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(כא) וַיִּגְוַ֞ע כָּל־בָּשָׂ֣ר ׀ הָרֹמֵ֣שׂ עַל־הָאָ֗רֶץ בָּע֤וֹף וּבַבְּהֵמָה֙ וּבַ֣חַיָּ֔ה וּבְכָל־הַשֶּׁ֖רֶץ הַשֹּׁרֵ֣ץ עַל־הָאָ֑רֶץ וְכֹ֖ל הָאָדָֽם׃ (כב) כֹּ֡ל אֲשֶׁר֩ נִשְׁמַת־ר֨וּחַ חַיִּ֜ים בְּאַפָּ֗יו מִכֹּ֛ל אֲשֶׁ֥ר בֶּחָֽרָבָ֖ה מֵֽתוּ׃

(21) And all flesh that stirred on earth perished—birds, cattle, beasts, and all the things that swarmed upon the earth, and all mankind. (22) All in whose nostrils was the merest breath of life, all that was on dry land, died.

(כב) וְכִֽי־יִנָּצ֣וּ אֲנָשִׁ֗ים וְנָ֨גְפ֜וּ אִשָּׁ֤ה הָרָה֙ וְיָצְא֣וּ יְלָדֶ֔יהָ וְלֹ֥א יִהְיֶ֖ה אָס֑וֹן עָנ֣וֹשׁ יֵעָנֵ֗שׁ כַּֽאֲשֶׁ֨ר יָשִׁ֤ית עָלָיו֙ בַּ֣עַל הָֽאִשָּׁ֔ה וְנָתַ֖ן בִּפְלִלִֽים׃ (כג) וְאִם־אָס֖וֹן יִהְיֶ֑ה וְנָתַתָּ֥ה נֶ֖פֶשׁ תַּ֥חַת נָֽפֶשׁ׃

(22) When men fight, and one of them pushes a pregnant woman and a miscarriage results, but no other damage ensues, the one responsible shall be fined according as the woman’s husband may exact from him, the payment to be based on reckoning. (23) But if other damage ensues, the penalty shall be life for life

(ג) תִּינוֹקֶת בַּת יוֹם אֶחָד, . . . וְהַהוֹרְגוֹ, חַיָּב. וַהֲרֵי הוּא לְאָבִיו וּלְאִמּוֹ וּלְכָל קְרוֹבָיו כְּחָתָן שָׁלֵם:

(3) A baby one day old ... one who kills him is liable [for murder]; and he is thereby fully like a son-in-law to his father and to his mother and for all his relatives.

(ו) הָאִשָּׁה שֶׁהִיא מַקְשָׁה לֵילֵד, מְחַתְּכִין אֶת הַוָּלָד בְּמֵעֶיהָ וּמוֹצִיאִין אוֹתוֹ אֵבָרִים אֵבָרִים, מִפְּנֵי שֶׁחַיֶּיהָ קוֹדְמִין לְחַיָּיו. יָצָא רֻבּוֹ, אֵין נוֹגְעִין בּוֹ, שֶׁאֵין דּוֹחִין נֶפֶשׁ מִפְּנֵי נָפֶשׁ:

(6) A woman who was having trouble giving birth, they cut up the fetus inside her and take it out limb by limb, because her life comes before its life. If most of it (head) had come out already they do not touch it because we do not push off one life for another.

וההורגו חייב דכתיב (ויקרא כד, יז) ואיש כי יכה כל נפש מ"מ
§ The mishna teaches: And one who kills a one-day-old baby is liable for his murder. The Gemara explains that the reason for this is as it is written: “And he who smites any man mortally shall be put to death” (Leviticus 24:17), where the phrase “any man” indicates that this verse applies in any case, even in the case of a one-day-old baby.

מתני׳ האשה שיצאה ליהרג אין ממתינין לה עד שתלד האשה שישבה על המשבר ממתינין לה עד שתלד האשה שנהרגה נהנין בשערה בהמה שנהרגה אסורה בהנאה:

MISHNA: In the case of a pregnant woman who is taken by the court to be executed, the court does not wait to execute her until she gives birth. Rather, she is killed immediately. But with regard to a woman taken to be executed who sat on the travailing chair [hamashber] in the throes of labor, the court waits to execute her until she gives birth...

