HUMILITY | ANAVAH | ענוה

PHRASE/SLOGAN
Create more space for others, yourself, and the Source of Life
Show up as needed
Hineni: Respond from connection, as part of the whole
Honest, accurate understanding of myself
Recognize your failings and correct them
Everyone and everything is Torah
Love all creatures
Stop thinking about your virtues and take your mind off your friend's faults
Don't diminish self-worth nor over value another's worth
I am dust and ashes and the world was created for me
SOUL TRAIT (MIDDAH) SPECTRUM

ETYMOLOGY
- humility, meekness, modesty
- root - ענה
- to be bowed down, afflicted, tormented, oppressed, low, poor
- to answer, reply, respond
- to make dependent
- to sing (responsively, hymn, refrain, dirge)
- to be occupied, busy oneself
- humiliation, oppression, affliction, fasting
- to become or be low, humble, below something
- lowland
- gentle
- Latin: soil, earth, ground
- falling on the face/nose-ward
MUSSAR
Humility stands on a foundation of self-esteem, and is defined by how much space you occupy—being humble means occupying your rightful space, where “space” can be physical, verbal, emotional, financial, and so on. (Week 9, Day 1)
Rabbi Ḥelbo said that Rav Huna said: One who sets a fixed place for his prayer, the God of Abraham assists him. Since prayer parallels the Temple service, it is a sign of respect to set a fixed place for this sacred rite (Rabbi Yoshiyahu Pinto). The God of Abraham assists him because this pious custom evokes Abraham’s conduct.
When we meditate, we’re creating a situation in which there’s a lot of space. That sounds good but actually it can be unnerving, because when there’s a lot of space you can see very clearly . . . (Chp. 11: Renunciation)
We make space for the divine attributes to emerge in our lives, thereby bringing more divinity into the world. (Fine-Tuning Our Middot as a Spiritual Practice)
וא"ר אלעזר כל אדם שיש בו גסות הרוח אין עפרו ננער שנא' (ישעיהו כו, יט) הקיצו ורננו שכני עפר שכבי בעפר לא נאמר אלא שכני עפר מי שנעשה שכן לעפר בחייו
And Rabbi Elazar also says: Concerning any person who has arrogance within him, his dust, i.e., his remains in his grave, will not stir at the time of the resurrection of the dead, as it is stated: “Awake and sing for joy, you who dwell in the dust” (Isaiah 26:19). It is not stated: You who lie in the dust, which would indicate that all the dead will be awakened in the future, but rather: “You who dwell in the dust,” indicating that only one who became a neighbor to the dust in his lifetime by living with extreme humility will stir at the time of the resurrection.
Coming immediately after a series of prayers known as the Amidah (“Standing Prayer”), or Shemoneh Esreh (“Eighteen Blessings”), the central portion of the morning service, Tahanun is actually “a varied mosaic of biblical verses and prayers from different periods.” The technical term for this supplicatory prayer is “Falling upon the Face,” or Nefilat Appayim in Hebrew. “Falling upon the Face” was a type of prostration customary in Babylonia at the beginning of the third century, performed during the recitation of Tahanun. According to the Mishnah, the ritual of prostration before God goes back to a practice in the ancient Temple in Jerusalem: “The Levites recited the psalm. When they reached the end of the section they blew the shofar, and the people prostrated themselves. For every section the shofar was blown, and for every blowing of the shofar there was a prostration” (Tamid 7:3). (p. 93)
After its destruction by the Romans in 70 c.e ., this custom was transferred from the Temple to the synagogues. Following the Shemoneh Esreh, the opportunity was given to every individual to express heartfelt devotion to God in an entirely private and personal way. Although they began as private, unfixed prayers, eventually a collection of liturgical passages evolved, whose main themes were confession of sin, the worshiper’s unworthiness, and petitions for divine mercy. . . . the adept engages in an act of voluntary, contemplative death while reciting the Tahanun. One “hands over one’s soul” (moser et nafsho) in an act of mystical death, the purpose of which is to serve as atonement for one’s sins . . . (p. 93)
Such a person becomes “newly created” as one who has actually died and left this world. He receives the spiritual strength with which to struggle against the evil inclination, resist all further sin, and achieve new levels of inspiration by which he can comprehend the innermost mysteries of the Torah. (p. 97)
Furthermore, at first they would uncover the faces of the wealthy who passed away and cover the faces of the poor, because their faces were blackened by famine. And the poor were embarrassed because they were buried in a different manner. The Sages instituted that everyone’s face should be covered, due to the honor of the poor.
Now Moses was a very humble man, more so than any other man on earth.
