The wicked son in all of us

Rabbi Joseph B. Soloveitchik­ Fate and Destiny (Kol Dodi Dofek) pp. 46, 47
First, the consciousness of a shared fate manifests itself as a consciousness of shared circumstances. We all find ourselves in the realm of a common fate which binds together all of the peoples different strata, its various units and groups, a fate which does not discriminate between one group and and another group or between one person and his fellow...
Second, the consciousness of shared historical circumstances results in the experience of shared suffering. The feeling of sympathy is a fundamental feature of of the consciousness of the unifying fate of the Jewish people.

Rabbi Jonathan Sacks Haggadah pp. 113­-114
What is the child whom others see as wicked­ the adolescent, the rebel, the breakaway­ really signaling by his conduct? We know what he says. But what is the question beneath the words, the inarticulate cry? ‘Father, mother, what does Judaism mean to you?
You sent me to Hebrew school, you gave me a Bar Mitzvah. You hired teachers for me. I know what Judaism is supposed to mean. I listened to the messages. I read the books. But all the time I was growing up, you were sending mixed messages. When I neglected my secular education, you were angry, but when I neglected my Hebrew studies, you never seemed to mind. I learned about the laws of Jewish life but you did not seem to keep them, and if you did, you did so selectively.
What you said was that Judaism mattered, but what you did seemed to show that it did not matter very much. At my Bar Mitzvah, you were more concerned about the catering than about how much I understood the words I said in synagogue.
As I grew older, you seemed more concerned about which college I went to and which career I pursued than whether I was continuing to practice and study Judaism. You wanted me to marry a Jewish girl, but you never gave me a reason why. I know what Judaism is supposed to mean to me, but you are my parents. I am Jewish only because you are. So I ask you from the depths of my soul, what does Judaism mean to you?
This is a deep question, and it brooks no evasion. The only answer one can give­ the existential response which alone is capable of reaching from soul to soul­ is to say what Judaism means to me­ not to him… What prompts such honesty? The knowledge that without it, ‘Had he been there, he would not have been redeemed.’
No parent can leave a child unredeemed. Therefore to be a parent is to be willing to take one’s child and walk, hand in hand, part­way on the Jewish journey, showing we are prepared to live by the faith we want him or her to continue.”