וא"ל אנטונינוס לרבי נשמה מאימתי ניתנה באדם משעת פקידה או משעת יצירה א"ל משעת יצירה א"ל אפשר חתיכה של בשר עומדת שלשה ימים בלא מלח ואינה מסרחת אלא משעת פקידה אמר רבי דבר זה למדני אנטונינוס ומקרא מסייעו שנאמר (איוב י, יב) ופקודתך שמרה רוחי

not relevant to determining the law, but interesting

And Antoninos said to Rabbi Yehuda HaNasi: From when is the soul placed in a person? Is it from the moment of conception or from the moment of the formation of the embryo, forty days after conception? Rabbi Yehuda HaNasi said to him: It is from the moment of the formation of the embryo. Antoninos said to him: That is inconceivable. Is it possible that a piece of meat could stand for even three days without salt as a preservative and would not rot? The embryo could not exist for forty days without a soul. Rather, the soul is placed in man from the moment of conception. Rabbi Yehuda HaNasi said: Antoninos taught me this matter, and there is a verse that supports him, as it is stated: “And Your Providence [pekudatekha] has preserved my spirit” (Job 10:12) indicating that it is from the moment of conception [pekida] that the soul is preserved within a person.

איתיביה רב חסדא לרב הונא יצא ראשו אין נוגעין בו לפי שאין דוחין נפש מפני נפש ואמאי רודף הוא שאני התם דמשמיא קא רדפי לה

Rav Ḥisda raised an objection to Rav Huna from a baraita: If a woman was giving birth and her life was being endangered by the fetus, the life of the fetus may be sacrificed in order to save the mother. But once his head has emerged during the birthing process, he may not be harmed in order to save the mother, because one life may not be pushed aside to save another life. If one is permitted to save the pursued party by killing the minor who is pursuing him, why is this so? The fetus is a pursuer who is endangering his mother’s life. The Gemara answers: This is not difficult, as it is different there, with regard to the woman giving birth, since she is being pursued by Heaven. Since the fetus is not acting of his own volition and endangering his mother of his own will, his life may not be taken in order to save his mother.

(ו) אֶחָד הַהוֹרֵג אֶת הַגָּדוֹל אוֹ אֶת הַקָּטָן בֶּן יוֹמוֹ. בֵּין זָכָר בֵּין נְקֵבָה. הֲרֵי זֶה נֶהֱרָג עָלָיו אִם הָרַג בְּזָדוֹן. אוֹ גּוֹלֶה אִם הָרַג בִּשְׁגָגָה. וְהוּא שֶׁכָּלוּ לוֹ חֳדָשָׁיו. אֲבָל אִם נוֹלַד לְפָחוֹת מִתִּשְׁעָה חֳדָשִׁים הֲרֵי הוּא כְּנֵפֶל עַד שֶׁיִּשְׁהֶה שְׁלֹשִׁים יוֹם וְהַהוֹרְגוֹ בְּתוֹךְ שְׁלֹשִׁים יוֹם אֵינוֹ נֶהֱרָג עָלָיו:

(6) Whether a man killed an adult or an infant of one day, male or female, he must be executed if he committed deliberate murder, or exiled if he killed unwittingly. And for a child that was born premature- If it was born in less than nine months, it is not viable until it lives thirty days. If it is killed within the thirty days, it is not considered murder.