What is the silence of humility? . . . Moses is able to experience the emotional discomfort of insult without moving into reaction. This lack of reactivity gives him the emotional space to understand the pain of his detractors and see their insults in context. The silence of humility is a stillness born of deep understanding and empathy, even for one’s detractors. A broad perspective is another aspect of this stillness. (Chp. 6 - Responding to the Call: Anavah/Humility)
When we're conversing with someone, do we spend the whole time searching for launching points for what we want to say? Or, do we actually listen to appreciate what they are trying to relate? The first stance is the hubris of believing that what we have to say and contribute is primary; certainly my insight is brighter, my interpretation more inspiring, and my perspective more valuable. The root of the Hebrew word for humility (anava) is la’anot, which means “to answer.” When the humble person speaks, he participates as one component of the whole. He truly responds. (Week 35, Day 4)
(יט) וַיְהִי֙ ק֣וֹל הַשּׁוֹפָ֔ר הוֹלֵ֖ךְ וְחָזֵ֣ק מְאֹ֑ד מֹשֶׁ֣ה יְדַבֵּ֔ר וְהָאֱלֹהִ֖ים יַעֲנֶ֥נּוּ בְקֽוֹל.
(19) There was the sound of the shofar growing continually stronger exceedingly; Moses would speak and God would respond to him with a voice [thunder].
Once, at a wedding celebration, the first speaker--an honored citizen of Vilna--fumbled his speech. Rabbi Nachum Zev, an outstanding orator, was scheduled to speak next, but refused. He later told disciples that he did not wish to stand out at the expense of the first speaker. . . . Humility is double honesty: I know that I outshine someone else in a certain respect; I also know that Hashem outshines me infinitely, so on what basis am I permitted to call attention to myself? (pp. 82-83)
One who denies one’s strengths is not humble, but rather a fool. Rather, a humble person is one who understands that all his strengths and accomplishments are a gift from heaven. The more a person recognizes this, the more humble he is. (Week 35, Day 7)
Lowliness implies having an appreciation for the grandeur and vastness of the universe. If I think too much of myself, my grandiose self-image can literally block me from seeing others and the world around me. I don’t think too much of myself not because of low self-esteem, but in relation to how clearly I see the vast universe and my place in it. In fact, low self-esteem is a perversion of humility. (Chp. 6 - Responding to the Call: Anavah/Humility)
12. Keep away from having your head turned; accept not a drop of human praise. Praise that you receive from people is to be considered a great liability. Those who speak ill of you are in fact doing you a great favor. Your intent should be only for the sake of His great name, to do that which is pleasing to Him. (p. 33)
Do not glorify yourself, however great your learning or your good deeds, your wealth or your fine qualities. Glory belongs only to God. . . . If people should come to praise you, do not let it lead you to self-importance. Rather give praise constantly to God, to Him who created you out of nothing and brought you into being. It is He who sustains you from your mother's womb unto the very day of your death. Were the Creator's concern to depart from you for but a moment, you would not survive that moment in the world. (p. 41)
בֶּן זוֹמָא אוֹמֵר, אֵיזֶהוּ חָכָם, הַלּוֹמֵד מִכָּל אָדָם, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר (תהלים קיט) מִכָּל מְלַמְּדַי הִשְׂכַּלְתִּי כִּי עֵדְוֹתֶיךָ שִׂיחָה לִּי.
Ben Zoma says: Who is the wise one? He who learns from every person, as it says, "I have acquired understanding from all my teachers" (Psalms 119:99).
With the ability to take lessons from the world around us, there is no room for the concept of pride! If I do something good, I can fall prey to taking pride in it. But if I take it as a lesson about how to do something positive—I didn’t do anything that warrants pride, for I am only taking a lesson! And when I am operating from a position of taking lessons, I am always inclined to see how the action could have been improved. (Week 35, Day 3)
Pride goes before ruin, arrogance before failure.
The first: The trait of humility - which includes everything - because it is dependent on the Crown. As behold, It is a trait over all of the Traits, but it does not raise itself and become proud above [the others]. Indeed, It goes down and always looks downwards. And that is from two reasons: The one is that It is embarrassed to look at Its Cause, rather Its Emanator always looks down upon It to benefit It; and It looks down to the lower ones. So [too,] must a person be embarrassed from staring upwards, to be proud. Rather, he must always stare downwards, to diminish himself all that he can. And behold, this trait is generally dependent upon the head of a man. As a man only shows his pride with the lifting of his head upwards, whereas the poor person lowers his head downwards. And behold, there is none as tolerant and humble as our God with the trait of the Crown, such that He is the epitome of mercy. And there is no defect nor iniquity nor judgement nor any other trait that intervenes in front of Him, that prevents [Him] from surveying, flowing and bestowing good constantly. So must a person [be], that no cause in the world prevent him from bestowing good; and that no iniquity or improper act of people intervene in front of him in order to impede him from bestowing good from those that need his good at any time and at any instant. And [just] like He sits and nourishes 'from the antelope's horns to the lice's eggs,' and does not disgrace any creature - as if He were to disgrace the creatures because of their smallness, they would not exist in the world even for an instant - but [He] rather supervises and gives His mercies upon them all; so must a man be, to bestow good to all and not to have any creature disgraced in front of him. Rather, even the puniest of the puny creatures [should] be very important in his eyes, and he [should] put his mind to it; and bestow good to all that need his good. And this trait is dependent on the Crown, in the secret of the Head as a whole.
I glory in the Eternal; let the lowly hear it and rejoice.
