ORDER | SEDER | סדר

PHRASE/SLOGAN
Organize and structure your space, time, and person
Regulate your soul around daily, weekly, monthly, and yearly cycles
Set in place deep patterns or habits for the good
Cultivate consistency
Regulate yourself with a balanced schedule
Be the program director of your life
Create a personal daily "siddur" or guidebook for living
Plan ahead to make the most of your lifetime
Do first what you dread most
Rise above personal habits of narrow self-interest to serve others and God
Pay attention to detail in your external and internal environments, including your house, community, body, and mind
Prepare so you can be available in the moment for others
Baal tashchit, do not destroy or waste time, space, energy, or things
Find conceptual order through myth, philosophy, theology, psychology, cosmology
Hakol b'seder, everything is in order
SOUL TRAIT (MIDDAH) SPECTRUM

ETYMOLOGY
- to arrange, put in order
- succession, sequence
- root - סדר
- row, battle line
- place one after the other
- prepare for battle
- set up type (in printing)
- settled down
- regulated
- Siddur, prayer book
- Hakol b’seder, “Everything is in order” or "all is contained in the middah of seder"
- Seder, for Passover, contained in Hagaddah
- remembrance, bitter suffering, affliction, liberation from suffering, freedom, rebirth
- Seder, name of each section of Mishnah
- Sidrah, weekly Torah portion
MUSSAR
Order helps create an inner sense that the things that matter have been properly arranged and tended to and, as a result, that the details of life are under control. Calm and unworried, at that point the channels to the divine will are as open and unencumbered as they can get, and the possibility of serving—and happiness—will have become real for you. (Chp. 11: Order)
הוּא הָיָה אוֹמֵר, עֲשֵׂה רְצוֹנוֹ כִרְצוֹנְךָ, כְּדֵי שֶׁיַּעֲשֶׂה רְצוֹנְךָ כִרְצוֹנוֹ. בַּטֵּל רְצוֹנְךָ מִפְּנֵי רְצוֹנוֹ, כְּדֵי שֶׁיְּבַטֵּל רְצוֹן אֲחֵרִים מִפְּנֵי רְצוֹנֶךָ.
He used to say: do His will as though it were your will, so that He will do your will as though it were His. Set aside your will in the face of His will, so that he may set aside the will of others for the sake of your will.
In the Yeshiva of Kelm, the middah of seder was not seen as simply an external matter, but rather a vital aspect of our personality and a mirror to our innermost self. If something is out of order in our external life, it is a sign that something is wrong within our inner world. If things are messy, then our mind will be confused as well. The Alter of Kelm summed up his primary educational focus by saying, "External order brings us to think clearly and act with restraint." (B'midbar: Seder—Order: The Measure and Ideal of Middot)
First a person should put his house together, then his town, then the world. (Week 32, Day 1)
First things first and last things later. (Chp. 13: Order)
Order in balance relies on routines to create structure without conscious thought, which in turn saves stress and time. (Chp. 13: Order)
The phenomenal world that all human beings experience is fickle and flexible and also merciless. You often wonder whether you can ride on that fickle and merciless situation or whether it is going to ride on you. To use an analogy, either you are riding on a donkey or the donkey is riding on you. Ordinarily, in your experience of the world it is questionable who is riding on whom. The more you struggle to gain the upper hand, the more speed and aggression you manufacture to overcome your obstacles, the more you become subject to the phenomenal world. The real challenge is to transcend that duality altogether. It is possible to contact energy that is beyond dualism, beyond aggression--energy that is neither for you nor against you. That is the energy of drala. (p. 86)
The first is invoking external drala, which is invoking magic in your physical environment. . . . How you organize and care for that space is very important. If it is chaotic and messy, then no drala will enter into that environment. On the other hand, we are not talking about taking a course in interior decoration and spending a great deal of money on furniture and rugs to create a "model environment." . . . invoking external drala is creating harmony in your environment in order to encourage awareness and attention to detail. . . . Beyond that, how you organize your physical space should be based on concern for others, sharing your world by creating an accommodating environment. The point is not to make a self-conscious statement about yourself, but to make your world available to others. When that begins to happen, then it is possible that something else will come along as well. That is, when you express gentleness and precision in your environment, then real brilliance and power can descend onto that situation. . . . That is real magic. The attitude of sacredness toward your environment . . . You may live in a dirt hut . . . but if you regard that space as sacred, if you care for it with your heart and mind, then it will be a palace. . . . In summary, invoking the external drala principle is connected with organizing your environment so that it becomes a sacred space.