RCA 2019
The Rabbinical Council of America, the leading membership organization of orthodox rabbis in North America, strongly opposes parts of The Reproductive Health Act, New York State’s recently adopted legislation on abortion.
The New York law permits abortion when “the patient is within twenty-four weeks from the commencement of pregnancy, or there is an absence of fetal viability, or the abortion is necessary to protect the patient’s life or health.” In addition, the new law moves the section of state law dealing with abortion from the penal code to health statutes.
Jewish law opposes abortion, except in cases of danger to the mother. Most authorities consider feticide an act of murder; others deem it an act akin to the murder of potential life. There are Jewish legal scholars who permit, in extenuating circumstances, the abortion of compromised fetuses.
The RCA maintains that “abortion on demand,” even before twenty-four weeks from the commencement of pregnancy, is forbidden. There is no sanction to permit the abortion of a healthy fetus when the mother’s life is not endangered. The RCA supports that part of the law that permits abortion, even at a late stage, when the mother’s life is at risk.
Rabbi Aaron Lichtenstein, of blessed memory, a leading expert in Jewish law and mentor to many of rabbis of the RCA, wrote, “from the perspective of the fetus and those concerned with its welfare, liberality in this direction comes at the expense of humanity…” (“Abortion: A Halakhic Perspective,” Tradition, 25(4), Summer 1991).
Rabbi Elazar Muskin, president of the RCA, said, “Jewish law is based on the theological presumption that a human being does not possess total ownership of his or her body. Our bodies belong to God; we are His stewards. Therefore, decisions about abortion must be made with due consideration of theological and moral principles.”
Rabbi Daniel Korobkin, first vice president of the RCA, said, “The removal of any restriction from abortion access and the redefining of the word ‘homicide’ to exclude abortion, indicate a further erosion of the moral values of our society, where killing babies is no longer construed as immoral in any way, even when the fetus has a measure of personhood, actual or potential.”
Rabbi Mark Dratch, executive vice president of the RCA, added, “We are very concerned about the potential physical, emotional, personal, and financial implications that abortion restrictions may have on the mother, the family, and the child. We maintain that it is the duty of the family, as well as that of society, to enable those impacted to live lives of dignity and we must prioritize ways to find means of support.”

(ה) הַכּוֹתֵב לְשִׁפְחָתוֹ מְעֻבֶּרֶת הֲרֵי אַתְּ בַּת חוֹרִין וּוְלָדֵךְ עֶבֶד דְּבָרָיו קַיָּמִין. הֲרֵי אַתְּ שִׁפְחָה וּוְלָדֵךְ בֶּן חוֹרִין לֹא אָמַר וְלֹא כְּלוּם שֶׁזֶּה כְּמִי שֶׁמְּשַׁחְרֵר חֶצְיָהּ:

can't free half a person- the fetus is considered part of the mother

(5) When a master composes a bill of release for his maid-servant who is pregnant, stating "You are free, but your child-to-be remains a slave," his words are binding. If, however, it states: "You remain a maid-servant, but your child-to-be is free," it is of no consequence. For this is as if he freed half of the maid-servant using a legal document.

(א) בְּהֵמָה מְעֻבֶּרֶת שֶׁהִזִּיקָה גּוֹבֶה חֲצִי נֵזֶק מִמֶּנָּה וּמִוְּלָדָהּ מִפְּנֵי שֶׁהוּא מִגּוּפָהּ. אֲבָל תַּרְנְגלֶת שֶׁהִזִּיקָה אֵינוֹ גּוֹבֶה מִבֵּיצָתָהּ מִפְּנֵי שֶׁהַבֵּיצָה אֵינָהּ מִגּוּפָהּ אֲבָל מֻבְדֶּלֶת וּמֻפְרֶשֶׁת מִמֶּנָּה:

לְפִיכָךְ הוֹרוּ חֲכָמִים שֶׁהָעֻבָּרָה שֶׁהִיא מַקְשָׁה לֵילֵד מֻתָּר לַחְתֹּךְ הָעֵבָּר בְּמֵעֶיהָ בֵּין בְּסַם בֵּין בְּיָד מִפְּנֵי שֶׁהוּא כְּרוֹדֵף אַחֲרֶיהָ לְהָרְגָהּ. וְאִם מִשֶּׁהוֹצִיא רֹאשׁוֹ אֵין נוֹגְעִין בּוֹ שֶׁאֵין דּוֹחִין נֶפֶשׁ מִפְּנֵי נֶפֶשׁ וְזֶהוּ טִבְעוֹ שֶׁל עוֹלָם:

(9) This, indeed, is one of the negative mitzvot - not to take pity on the life of a rodef. On this basis, our Sages ruled that when complications arise and a pregnant woman cannot give birth, it is permitted to abort the fetus in her womb, whether with a knife or with drugs. For the fetus is considered a rodef of its mother. If the head of the fetus emerges, it should not be touched, because one life should not be sacrificed for another. Although the mother may die, this is the nature of the world.

