גאווה: ישן מפני חדש תוציאו Pride: Clear out the old to make room for the new

המילה גאווה: לפי דעתכםן, מה פירושו? מה האנטוניום הראשון שעולה לכםן לראש? שאתםן חושביםות על המילה הזאת, לאיזה אסוציאציות זה מוביל?

(ג) בְּֽפִי־אֱ֭וִיל חֹ֣טֶר גַּאֲוָ֑ה וְשִׂפְתֵ֥י חֲ֝כָמִ֗ים תִּשְׁמוּרֵֽם׃
(3) In the mouth of a fool is a rod of haughtiness, But the lips of the wise protect them.
(ג) גֹּ֣ל אֶל־ה' מַעֲשֶׂ֑יךָ וְ֝יִכֹּ֗נוּ מַחְשְׁבֹתֶֽיךָ׃ (ד) כֹּ֤ל פָּעַ֣ל ה' לַֽמַּעֲנֵ֑הוּ וְגַם־רָ֝שָׁ֗ע לְי֣וֹם רָעָֽה׃ (ה) תּוֹעֲבַ֣ת ה' כָּל־גְּבַהּ־לֵ֑ב יָ֥ד לְ֝יָ֗ד לֹ֣א יִנָּקֶֽה׃
(3) Entrust your affairs to the LORD, And your plans will succeed. (4) The LORD made everything for a purpose, Even the wicked for an evil day. (5) Every haughty person is an abomination to the LORD; Assuredly, he will not go unpunished.

לפי הפסוקים האלה, נראה קשה לראות גאווה בפן חיובי. האם יש הבדל בין משמעות המילה/התכונה בפסוקים ואיך חשבתםן עליה קודם?

(ב) וְכֵיצַד הִיא רְפוּאָתָם...וְאִם הָיָה גְּבַהּ לֵב יַנְהִיג עַצְמוֹ בְּבִזָּיוֹן הַרְבֵּה וְיֵשֵׁב לְמַטָּה מִן הַכּל וְיִלְבַּשׁ בְּלוֹיֵי סְחָבוֹת הַמְבַזּוֹת אֶת לוֹבְשֵׁיהֶם וְכַיּוֹצֵא בִּדְבָרִים אֵלּוּ עַד שֶׁיַּעֲקֹר גֹּבַהּ הַלֵּב מִמֶּנּוּ וְיַחֲזֹר לַדֶּרֶךְ הָאֶמְצָעִית שֶׁהוּא דֶּרֶךְ הַטּוֹבָה. וְלִכְשֶׁיַּחֲזֹר לַדֶּרֶךְ הָאֶמְצָעִית יֵלֵךְ בָּהּ כָּל יָמָיו...

(ג) וְיֵשׁ דֵּעוֹת שֶׁאָסוּר לוֹ לָאָדָם לִנְהֹג בָּהֶן בְּבֵינוֹנִית אֶלָּא יִתְרַחֵק מִן הַקָּצֶה הָאֶחָד עַד הַקָּצֶה הָאַחֵר. וְהוּא גֹּבַהּ לֵב. שֶׁאֵין דֶּרֶךְ הַטּוֹבָה שֶׁיִּהְיֶה אָדָם עָנָו בִּלְבַד אֶלָּא שֶׁיִּהְיֶה שְׁפַל רוּחַ וְתִהְיֶה רוּחוֹ נְמוּכָה לִמְאֹד. וּלְפִיכָךְ נֶאֱמַר בְּמשֶׁה רַבֵּנוּ (במדבר יב ג) "עָנָו מְאֹד" וְלֹא נֶאֱמַר עָנָו בִּלְבַד. וּלְפִיכָךְ צִוּוּ חֲכָמִים מְאֹד מְאֹד הֱוֵי שְׁפַל רוּחַ. וְעוֹד אָמְרוּ שֶׁכָּל הַמַּגְבִּיהַּ לִבּוֹ כָּפַר בָּעִקָּר שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר (דברים ח יד) "וְרָם לְבָבֶךָ וְשָׁכַחְתָּ אֶת ה' אֱלֹקֶיךָ". וְעוֹד אָמְרוּ בְּשַׁמָּתָא מַאן דְּאִית בֵּיהּ גַּסּוּת הָרוּחַ וַאֲפִלּוּ מִקְצָתָהּ.

