And turn it into joy with a good word.
Rabbi Saks Morality pg 39- The obvious thing. Self, surley, is where it begins, not where it ends. It's the problem not the solution.... Help, I have found time and time again, comes not from the self, but from others
Rabbi Saks Morality pg 43- The same is true about the best leaders in many fields. There is usually someone empowered to whisper in their ear and say No.... A leader's strength are his or her own, but it takes someone else to protect them from their weakness. Self-help is often no help at all.
Rabbi Saks Morality pg 44- to give his fellow prisoners the strength to survive, Frankl needed to take them outside themselves
What do you really want by Shayna Goldberg- pg 62
I can appreciate that there were two fears that stopped me from pursuing therapy. The first was related to my self perception: "I am strong.... Why can't I just get over this by myself? Why am I turning it into a bigger deal than it has to be?" The other fear was that it would have to be a wasted investement.... After much procrastination, I overcame these fears and got the help that was necessary to process what had happened and move on
Rabbi Saks Morality pg 48- Morality is precisely un-self-help... sometimes experiencing the miracle that just as you are about to give up and go under for the last time, a hand reaches out and pulls you to saftey and they rest of your life becomes a gift for which you thank God every day.
(א) חמשה כחות כלליים שצריכים להיות מושגחים שיהיו שלמים בחיי הכלל והפרט, ואז ימצא בהם הכח המתאים להרחקת כל פגע ולהפרחת החיים בדרך נכונה. הא׳ בריאות הגוף והנפש בתור בעל חיים שלם ועלז בחיים....
(1) There are five general forces that need to be tended to so that they should be whole in the life of the collective and the individual. Then, appropriate force will be found in them to keep all damage at a distance to enhance life in the appropriate way. The first is physical and mental health leading to a full and joyous embracing of life...
(ה) ולדעת המקילים, גם כשאין חשש שמחלת הנפש תוביל להתאבדות, אם ההיריון יגרום לסבל נפשי גדול מאוד, מותר להפיל. למעשה, בכל שאלה מסוג זה, צריך לשאול תחילה פסיכיאטר ירא שמיים, ועל פי הערכתו לפנות לשאלת חכם.
(5) According to the more permissive approach, abortion can be allowed if the pregnancy would cause tremendous emotional anguish, even if there is no concern that it will lead to suicide. In practice, every question of this sort requires a couple first to consult with a God-fearing mental health professional and then to ask a wise person based on the assessment obtained.
(ד) לעיתים ההיריון עלול לגרום לאשה לחלות במחלת נפש. במקרה כזה הורו כמה פוסקים, שגם לשיטת המחמירים מותר להפיל, כי מחלת נפש בכלל סכנת נפשות, כי היא עלולה לגרום לה לאבד את עצמה (לבושי מרדכי חו"מ לט; רשז"א). בדור האחרון פותחו תרופות טובות לחלק ממחלות הנפש, וכאשר יש חוות דעת של פסיכיאטר לפיה ישנן תרופות שיכולות למנוע את הסכנה, אין היתר (נשמת אברהם חו"מ תכה, 12).
(4) Sometimes pregnancy can jeopardize the mother’s mental health. In such a case, some poskim rule that even those who adopt the restrictive approach would permit abortion, since mental illness can be life-threatening and cause one to become suicidal (Levushei Mordechai, ḤM §39; R. Shlomo Zalman Auerbach). Recently, effective medications have been developed to treat many psychiatric disorders. Therefore, if a psychiatrist says that the mother can be medicated so that she will not become suicidal, she may not abort (Nishmat Avraham, ḤM 425, n. 12).
HaRav Asher Weiss, Responsa Minchat Asher 134 (Certain excerpts)
A student who is devout and G-d fearing suffers from Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and for the most part is unable to say a bracha or shema according to halacha, and sometimes spends a lot of time trying to say G-d's name properly to no avail, and experiences a lot of anguish. According to the doctors who are experts in this [condition] the treatment is to never go back in prayer, and if he does not feel he said the prayer properly, he should not make another try [Exposure and Response Prevention Therapy (ExRP), a form of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)]. In this way, the doctors hope to save him from his distress.