(ב) לפיכך העוברת שהיא מקשה לילד מותר לחתוך העובר במעיה בין בסם בין ביד מפני שהוא כרודף אחריה להרגה ואם הוציא ראשו אין נוגעין בו שאין דוחין נפש מפני נפש וזהו טבעו של עולם:

...If the head comes out, you can't kill it

רבי מאיר הלוי אבולעפיה (ספרד, המאה הי"ג) Spain, 13th century
שנאמר: "כי ינצו אנשים ונגפו אשה הרה ויצאו ילדיה ולא יהיה אסון", כלומר באישה, "ענוש ייענש" על העוברים, "כאשר ישית עליו בעל האישה". אלמא אעוברין פטור [כלומר פטור מעונש מוות בגין הריגת עוברים], ולא מיקטלא ליה [=ואינו נהרג על הריגת עובר] עד שיהא תינוק בן יום אחד.
Until he is one day old, it is not considered murder
Radbaz (Spain 15th century)
– Regarding Kohen that causes termination (if a kohen commits murder, he can no longer be a kohen) or midwife that causes it after the woman has died in labor
It is not murder since he was not יוצא לאויר העולם (in the air of the world)

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(ו) שֹׁפֵךְ֙ דַּ֣ם הָֽאָדָ֔ם בָּֽאָדָ֖ם דָּמ֣וֹ יִשָּׁפֵ֑ךְ כִּ֚י בְּצֶ֣לֶם אֱלֹקִ֔ים עָשָׂ֖ה אֶת־הָאָדָֽם׃

(6) Whoever sheds the blood of man, By man shall his blood be shed; For in His image Did God make man.

משום רבי ישמעאל אמרו אף על העוברין מאי טעמיה דרבי ישמעאל דכתיב (בראשית ט, ו) שופך דם האדם באדם דמו ישפך איזהו אדם שהוא באדם הוי אומר זה עובר שבמעי אמו

בן נח – ליכא מידעם

It is stated in that book of Aggadot that the Sages said in the name of Rabbi Yishmael: A descendant of Noah is executed even for killing fetuses. The Gemara asks: What is the reason for the opinion of Rabbi Yishmael? The Gemara answers: It is derived from that which is written: “One who sheds the blood of a person, by a person [ba’adam] his blood shall be shed” (Genesis 9:6). The word ba’adam literally means: In a person, and is interpreted homiletically: What is a person that is in a person? You must say: This is a fetus that is in its mother’s womb. Accordingly, a descendant of Noah is liable for killing a fetus.

(ג) בַּת כֹּהֵן שֶׁבָּא עָלֶיהָ יִשְׂרָאֵל אֵין חוֹשְׁשִׁין שֶׁמָּא נִתְעַבְּרָה אֶלָּא טוֹבֶלֶת וְאוֹכֶלֶת לָעֶרֶב. הָיְתָה נְשׂוּאָה לְיִשְׂרָאֵל וּמֵת בַּעְלָהּ טוֹבֶלֶת וְאוֹכֶלֶת בִּתְרוּמָה לָעֶרֶב עַד אַרְבָּעִים יוֹם. וְאִם הֻכַּר עֻבָּרָהּ הֲרֵי זוֹ מְקֻלְקֶלֶת לְמַפְרֵעַ עַד אַרְבָּעִים יוֹם. שֶׁכָּל הָאַרְבָּעִים יוֹם אֵינוֹ עֻבָּר אֶלָּא מַיִם בָּעוֹלָם הוּא חָשׁוּב:

(3) When an Israelite has relations with a daughter of a priest, we do not suspect that she became pregnant. Instead, she may immerse herself [in the mikveh] and partake [of terumah] in the evening. If she was married to an Israelite and her husband died, she may immerse herself and partake of terumah in the evening [and continue doing so] for 40 days. If her fetus is recognized [afterwards], retroactively, her [actions] are objectionable from the fortieth day onward. For, throughout the forty days, the embryo is not considered as a fetus, merely as water.

(Pregnancy starts at 40 days- before that it is just water.)

