Imagining and Reimagining: Two Perspectives on the Relationship of Ruth and Naomi

(1) In the days when the chieftains ruled, there was a famine in the land; and a man of Bethlehem in Judah, with his wife and two sons, went to reside in the country of Moab.

(2) The man’s name was Elimelech, his wife’s name was Naomi, and his two sons were named Mahlon and Chilion—Ephrathites of Bethlehem in Judah. They came to the country of Moab and remained there.

(3) Elimelech, Naomi’s husband, died; and she was left with her two sons.

(4) They married Moabite women, one named Orpah and the other Ruth, and they lived there about ten years.

(5) Then those two—Mahlon and Chilion—also died; so the woman was left without her two sons and without her husband.

(6) She started out with her daughters-in-law to return from the country of Moab; for in the country of Moab she had heard that the LORD had taken note of His people and given them food.

(7) Accompanied by her two daughters-in-law, she left the place where she had been living; and they set out on the road back to the land of Judah.

(8) But Naomi said to her two daughters-in-law, “Turn back, each of you to her mother’s house. May the LORD deal kindly with you, as you have dealt with the dead and with me!

(9) May the LORD grant that each of you find security in the house of a husband!” And she kissed them farewell. They broke into weeping

(10) and said to her, “No, we will return with you to your people.”

(11) But Naomi replied, “Turn back, my daughters! Why should you go with me? Have I any more sons in my body who might be husbands for you?

(12) Turn back, my daughters, for I am too old to be married. Even if I thought there was hope for me, even if I were married tonight and I also bore sons,

(13) should you wait for them to grow up? Should you on their account debar yourselves from marriage? Oh no, my daughters! My lot is far more bitter than yours, for the hand of the LORD has struck out against me.”

(14) They broke into weeping again, and Orpah kissed her mother-in-law farewell. But Ruth clung to her.

(15) So she said, “See, your sister-in-law has returned to her people and her gods. Go follow your sister-in-law.”

(16) But Ruth replied, “Do not urge me to leave you, to turn back and not follow you. For wherever you go, I will go; wherever you lodge, I will lodge; your people shall be my people, and your God my God.

(17) Where you die, I will die, and there I will be buried. Thus and more may the LORD do to me^-b if anything but death parts me from you.”

(18) When [Naomi] saw how determined she was to go with her, she ceased to argue with her;

(19) and the two went on until they reached Bethlehem.

The baraita continues: And they inform him of the sin of neglecting the mitzva to allow the poor to take gleanings, forgotten sheaves, and produce in the corner of one’s field. And they do not overwhelm him with threats, and they are not exacting with him about the details of the mitzvot, i.e., the court should not overly dissuade the convert from converting.

Rabbi Elazar said: What is the verse from which this ruling is derived? As it is written: “And when she saw that she was steadfastly minded to go with her, she left off speaking with her” (Ruth 1:18). When Naomi set out to return to Eretz Yisrael, Ruth insisted on joining her. The Gemara understands this to mean that Ruth wished to convert. Naomi attempted to dissuade her, but Ruth persisted. The verse states that once Naomi saw Ruth’s resolve to convert, she desisted from her attempts to dissuade her. The Gemara infers from here that the same approach should be taken by a court in all cases of conversion. The Gemara reconstructs the original dialogue in which Naomi attempted to dissuade Ruth from converting: Naomi said to her: On Shabbat, it is prohibited for us to go beyond the Shabbat limit. Ruth responded: “Where you go, I shall go” (Ruth 1:16), and no further. Naomi said to her: It is forbidden for us to be alone together with a man with whom it is forbidden to engage in relations. Ruth responded: “Where you lodge, I shall lodge” (Ruth 1:16), and in the same manner. Naomi said to her: We are commanded to observe six hundred and thirteen mitzvot. Ruth responded: “Your people are my people” (Ruth 1:16). Naomi said to her: Idolatrous worship is forbidden to us. Ruth responded: “Your God is my God” (Ruth 1:16). Naomi said to her: Four types of capital punishment were handed over to a court with which to punish those who transgress the mitzvot. Ruth responded: “Where you die, I shall die” (Ruth 1:17). Naomi said to her: Two burial grounds were handed over to the court, one for those executed for more severe crimes and another for those executed for less severe crimes. Ruth responded: “And there I shall be buried” (Ruth 1:17). Immediately following this dialogue, the verse states: “And when she saw that she was steadfastly minded she left off speaking with her” (Ruth 1:18). Once Naomi saw Ruth’s resolve to convert, she desisted from her attempts to dissuade her.

