו דברי תורה".

וכן גם כותב הרב משה מלכה: "בימינו אלה שהנשים לוקחות חלק גדול מאורחות חיים, חודרות אל מעמקי החכמה ... וודאי יודה גם ר' אליעזר שאין שום איסור ללמד גם תושב"ע...ולא זו בלבד, אלא החיוב מוטל עלינו ללמדה ולהלעיטה כל מה שאפשר."

אין שום סיבה שנשים לא ילמדו ויעסקו כיום בלימוד תורה, בייחוד שחלק גדול מן המחנכים של הדור הבא הן נשים, לאותן נשים (המחנכות), צריך שיהיה מה להעביר לדור הבא הן ברמת הידע התורני והן בזיקה הנפשית לתורה הנרכשת ע"י העיסוק בתורה ולימודה. לימוד תורה אינו נחלת הגברים בלבד ואין ראוי שיהיה כך, על הנשים לצאת וללמוד תורה לא פחות מגברים.

למרות כל הדברים הללו אין מצווה על נשים ללמוד תורה, בניגוד לגברים, כמו מצוות נוספות שנשים פטורות מהן . אך כמו שנשים קיבלו על עצמם כיום לקיים מצוות מסוימות, למרות שאינן מחויבות בהן כגון: תקיעת שופר, אין כל סיבה שנשים כיום לא יקבלו על עצמם ללמוד תורה שהוא מיסודות היהדות ומהמצוות החשובות ביותר עליה נאמר: "ותלמוד תורה כנגד כולם".