Then, there is invoking internal drala, which is how to invoke drala in your body. . . . You invoke internal drala through your relationship to your personal habits, how you handle the details of dressing, eating, drinking, sleeping. We could use clothing as an example. . . . Sometimes if your clothes fit you well, you feel that they are too tight. If you dress up, you may feel constricted by wearing a necktie or a suit or a tight-fitting skirt or dress. The idea of invoking internal drala is not to give in to the allure of casualness. The occasional irritation coming from your neck, the crotch of your pants, or your waist is usually a good sign. It means that your clothes fit you well, but your neurosis doesn't fit your clothes. . . . You are tempted to take off your tie or your jacket or your shoes. Then you can hang out and put your feet on the table and act freely, hoping that your mind will act freely at the same time. But at that point your mind begins to dribble. It begins to leak, and garbage of all kinds comes out of your mind. That version of relaxation does not provide real freedom at all. Therefore . . . wearing wellfitting clothing is regarded as wearing a suit of armor.
Internal drala also comes out of making a proper relationship to food, by taking an interest in your diet. . . . you can take the time to plan good, nutritious meals, and you can enjoy cooking your food, eating it, and then cleaning up and putting the leftovers away. Beyond that, you invoke internal drala by developing greater awareness of how you use your mouth altogether. You put food in your mouth; you drink liquids through your mouth; you smoke cigarettes in your mouth. It is as if the mouth were a big hole or a big garbage pail: You put everything through it. Your mouth is the biggest gate: You talk out of it, you cry out of it, and you kiss out of it. You use your mouth so much that it becomes a sort of cosmic gateway. Imagine that you were being watched by Martians. They would be amazed by how much you use your mouth.
To invoke internal drala you have to pay attention to how you use your mouth. Maybe you don't need to use it as much as you think. Appreciating your world doesn't mean that you must consume everything you see all the time. When you eat, you can eat slowly and moderately, and you can appreciate what you cat. When you talk, it isn't necessary to continually blurt out everything that is on your mind. You can say what you have to say, gently, and then you can stop. You can let someone else talk, or you can appreciate the silence.
The basic idea of invoking internal drala is that you can synchronize, or harmonize, your body and your connection to the phenomenal world. This synchronization, or connectedness, is something that you can actually see. You can see people's connection to internal drala by the way they behave: the way they pick up their teacups, the way they smoke their cigarettes, or the way they run their hands through their hair. Whatever you do always manifests how you are feeling about yourself and your environment--whether you feel kindness toward yourself or resentment and anger toward yourself; whether you feel good about your environment or whether you feel bad about your environment. That can always be detected by your gait and your gestures--always. It is as if you were married to your phenomenal world. All the little details--the way you turn on the tap before you take a shower, the way you brush your teeth--reflect your connection or disconnection with the world. When that connection is completely synchronized, then you are experiencing internal drala. (pp. 88-91)
Failure to honor the need for order brings on chaos. . . . How much time, energy, emotion, and life is diverted into the channels that spring from disorder? . . . How many relationships are challenged or even destroyed by lack of attention to order? (Chp. 11: Order)
Disorder inevitably involves some sort of dishonor. The only question is, what or who is the target of the dishonor? When you live with other people and you are content to make a mess in shared spaces, you dishonor the people you live with. When you are careless and sloppy in your business dealings, you dishonor the people you work with. When you can’t keep anything straight for your customers, clients, or students, you dishonor the people you work for. And not just people. . . . to be disorderly also dishonors the inanimate things that are also part of our lives and may also be our responsibility. (Chp. 11: Order)
Disorder is often the child of a rebellious ego that resists humbly occupying a rightful space. . . . The wisdom of Mussar tells us to be humble and then the resistance to order will evaporate. Honor others and order will come about as a natural consequence. (Chp. 11: Order)
It is common (though insightful) Mussar guidance that to control or diminish one trait, our efforts are not to be focused on that trait itself but rather on one of its corresponding partner traits. (Chp. 11: Order)
Order is an inner trait that rests on other traits. A person who is not punctual, for example, may be lacking in the trait of order; but in reality their problematic behavior has a deeper root, like perhaps laziness. On the other side of the spectrum, the deeper trait that causes a person to be overly strict in the rule of order might be a lack of trust in God. If order is an issue in a person’s life, that person should peer deeply within to discover the root trait that is at the real heart of the matter. (Week 32, Day 1)
The Nazis (may their names be erased) were extremely orderly. Every diabolical step was carefully planned and precisely executed. Clearly, this order was not a virtue. When they stamped a number on the arm of a prisoner, they tattooed those numbers to remove all sense of individuality and to rob human beings of their intrinsic worth. (B'midbar: Seder—Order: The Measure and Ideal of Middot)
A land whose light is darkness, All gloom and disarray/disorder, Whose light is like darkness.