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Secular and Jewish evolution of law
Torah – ki yinatzu anashim...
Aristotle, (Plato)– before the onset of life and sensation.
Hippocrates - I will give no deadly medicine to anyone if asked, nor suggest any such counsel; and in like manner, I will not give to a woman an abortive pessary.
Septuagint - mistranslates the verse. 22 Now if two men fight and strike a pregnant woman and her child comes forth not fully formed, he shall be punished with a fine. According as the husband of the woman might impose, he shall pay with judicial assessment. 23 But if it is fully formed, he shall pay life for life.
Legal summary: http://www.religioustolerance.org/abortion3.htm
Why would abortion be forbidden?
Tosafot – how could we be less religious than the non-Jews?
Feinstein / Lichtenstein – Murder-ish
Some sort of rabbinic or biblical violation
Hatzi Shiur?
Seridei Eshאיסור המתת עובר הוא מטעם אחר ועדיין אין אנו יודעים טעם לאיסור זה
Bal Tashchit
חוות יאיר – זרע לבטלה wasting potential life
Rabbi Uziel – preventing life – reducing the image of God
injurious
Dangerous to mom so can only be done for her health
Saving a life
Zohar (Exodus 3:2) - destroying God’s building of the world
Rabbi Dr. Aharon Lichtenstein - strongly against abortion
Mishna ohalot says we can abort to save mother’s life. The presumption is only for that purpose. However, he is missing that there was no other reason then. And that this Mishna is referring to the end that even to save her life it’s not allowed.
He also says if a non-Jew can’t then we can’t. but that is not halacha
He concludes with an attack on liberal values
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Modern applications in our generation:
Reasons to Abort
Life threatening to mother, including need to take chemo
Non-medical – financial comfort, career, not ready yet
Medical for the mother
Medical for the fetus
Future of the fetus
(Tchumin 25:64 Tzuriel)
Stages of pregnancy and termination
Need some sort of cut off for stages of beginning of life and end of life.
Conception
40 days – Bechorot 47b – just water – child after is still bechor
3 months – pregnancy is noticeable to the public. No embryological or halachic change in this stage
6 months (Lichtenstein)
7 months (Waldenberg)
Start of labor
Emergence of head / majority
Method of termination
Rabbi StavTchumin 29:352
Better with pill than mechanical
Better Jew than non-Jew
Better woman than man doctor (men should not waste seed- women do not have this obligation)
Cases:
Ben-Zion Meir Hai Uziel (Chief rabbi of Israel 1939-1953)
Case of women who may lose hearing – permitted termination
Even allowed in case of just preventing her disgrace at death penalty
Abortion is allowed in any case that there is a reason - even a weak reason
שלא התירו להרוג העוברים אלא כשיש צורך בדבר ואפילו אם הוא צורך קלוש כגון דמנוולה האם אבל שלא לצורך ודאי שאסור משום השחתה ומניעת אפשרות החיים לנפש בישראל
Tay Sachs
Rabbi Eliezer WaldenbergTzitz Eliezer (Jerusalem 1915-2006)
Heated debate with Rabbi Feinstein in 1975
The only issue is השחתת זרע
Only applies to men
Better a woman than man doctor to perform the procedure
Even for severe pain in the mother without medical need but for comfort
Adultery – even if not a mamzer. To protect woman’s dignity
Better to take a pill than a procedure
Little if any difference before or after 3 months of pregnancy
Quotes Ben Ish Hai (Rav Pealim) that allowed termination in specific case after 5th month
Says for sure up to 7 months is ok and maybe even until birth
ואם כן הגע עצמך האם טש צורך צער וכאב יותר גדול מזה של נידוננו אשר יגרם לאם בהוולד לה יצור רואות וכלות בלי שיש לאל להושיע ומתווסף לזה פיתולי היסורים והמכאובים של הייליד בעצמו. - Is there any worse pain than this (a baby born with birth defects)? If you can prevent this from before it becomes a life you should.
Abortion when baby may have cosmetic birth defect
Shaul Yisraeli (Minsk-Israel 1909-1995)
Woman took medications during pregnancy that might result in birth defects in baby
Majority rules. Even if won’t for sure have defect.
Abortion is a problem due to חובל או בל תשחית
Therefore if done for any medical purpose is permitted. Fetus is not a נפש
This includes emotional distress of the potential child or of the parents and family
שיראו פרי בטנם מתייסר ביסורים וחייו אינם חיים דלא גרע מהא דעינוי דין וניוול האם שלאחר מיתה שגם מטעם זה הותרה הריגת העובר. וכאן עדיפא מהתם ששם אין הוא הגורם לניוול אלא היא עצמה במה שנתחייבה מיתה הביאה אליה כל הרעה הזאת. מה שעין כן כאן הרי כל הצער שלהם היא על ידו ...א’כ ודאי שהוא מותר.
