4:18ד׳:י״ח
1 א

אַל תְּרַצֶּה אֶת חֲבֵרְךָ בִשְׁעַת כַּעֲסוֹ. דִּכְתִיב (שמות לג) פָּנַי יֵלֵכוּ וַהֲנִחוֹתִי לָךְ, אָמַר לוֹ הַקָּדוֹשׁ בָּרוּךְ הוּא לְמֹשֶׁה, הַמְתֵּן עַד שֶׁיַּעַבְרוּ פָּנִים שֶׁל זַעַם (ברכות ז.):

"Do not try to assuage the anger of your friend at the time of his anger": As it is written (Exodus 33:14), "My presence (literally, face) will go and I will give you to rest" - said the Holy One, blessed be He, to Moshe, "Wait until My face of anger passes" (Berakhot 7a).

2 ב

וְאַל תְּנַחֲמֶנּוּ בְשָׁעָה שֶׁמֵּתוֹ מֻטָּל לְפָנָיו. שֶׁבִּשְׁעַת הַחֻרְבָּן כִּבְיָכוֹל הָיָה הַקָּדוֹשׁ בָּרוּךְ הוּא מִתְאַבֵּל, בִּקְּשׁוּ מַלְאֲכֵי הַשָּׁרֵת לְנַחֲמוֹ, וְרוּחַ הַקֹּדֶשׁ מְשִׁיבָן (ישעיהו כ״ב:ד׳) אַל תָּאִיצוּ לְנַחֲמֵנִי:

"do not console him at the time when his deceased lies before him": As at the time of the [Temple's] destruction - as if it were possible - the Holy One, blessed be He, was mourning. [When] the ministering angels tried to console Him, the holy spirit answered them, "Do not rush to console Me."

3 ג

וְאַל תִּשְׁאַל לוֹ בִשְׁעַת נִדְרוֹ. לִמְצֹא פְּתָחִים לְהַתִּיר לוֹ אֶת נִדְרוֹ. מִפְּנֵי שֶׁאָז עַל כָּל פֶּתַח וּפֶתַח שֶׁתִּמְצָא לוֹ יֹאמַר אַדַּעְתָּא דְהָכִי נָדַרְתִּי, וְשׁוּב לֹא תִּמְצָא לוֹ פֶּתַח. וּמָצִינוּ כְּשֶׁנִּשְׁבַּע הַקָּדוֹשׁ בָּרוּךְ הוּא לְמֹשֶׁה שֶׁלֹּא יִכָּנֵס לָאָרֶץ לֹא הִתְחַנֵּן מִיָּד אֶלָּא הִמְתִּין וְאַחַר כָּךְ הִתְחִיל לְהִתְחַנֵּן:

"do not question him at the time of his vow": to find an opening (loophole) to annul his vow. Because then, on each and every opening that you find for him, he will say, "I made the vow with that in mind [meaning that he wanted the vow to be operative in spite of the loophole]" - and then you will no longer be able to find him an opening. And we have found that when the Holy One, blessed be He, swore to Moshe that he should not enter the Land, he did not plead immediately, but rather waited and afterwards began to plead.

4 ד

בִּשְׁעַת קַלְקָלָתוֹ. כְּשֶׁנִּתְקַלְקֵל בְּחֵטְא. לְפִי שֶׁהוּא מִתְבַּיֵּשׁ מִכָּל אָדָם. וְכֵן אַתָּה מוֹצֵא כְּשֶׁחָטָא אָדָם הָרִאשׁוֹן לֹא נִגְלָה עֲלֵיהֶם הַקָּדוֹשׁ בָּרוּךְ הוּא עַד שֶׁעָשׂוּ חֲגוֹרוֹת, דִּכְתִיב (בראשית ג) וַיַּעֲשׂוּ לָהֶם חֲגוֹרוֹת, וְאַחַר כָּךְ וַיִּשְׁמְעוּ אֶת קוֹל ה' אֱלֹהִים:

"at the time of his humiliation": when he is humiliated by sin, as he is embarrassed from everyone. And so [too] do you find that when Adam sinned, the Holy One, blessed be He, did not reveal Himself to them until they made loincloths, as it is written (Genesis 3:7), "and they made for themselves loincloths," and afterwards, "and they heard the voice of the Lord God."