The middot function along a continuum or axis. For example, at one end of the order/chaos axis is rigid, almost compulsive attention to organization, while at the other is chaotic disorganization. Neither of the extremes is good. Maimonides, among others, instructs us to live at the golden mean—the midpoint on the axis between rigidity and chaos. This midpoint would be effective, flexible organization. Rabbi Salanter taught that we need to develop each middah and its opposite so that we can flexibly call on whatever middah is needed in any moment. A moment may in fact call for rigid order and another for chaos. (Part Three: Walking the Path)
Humans in general—and the nation of Israel in particular—vacillate between chaos and order, between sin and repentance. In the Book of Leviticus, ritual is employed as a way to create and maintain order within society, and also to reestablish order when we inevitably fall short of what God demands. . . . Rather than meet every transgression with permanent exile, God commands that Israelites who have strayed offer a sacrifice to make amends and to mark their intention to re-order their behavior. (Tzav: Seder—Order as Response to Transgression)
The Periodicities of T’shuvah
There’s a teaching that at the end of each period, day, week, month or year, we must do what we can to clear our system of evil imprints.
Originally I saw this in connection with Thursday night. Thursday night is the special night in which to make the cheshbon ha-nefesh for the week. If you had to have a [weekly time], not Yom Kippur Kattan of the chodesh (monthly), erev Rosh Chodesh, but erev Shabbat, that’s the time to do that. In some books they say you should do that, and if you can’t do it Thursday night, you should do it before you begin Kabbalat Shabbat.
And what do you need to do? Look over the days [remember] what you have done and those things that were not right, you do t’shuvah on them. And to do t'shuvah on them simply meant you confess it, you say: Ribono Shel Olahm, I did such and such wrong, I will not do that again, and I will take on such and such a thing as a penance. T’shuvat ha-mishkal, I want to straighten it out; I want to make tikkun on that, I want to complete it. So what they say is, please try and do it before Shabbat, because all the avayros of the week haven’t yet been filed, they’re still around as it were on the table, but with erev Shabbat they’ll file them. And when you have to afterwards retrieve them from the files, it is much harder to do t’shuvah. It’s like you have to pull them out.
So you can imagine if once a year we do Yom Kippur, to have periodic maintenance and to clean the filter and whatever is to be done, is desirable. Then Thursday night [i.e. once a week,] would be good, [and] every night at kri’aht sh'mah she’ahl hah-mitah is of course the important thing, so that you don’t have a day go by without clearing what you can. It’s like looking at what’s waiting in the basket to be deleted for the day. (pp. 10-11)
Sefer Yetzirah [3:3] divides reality into the three basic realms of existence: space, time, and body-soul (olam, shanah, and nefesh). . . . These three realms of the universe--space, time, and human experience--provide the fundamental playing field on which creation can unfold. (p. xviii)
בְּרֵאשִׁ֖ית בָּרָ֣א אֱלֹהִ֑ים אֵ֥ת הַשָּׁמַ֖יִם וְאֵ֥ת הָאָֽרֶץ׃ וְהָאָ֗רֶץ הָיְתָ֥ה תֹ֙הוּ֙ וָבֹ֔הוּ וְחֹ֖שֶׁךְ עַל־פְּנֵ֣י תְה֑וֹם וְר֣וּחַ אֱלֹהִ֔ים מְרַחֶ֖פֶת עַל־פְּנֵ֥י הַמָּֽיִם:
When God began to create heaven and earth— the earth being chaotic/unformed and void, with darkness over the surface of the deep and a wind from God sweeping over the water.
God said, “Let there be lights in the expanse of the sky to separate day from night; they shall serve as signs for the set times—the days and the years . . .”
Rabbi Shlomo Wolbe says in the name of the Alter of Kelm that order can be compared to the clasp on a pearl necklace. The pearls are what make the necklace, and they are definitely more important than the clasp, but without the clasp the pearls will fall off and scatter, and all that will remain of the necklace is the string alone. Similarly, a person contains an abundance of strengths, intellect, character traits, and qualities. But without order, all these virtues will scatter, and he or she will be left with nothing. (Chp. 11: Order)
The knot that ties together a string of pearls is not the main part of the necklace, but should it come untied, the entire necklace falls apart. The knot guards the pearls from getting lost. (Week 32, Day 7)
Mussar itself also depends on order. (Chp. 11: Order)