תוס׳ – )שבת נ:ב) ואם אין לו צער אחר אלא שמתבייש לילך בין בני אדם שרי דאין לך צער גדול מזה
Rubella in Pregnancy
Rabbi Yechiel Weinberg (Poland 1900)– Seridei Esh
may cause blindness, deafness or cognitive impairment in child
Fetus is not a nefesh – rather monetary value of the father
He agrees with Rabbi Yaakov Emden that abortion is permitted in cases of צער או חולי 9 (pain or sickness)
Mamzer (child of adultery)
Havot Yair (1600s Mintz)– finds difficulty in proving why it is forbidden to terminate if not to save life of mother, so concludes that it is not allowed as we need to use this a deterrent to promiscuity.
In death row case only allowed because it is ”Gufa” baby will die anyway
Rabbi Uziel shows that he misunderstood that phrase. Rather Gufa indicates that since it is her body, it can be terminated in order to help her in any way.
Emden similar
Ben Ish Hai (1800s Iraq) – It should be allowed. But did not give a final ruling
Rape, incest, adultery
Rabbi Ovadia Yosef Iraq 1920-Israel 2013
Yabia Omer E”H 4:1
Until 3 months is allowed in case of significant need
Israeli Law
Prior to 1977 abortion was illegal. Rules were based on British Law.
1978 – legal with committee approval and limited circumstances (unmarried, <18 (2013 17), >40, rape, incest, birth defects, health of mother
1980 – social and economic distress were removed. Forces women to lie about the reason.
2003 -19,500 legal abortions performed and 200 denied.
unmarried (42%), because of illegal circumstances (11%), health risks to the woman (about 20%), age of the woman (11%), and fetal birth defects 17%.
Abortion in a private clinic is illegal. 2012 – half were done illegally without committee approval in private clinic.
2011 – 40,000 abortions. Half done privately (illegally)
2014 – approval was expanded to almost all women seeking abortion.
Efrat and other organizations try to prevent abortions
Summary
Torah, Mishna, Gemara, Rashi and Rambam all write that until birth it is part of the mother and can be terminated if needed.
Tosafot - unclear if they see it is as forbidden due to it being forbidden to non-Jews
Maharit, Ben Ish Chai, Emden, (Chavot Yair)
Uziel, Weinberg, Waldenberg, and others have practically allowed
Rabbi Feinstein / Lichtenstein take most restrictive view
Today:
Agudath Israel
STATEMENT OF AGUDATH ISRAEL OF AMERICA ON THE NY REPRODUCTIVE HEALTH ACT
In a move designed to maintain and even exceed the sanctioning of abortion in the event the U.S. Supreme Court should overturn its longstanding Roe v. Wade decision, New York Governor Andrew Cuomo has signed the Reproductive Health Act (RHA) into law.
The law removes the need for a doctor to perform some abortions, moves abortion from the criminal code into the realm of public health issues and allows abortions up to birth where a doctor or midwife deems the fetus not viable, or its mother’s health threatened in some way.
Agudath Israel is long on record in opposing Roe v. Wade. We decry this even more life-unfriendly legislation.
In line with its support for religious freedom, Agudath Israel opposes initiatives that would make abortion unlawful even in situations where termination of pregnancy is mandated by religious law – as it is, for example, under Jewish law when the pregnancy endangers the life of the mother. However, it is not necessary to make all abortions permissible in order to protect the rare instance when abortion is truly indicated.
Jewish tradition teaches that a human fetus has status and dignity, and that abortion is prohibited in the vast majority of pregnancies. But even beyond that tradition, it should be apparent to all that termination of pregnancy raises profound moral concerns. Sadly, New York’s new law pays no heed to those concerns.
RCA 1990
The Rabbinical Council of America in Convention assembled
Takes note of the different values of the many religious communities in America that are often at variance with one another,
in the nature of a politically pluralistic society;
Is aware that the question of abortion is currently in the forefront of moral concerns in American society;
Proclaims that neither the position of “pro-life” nor the position of “pro-choice” is acceptable to Halacha;
Precludes the endorsement of legislative measures which would impede the appropriate application of Halacha;
Calls upon the total Jewish community to acknowledge that abortion is not an option, except in extreme circumstances and in consultation with proper
Halachik authority.