(11) “She and her daughters-in-law arose, and she returned from the fields of Moav; as she had heard in the fields of Moav that the Lord had remembered His people to give them bread” (Ruth 1:6).
“She and her daughters-in-law arose, and she returned from the fields of Moav; as she had heard in the fields of Moav.” She heard from the peddlers who were circulating in the towns. What did she hear? “That the Lord had remembered His people to give them bread.” One verse says: “For the Lord will not forsake His people, and will not abandon His inheritance” (Psalms 94:14), and one verse says: “For the Lord will not forsake His people for the sake of His great name” (I Samuel 12:22). Rabbi Shmuel bar Naḥmani said: At times, He does so for the sake of His people and His inheritance, and at times He does so for the sake of His great name. Rabbi Aivu said: When Israel merit it, it is for the sake of His people and His inheritance; when Israel does not merit it, it is for the sake of His great name. The Rabbis say: In the Land of Israel, it is for the sake of His people and His inheritance; outside the Land of Israel, it is for the sake of His great name, as it is stated: “For My sake, for My sake, I will do” (Isaiah 48:11).

(12) “She departed from the place where she had been, and her two daughters-in-law with her; they went on the way to return to the land of Judah” (Ruth 1:7).
“She departed from the place where she had been.” “She departed” – was it she alone who departed from there? Did not several camel drivers depart, several donkey drivers depart, and you say “she departed”? Rabbi Azarya in the name of Rabbi Yehuda ben Rabbi Simon [said]: The most prominent person in the city, he is its radiance, he is its splendor, he is its glory, and he is its praise. When he vacates it, its radiance vacates, its splendor vacates, its glory vacates, and its praise vacates. So you find with Jacob our patriarch when he departed from Beersheba. Was it he alone who departed from there? Did not several camel drivers depart, several donkey drivers depart, and [yet] you say “he departed”? When the righteous one is in the city, he is its radiance, he is its splendor, he is its glory, and he is its praise. When he departs from there, its radiance vacates, its splendor vacates, its glory vacates, and its praise vacates. There, it works out well, because it was only that righteous woman who was there; however, here, wasn’t Isaac [still] there [in Beersheba]? Rabbi Azarya said in the name of Rabbi Azarya ben Rabbi Simon: The merit of one righteous person is not comparable to the merit of two righteous people.
“They went on the way to return to the land of Judah.” Rabbi Yehuda said that Rabbi Yoḥanan said: They transgressed the letter of the law and they went on the festival. Alternatively, “they went on the way” – the way caused them distress, they went barefoot. “They went [on the way],” – they were engaged in the laws of converts.

(13) “Naomi said to her two daughters-in-law: Go, return each woman to her mother's house; may the Lord perform kindness with you, as you performed with the dead, and with me” (Ruth 1:8).
“Naomi said to her two daughters-in-law: Go, return each woman to her mother's house [beit immah]” – to the house of her nation [beit ummatah]. The mother of Avnimos the weaver died, and Rabbi Meir ascended to pay his respects and found them sitting in mourning. Later, his father died, and Rabbi Meir ascended to pay his respects and found them engaged in their labor. He said to him: ‘It appears to me that your mother was dearer to you than your father.’ He said to him: ‘But is it not written so: “Each…to her mother’s house”? He said to him: ‘Well said, as there is no paternity among gentiles.’