(2) And how may their cure be? He who is of a hot temperment should be taught to demean himself this wise: If he be smitten and cursed, he must not feel the insult at all. and follow this way a long time until anger will be completely rooted out from his heart. And he who was arrogant should accustom himself to a life of extreme self-abasement by occupying the lowermost seat of everybody, and dress in such rags which shame those that wear them, and do such in like matters until the haughtiness of his heart will be rooted out of him, when he will return to the middle-way, which is the good way. But when he will return to the middle-way he should follow it throughout his lifetime. And this line he should follow in all the rest of his tendencies; if he had distanced himself to the extreme point of one he should remove himself to the extreme end of the other and follow it up a long time until he may return to the good way, which is the middle-standard in each and every tendency.

(3) And, yet, there are certain tendencies which man is forbidden to follow in the middle-way, but must distance himself from extreme to extreme. The good way is not merely that man be meek, but that he should be humble-spirited, then his spirit will be extremely lowly. This is the reason why it is said of Moses that he was very meek (Num. 12.3) and not merely meek. This is also the reason why the sages commanded saying: "Be exceedingly humble of spirit" (Pir. Ab. 4.4). They, moreover, said: "He who is of a haughty heart denies the head principle" (Sotah, 4b), even as it is said: "Thine heart be then lifted up, and thou forget the Lord thy God" (Deut. 8.14); and they also said: "Isolated be he in whom there is a haughty spirit, even a little thereof" (Sotah. 5a). So is anger an extremely evil tendency and it is proper for man to remove himself from it to the other extreme. One should teach himself not to get angry, even over a matter which befits anger. If one desires to engender awe in his children and his household, or in the public, if he be at the head of a community, even if he desire to get angry at them so as to bring them back to the good way, he should only act angry in their presence so as to reprove them, but his disposition must remain calm within himself, even as a man imitates, who is angry when the time calls forth anger but in reality he is not angry. The sages of yore said: "He who yields to anger is as if he worshiped idolatry".1See Nedarim, 22b. G. They also said: "Whosoever yields to anger, if he be a wise man his wisdom leaves him, and if he be a prophet his prophecy leaves him."2Pesahim, 66b. C. Verily the life of irritable persons is no life.3Pesahim, 113a. C. They have, therefore, commanded to be afar from anger, so that one will train himself not to mind even the things which do cause irritation, for such is the good way. The conduct of the just is to take insults but not give insults, hear themselves flouted but make no reply, do their duty as a work of love, and bear affliction cheerfully. Concerning them the Verse says: "But may those that love Him be as the rising of the sun in his might" (Judg. 5.31).

(כ) לְבִלְתִּ֤י רוּם־לְבָבוֹ֙ מֵֽאֶחָ֔יו וּלְבִלְתִּ֛י ס֥וּר מִן־הַמִּצְוָ֖ה יָמִ֣ין וּשְׂמֹ֑אול לְמַעַן֩ יַאֲרִ֨יךְ יָמִ֧ים עַל־מַמְלַכְתּ֛וֹ ה֥וּא וּבָנָ֖יו בְּקֶ֥רֶב יִשְׂרָאֵֽל׃ (ס)
(20) Thus he will not act haughtily toward his fellows or deviate from the Instruction to the right or to the left, to the end that he and his descendants may reign long in the midst of Israel.

