(1) Behold my sheaf rose. the matter ofthis dream showed him that they would bow to him on account of grain. Your sheaves surrounded it. Like a king encamped in the field with his servants encamped around him.
Joseph told the dream to his father and not the first dream, because he himself understood its interpretation that the sun hints to his father. This dream he told to his father while his brothers were present. The reason that his father rebuked him was to make his others sons forget their anger against Joseph. When he says "what is this dream that you have dreamt?" he means to say why are you telling me a dream which is meaningless - they are a waste of words.
Alternatively, the rebuke was how dared you have dreamed such a dream - it is just arrogance and youth that such thought should arriver in your heart.
"Should I and your mother come?" your mother is already dead. Jacob did not know that these words related to Bilha who raised him as her child. Our Rabbis have learned from here that there is no dream without wasted ideas in it....
והנה אנחנו מאלמים אלומים. ב״ר אמר ר׳ אחא עתידים אתם להעלים עלי דברים לפני אבא לומר חיה רעה אכלתהו ומאן קאים לי משתוקיתא דאימא עכ״ל ולפי פשוטו אפשר לומר כמשז״ל חיה רעה אכלתהו על אשת פוטיפר. והנה רחל אמנו ע״ה בהיותה אהובה ליעקב מאד והיא גם היא אהבתהו מאד וזה לה שבע שנים מיוחדת ליעקב אע״ה ובתוקף תאותה כבשה יצרה ושתקה כשהכניסו לאה במקומה ומסרה הסימנים שלא לביישה וזכות זה עמד ליוסף הצדיק ע״ה בנה שהיה לו כח לכבוש יצרו ונמנע מלחטוא באשת פוטיפר וז״ש עתידים אתם לומר חיה רעה אכלתהו והיינו על אשת פוטיפר ומאן קאים לי לכבוש יצרי מחיה רעה זו משתוקיתא דאימא שכבשה יצרה במותר לה עי״ז ה׳ עזרתה לי שכבשתי יצרי וניצולתי.
In Bereishit Rabbah: Said Rebbi Acha: In the future you will make lies (להעלים= אלומים) and say in front of our father "a wild animal has eaten him"; and who saved me from this? The silence of my mother.
According to the words of the sages , the term "a wild animal" refers to the attempts of the wife of Potiphar to seduce Joseph (which failed). [The strength of Joseph in refusing her] stems from Rachel our matriarch who loved and was beloved by Jacob. The seven years that she should have had with Jacob in her own desire for him were conquered when she placed Leah in her place and handed her the "simanim" (signs) in order not to embarress her. This merit was given to Joseph who had the strength to conquer his own desires and didn't sin with the wife of Potiphar. This is the meaning of the Medrash.....
Joseph saw in his dream how their sheaves bowed to his. However he adds something into the dream that his sheaf stood up and continued standing (Gen 37:7). Why does he need to add this bit?
However, it is known that the word "stand up" refers to someone who is prepared for kingship. [We see this] when Saul says to David, "I know that you will surely rule, and the kingship will stand in your hands" (Samuel I 24:20).
Joseph saw in the bowing of the sheaves that he had control over his brothers, but NOT ruling over them. He therefore mentions the idea of his sheaf standing up to show that his dream shows this potential for kingship. It is for this reason that they were angry with him.
They said that his dream was intrinsically contradictory - lets take it as a given that you will have control over us, but who said that you will rule over us!