(14) “May the Lord perform [ya’as] kindness with you” – Rabbi Ḥanina bar Ada said: It is written “ya’aseh.” “As you performed with the dead” – that you tended to their shrouds; “and with me” – that you relinquished your marriage contracts. Rabbi Ze’eira said: This scroll does not contain [the laws of] purity or impurity, and not prohibitions or allowances. Why was it written? It is to teach you the extent of the good reward for those who perform kindness.

(15) “May the Lord grant you that you find rest, each woman in the house of her husband. She kissed them; and they raised their voices, and wept” (Ruth 1:9).
“May the Lord grant [yitten] you” – Rabbi Yosei said: All the goodness and consolations that the Holy One blessed be He was destined to grant to Solomon, as it is written: “God granted [vayitten] wisdom to Solomon” (I Kings 5:9), will be from you. “And find rest [umtzena]” – umtzena is written, one will find [rest], two will not find. “Each woman in the house of her husband” – from here [it may be derived] that there is satisfaction for a woman only in her husband’s house.
“Naomi said: Return my daughters; why would you go with me? Do I have more sons in my womb that would be husbands for you?” (Ruth 1:11).
“They raised their voices, and wept, and they said to her…Naomi said: Return my daughters, why would you go with me? Do I have more sons in my womb that would be husbands for you?” (Ruth 1:9–11). Does a person perform levirate marriage with the wife of his brother with whom he did not coexist?

(16) “Turn back, my daughters, go, as I am too old to be with a husband. If I were to say: I have hope, even were I to be with a husband tonight, and also were I to bear sons” (Ruth 1:12).
“Turn back, my daughters, go” – Rabbi Shmuel bat Naḥmani said in the name of Rabbi Yudan bar Rabbi Ḥanina: In three places it is written here: “Turn back” (Ruth 1:8), “Turn back” (Ruth 1:11), “Turn back” (Ruth 1:12), corresponding to the three times that one rejects a convert. If he insists beyond that, one accepts him. Rabbi Yitzḥak said: “A stranger shall not stay the night outside” (Job 31:32). A person shall always reject with the left and accept with the right. “As I am too old to be with a husband […were I to be with a husband tonight]” – Rabbi Yoḥanan said: The Torah teaches you proper conduct, that one engages in marital relations at night and not by day. That is what is written: “In the evening she would come and in the morning she would return” (Esther 2:14), and it is written: “Were I to be with a husband tonight.”

(17) “Would you wait for them until they grow? Would you constrain yourselves for them, not to be with a husband? No, my daughters, for I am greatly embittered for you; as the hand of the Lord has emerged against me” (Ruth 1:13).
“Were I to be,” had I already borne sons, or were I to be with a man tonight and would bear sons, “would you wait,” would you sit idly “until they grow”? “Would you constrain yourselves?” Could you sit in forced solitude, “not to be with a husband”? “No [al], my daughters,” woe [alelai] my daughters, “for I am greatly embittered for you,” for your sakes. “As the hand of the Lord has emerged against me,” and my sons and my husband.

(18) Rabbi Ḥanina son of Rabbi Abbahu interpreted the verse as referring to Moses. Moses said before the Holy One blessed be He: Master of the universe, I lauded you with the word hen, as it is stated: “Behold [hen], to the Lord are the heavens and the heaven of heavens” (Deuteronomy (10:14), and I believed that You would accord me greatness. “Would you constrain yourselves for them [halahen te’agena],” instead, You caused the angel of death to touch me [hogatani], You forsook my hen, and You said to me: “Behold [hen], your days approach that you must die” (Deuteronomy 31:14). Then he [Moses] said to Israel: “No [al], my daughters,” woe [alelai] my children, “for I am greatly embittered for you,” because of you, “as the hand of God has emerged against me” and my brother [Aaron].