לבלתי רום לבבו מאחיו. נרמז בכאן בתורה איסור הגאות כי הכתוב ימנע את המלך מגאות ורוממות הלב וכל שכן האחרים שאינן ראויים לכך כי בראוי להתרומם ולהתגדל יזהירנו להיות לבבו שפל ככל אחיו הקטנים ממנו כי הגאוה מדה מגונה ונמאסת אצל האלקים אפילו במלך כי לה' לבדו הגדולה והרוממות ולו לבדו התהלה ובו יתהלל האדם כענין המבואר על יד המלך שלמה (משלי טז ה) תועבת השם כל גבה לב וכתיב (ירמיהו ט כג) כי אם בזאת יתהלל המתהלל השכל וידוע אותי וגו':

So that his heart not become haughty over his brothers: here is hinted in the Torah the prohibition of arrogance, because the Torah restrains the king from arrogance and haughtiness of heart, and how much more so the others that would not be fitting for this--because for one who would be fitting for raising and aggrandizing, it warns him that his heart must be low and humble like all his lesser brothers. Because arrogance is a character trait which is disgusting and abhorrent by Hashem, even in a king, because to Hashem alone is the greatness and highness, and to Him alone is the praise, and only through Him can a man boast, as the topic is explained by Shlomo Hamelech (Mishlei): The abhorrence of Hashem is all who are haughty of heart, and it is written (Yirmiyahu): but only through this should a man boast: of knowing Me...

לפי הרמב"ם והרמב"ן מה רע במידת הגאווה ולמה צריך להתרחק ממנה? מה אתםן חושביםות על זה?

(יג) אָשִׁירָה לַה' כִּי גָאֹה גָּאָה, הֲדָא הוּא דִּכְתִיב (איוב מ, י): עֲדֵה נָא גָאוֹן וָגֹבַהּ, הַכֹּל מִתְגָּאִין זֶה עַל זֶה, חשֶׁךְ מִתְגָּאֶה עַל הַתְּהוֹם שֶׁהוּא לְמַעְלָה הֵימֶנּוּ, וְהָרוּחַ מִתְגָּאָה עַל הַמַּיִם שֶׁהוּא לְמַעְלָה הֵימֶנּוּ, וְהָאֵשׁ מִתְגָּאֶה עַל הָרוּחַ שֶׁהוּא לְמַעְלָה הֵימֶנּוּ, וְהַשָּׁמַיִם מִתְגָּאִים עַל הָאֵשׁ שֶׁהֵם לְמַעְלָה מִמֶּנּוּ, וְהַקָּדוֹשׁ בָּרוּךְ הוּא מִתְגָּאֶה עַל הַכֹּל, הֱוֵי: כִּי גָאֹה גָּאָה. אָמַר רַבִּי אָבִין, אַרְבָּעָה מִינֵי גֵּאִים נִבְרְאוּ בָּעוֹלָם: גֵּאֶה שֶׁבַּבְּרִיּוֹת, אָדָם. גֵּאֶה שֶׁבָּעוֹפוֹת, נֶשֶׁר. גֵּאֶה שֶׁבַּבְּהֵמוֹת, שׁוֹר. גֵּאֶה שֶׁבַּחַיּוֹת, אֲרִי. וְכֻלָּן נָטְלוּ מַלְכוּת, וְנִתְּנָה לָהֶם גְּדֻלָּה, וְהֵם קְבוּעִים תַּחַת הַמֶּרְכָּבָה שֶׁל הַקָּדוֹשׁ בָּרוּךְ הוּא, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר (יחזקאל א, י): וּדְמוּת פְּנֵיהֶם פְּנֵי אָדָם, וּפְנֵי אַרְיֵה וּפְנֵי שׁוֹר וּפְנֵי נָשֶׁר, וְכָל כָּךְ לָמָּה, כְּדֵי שֶׁלֹא יִתְגָּאוּ בָּעוֹלָם, וְיֵדְעוּ שֶׁיֵּשׁ מַלְכוּת שָׁמַיִם עֲלֵיהֶם, וְעַל זֶה נֶאֱמַר (קהלת ה, ז): כִּי גָבֹהַּ מֵעַל גָּבֹהַּ שֹׁמֵר וּגְבֹהִים עֲלֵיהֶם, הֱוֵי: כִּי גָאֹה גָאָה.

