Can't Hold Back Joseph's Tears

In the Midrash on this verse it's taught that just as Joseph only appeased his brothers through tears so too God will only redeem Israel through tears. As it states in Jeremiah "They shall come with weeping...And with compassion will I guide them." One has to wonder why it uses the language of "giving" here with regard to tears and not that he raised his voice in tears...perhaps it can be explained that crying has the same numerological value (bechi hashem) as heart. Even for the wicked, crying can serve as their repair. For all those around him, Joseph provided this template. This is also why it uses the language of giving for this is the lesson that Joseph taught for they will know that this all came from God. The crying came from a place of joy.

(1) Another comment on Then Judah drew near unto him. He came near him and said huskily; “Oh, my lord, do not transgress the laws of justice because of us. Let thy servant, I pray thee, speak a word in my lord’s ear” (Gen. 44:18). It would have been more fitting if he had said: “in the presence of my lord.” Hence these words teach us that he spoke both harshly and gently.

(2) “For thou art even as Pharaoh (ibid.). Your master, Pharaoh, loved women and wanted to possess them, and so you longed to have Benjamin as your servant, when you saw how handsome he was.(3) Another comment on For thou art even as Pharaoh. Just as you and Pharaoh are highly esteemed where you reside, so we are highly esteemed where we dwell.

(4) My lord asked his servants (ibid., v. 19). That is, he said to him: “From the very outset you practiced subterfuge toward us. Men have come to Egypt from numerous provinces to purchase grain, but you did not ask them, ‘Perhaps you have come to marry our daughters, or maybe you want to wed our sisters.’ Nevertheless, we withheld nothing from you.”

(5) Joseph retorted. “Why do you speak in behalf of all your brothers? I have discovered through this cup that you do have older brothers, and that you are, indeed, a garrulous creature.” Judah replied: “What you see is correct, but I am compelled to speak because I pledged myself as a surety for my brother.” “Then why were you not surety for your brother when you sold him to the Midianites for twenty pieces of silver, and why did you distress your father by telling him Joseph is without doubt torn to pieces (Gen. 37:33)? Joseph did you no evil, but this one sinned in stealing the goblet. Go tell your father: The rope has followed after the bucket.”

(6) When Judah heard this he cried out bitterly in a loud voice: How shall I go up to my father, if the lad be not with me? Lest I look upon the evil that shall come on my father (ibid. 44:34). Whereupon Joseph said: “Come, let us consider the matter between us. Tell me what you think and present your arguments.”

(7) Judah said forthwith to Naphtali: “Go and count the number of central markets in Egypt.” He hurried away, and on his return informed Judah that there were twelve markets in Egypt. Judah told his brothers: “I will destroy three of them, and each of you will destroy another. Do not permit a single soul to survive.” His brothers retorted: “Judah, Egypt is not Shechem...If you were able to devastate Egypt, you would destroy the entire world by doing that.” From that moment on Joseph was no longer able to restrain himself.

(8) R. Samuel the son of Nahman remarked: Then Joseph placed himself in an extremely precarious position, for if his brothers had killed him, not a single person would have been aware of it. Why did he say: Cause every man to go out from me (Gen. 45:1)? Joseph had said to himself: “I would rather die than shame my brothers before the Egyptians.”

(9) Judah railed at Joseph: “You know that from the very beginning you brought false charges against us. First you said to us: You are spies. Then you charged: You have come to see the nakedness of the city. And finally you declared: “You have stolen my cup. I swear by the life of my righteous father, and you may swear by the life of the wicked Pharaoh, that if I should draw my sword from its sheath, I will fill Egypt with corpses.” “Draw your sword from its sheath,” Joseph retorted, “and I will wrap it around your neck.” Judah replied: “If I but open my mouth I will consume you.” And “If you open your mouth, I will stuff it with a stone,” retorted Joseph. Then Judah asked Joseph: “What shall we tell our father?” “Tell your father, Joseph told him, “that the rope has followed the bucket.”

(10) Judah said to him: “You have judged falsely.” And Joseph replied: “Did you not judge your brother falsely when you sold him?” Judah answered: “The fire of Shechem burns in my heart.” And Joseph said: “I will extinguish the fire that burns within you for your daughter-in-law Tamar.” I am consumed by anger, and no one believes me,” cried Judah. And Joseph retorted: “I will break your anger.” “I shall go out,” said Judah, “and dye the marketplaces of Egypt in blood.” “All your life,” replied Joseph, “you have been dying things in blood, even as you and your brothers dyed your brother’s coat of many colors in blood and then told your father: Joseph is without doubt torn in pieces (ibid. 37:33).”

(11) When Joseph realized that they had agreed to destroy Egypt, he said to himself: “It is better to make myself known to them than to risk the destruction of Egypt.” And he said to them: “You said, did you not, that this one’s brother is dead? The fact is that I have purchased him. I will summon him and he will come to you.” He began to call out: “Joseph son of Jacob, come to me, Joseph son of Jacob, come to me, and speak to your brothers who sold you.” They stared into every corner of the house, until Joseph said to them: “Why do you look all around you? I am your brother Joseph.” They all fainted at once, unable to reply.

(12) R. Yohanan declared: Woe unto us on judgment day, woe unto us on the day of rebuke, for if Joseph could cause them to faint by saying “I am your brother Joseph,” what will happen when the Holy One, arises to judge us, since it is written about Him: Who may abide the day of God's coming? And who shall stand when Gpd appears? (Mal. 3:2), and For no man shall see Me and live (Exod. 3:20)? If a mere human could confound his brothers, how much more so will we be confounded when the Holy One, examines us concerning our arrogance toward the commandments and our transgressions of the Torah.

(13) Then the Holy One performed a miracle by restoring their souls to them. Joseph said: “Behold, your eyes see, and the eyes of my brother Benjamin, that it is my mouth that speaketh unto you (Gen. 45:12); for I am speaking to you in Hebrew.” They would not believe him until he bared his body and showed them the sign of the covenant (i.e., his circumcision). Why was all that necessary? When he (was sold into slavery and) left them, he did not possess any signs of maturity but now he stood before them like a king, with the mark of maturity upon him (his beard).

(14) When at last they recognized him, they sought to kill him. An angel descended and scattered them to the four corners of the room. At that moment, Judah screamed so loudly that all the walls of Egypt toppled, all the animals of Egypt gave birth prematurely, and Joseph and Pharaoh tumbled from their thrones. Their teeth fell out, and the heads of the powerful men standing at Joseph’s side were reversed and remained so until their deaths, as it is said: The lion roareth, and the fierce lion howleth—and the teeth of the young lions are broken (Job 4:10). Hence Scripture says: The voice thereof was heard in Pharaoh’s house (Gen. 45:16). The voice here refers to the voice of Judah, as it is said: Hear, Lord, the voice of Judah (Deut. 33:7).

(15) When Joseph saw that they were extremely embarrassed, he said to them: Come near to me, I pray you (Gen. 45:4). As each one of them approached, he kissed him and wept with him, as is said: And he kissed all his brethren, and wept upon them (ibid., v. 15). Just as Joseph comforted his brothers while they were weeping, so the Holy One, blessed be He, will redeem Israel while she weeps, as it is said: They shall come with weeping, and with supplications will I lead them; I will cause them to walk by rivers of waters, in a straight way wherein they shall not stumble (Jer. 31:9).