(19) Rabbi Levi said: Any place where [the phrase] “the hand of God” is stated, it is the plague of pestilence. The paradigm of them all is: “Behold, the hand of the Lord is [upon your cattle… a very severe pestilence]” (Exodus 9:3). Bar Kappara said: They demanded with the hand, and the hand harmed them. Rabbi Simon said: Among those who departed [the land of Israel] there was a plague; among those who remained there was no plague. The students of Rabbi Neḥemya cite it from there: This is what is written: “Wherever they departed, the hand of the Lord was against them for evil” (Judges 2:15) – among those who departed there was a plague; among those who remained there was no plague. Rabbi Reuven said: Their children, too, were suffering in their wake, and saying: ‘When will they die so we can enter the Land?’

(20) “They raised their voices, and wept again. Orpa kissed her mother-in-law, but Ruth cleaved to her” (Ruth 1:14).
“They raised [vatisena] their voices, and wept.” [The word vatisena appears in this verse] without an alef [indicating that] their strength was weakened, as they were walking and weeping. Rabbi Berekhya in the name of Rabbi Yitzḥak: Orpa walked forty paces with her mother-in-law [before leaving], and [therefore] her descendant’s [sentence] was in abeyance for forty days, as it is stated: “The Philistine approached morning and evening [and stood for forty days]” (I Samuel 17:16). Rabbi Yudan in the name of Rabbi Yitzḥak: Orpa walked four mil with her mother-in-law, and four mighty men came from her, as it is stated: “These four were born to the giant [harafa]” (II Samuel 21:22). Rabbi Yitzḥak said: Throughout that night that Orpa took her leave from her mother-in-law, the nakedness of one hundred gentiles was intermingled with her; that is what is written: “He spoke with them…from the ranks [mima’arkhot] of the Philistines” (I Samuel 17:23) – mime’arot is written; from one hundred foreskins [me’a orlot] of gentiles that were inserted into her throughout the night. Rabbi Tanḥuma said: One dog, too, as it is written: “The Philistine said to David: Am I a dog?” (I Samuel 17:43).

(21) “Orpa kissed her mother-in-law.” All kisses are of licentiousness, except for three: A kiss of greatness, a kiss of absence, and a kiss of parting. A kiss of greatness, as it is written: “Samuel took a flask of oil, and poured it on his head, and kissed him” (I Samuel 10:1). Of absence, as it is written: “He met him at the mountain of God at Ḥorev [and he kissed him]” (Exodus 4:27). Of parting, as it is stated: “Orpa kissed her mother-in-law.” Rabbi Tanḥuma said: Even a kiss of closeness, as it is stated: “Jacob kissed Rachel” (Genesis 29:11). Why? It is because she was his relative.
“She said: Behold, your sister-in-law has returned to her people, and to her god; return after your sister-in-law” (Ruth 1:15).
“She said: Behold, your sister-in-law has returned [to her people, and to her god]…” – once she returned to her people she returned to her god.

(22) “Ruth said: Do not entreat me to leave you, to return from following you, as where you go, I will go, and where you lodge, I will lodge; your people is my people, and your God is my God” (Ruth 1:16).
“Ruth said: Do not entreat me to leave you, to return from following you.” What is “do not entreat me”? She said to her: ‘Do not sin to me, do not impose your reservations upon me.’ “To leave you, to return from following you” – in any case, my intention is to convert. It is preferable through you, and not through another. When Naomi heard this, she began arranging the laws of converts for her. She said to her: ‘My daughter, it is not the way of Israelite women to go to theaters and circuses of the gentiles.’ [Ruth] said to her: “Where you go, I will go.” [Naomi] said to her: ‘My daughter, it is not the way of Israel to reside in a house where there is no mezuza.’ [Ruth] said to her: “And where you lodge, I will lodge.” “Your people is my people” – these are punishments and prohibitions.” “Your God is my God” – [these are] the rest of the mitzvot.