(ט) אך הגאוה שבמעלות הרוחניות מתחלקת לשני חלקים. אחד מהם מגונה והשני משובח:

המגונה שיתגאה האדם בחכמתו והצדיק במעשהו וגורם זה שירבה בעיניו ויספיק אצלו מה שקדם לו מהם ולחשוב שדי לו במה שיצא לו מן השם הטוב והשבח אצל בני אדם ולבזות בני אדם ולגעול אותם ולספר בגנותם ולהיות חכמי דורו וגדוליהם פחותים בעיניו ולהתפאר בקצור חבריו וסכלותם וזה הוא הנקרא אצל רז״‎ל מתכבד בקלון חבירו ובזה לא יהיה נכנע ולא עניו.

והמשובח כשמתגאה החכם בחכמתו והצדיק במעשהו הודאה לגודל טובת הבורא עליו בהם ושמחה בעבורם ויגרום לו להוסיף ולהשתדל בהם ולהכנע לקרוביו ולשמוח בחבריו ולחוס על כבודם ולכסות סכלותם ולדבר בשבחם ולאהוב אותם ולהליץ בעדם ולהזהר בכבודם וימעטו בעיניו כל מעשיו הטובים, תמיד טורח להרבות מהם, נכנע בעבור חלישותו מהשיג מאוייו בהם, משפיל עצמו למי שמקוה תוספת על ידיו, מודה לאלקים על מה שחננו מן המעלות ומשבח אותו על אשר הפיקו לקנות החמודות.

(1) What is submission
Submission is lowliness of the soul, its bowing down and not thinking much of itself.,It is one of the traits of the soul (that can be acquired - Rabbi Hyamson). When it becomes established in the soul, its signs will appear in the limbs. Among them: a soft tongue, a low voice, humility at a time of anger, little exacting revenge when one has the power to do so. It as was said about a certain king who told a man who was convicted and a whip had already been brought [for punishment]: "I swear by G-d, if I did not feel such a strong anger against you, I would have exacted a severe revenge on you." Then he pardoned him. It is said of him that he would say: "I don't know of any sin of others which are greater than mine".

(2) How many divisions it divides into
The explanation of the divisions of submission is as follows. Submission divides into three categories.,(1) One category applies to human beings and many species of irrational animals. It is poverty of the spirit and patient bearing of harm it is capable of avoiding due to ignorance regarding the right ways to remove the harm. This sort of submission is found among foolish and ignorant people due to their little knowledge and weak understanding of their soul and its capacities. This is called submission in the way of common language only, but in truth, this is merely spiritual poverty and blindness due to stupidity that has overcome the soul and prevents it from seeing what could further its welfare, as written "For You have hidden their hearts from understanding; therefore, it cannot raise itself" (Iyov 17:4).,Rather, true submission is that quality which comes into being after an elevation of the soul, after rising above being similar to the animals, with their base traits, and after it has elevated itself from being of similar traits to the lower class of men. This elevation stems from having greater wisdom than them, greater esteem of one's soul than them, and clear knowledge of which traits are good and which are base. When submission and lowliness comes after this elevation - then it is a praiseworthy trait. Otherwise, it dos not enter into the category of good traits and qualities of the soul, but rather among the disgraceful traits, since its submission is like that of the animals.,(2) The second category - submission towards other human beings. If because they rule over him, such as a prisoner in the hands of his enemy, or a slave in the hands of his master; or because he lacks what they have and greatly needs what they possess such as a tenant to his landlord or a poor man who looks to the generosity of the wealthy man, or a student to his teacher, or a substantial loan that one is unable to repay and he must be submissive and lower himself before his lender, as written "A rich man will rule over the poor, and a borrower is a slave to a lender" (Mishlei 22:7).,To this category belongs the submission of one who knows about himself that he is falling short regarding the bounds (the torah set -PL) in matters of this world and the next, and is ignorant of the proper path. When he finds the prophet of his generation or righteous teacher or anyone else who preaches the proper path, he will submit to him and lower himself before him, as our teachers said: "serving (a wise man) is greater than learning by him" (Berachos 7b), as written: "Elisha ben Shafat who poured water for Eliyahu" (Melachim II 3:11), it does not say: "who studied by Eliyahu" but rather: 'who poured water', this teaches that serving a Sage is greater than studying by him (one grows more from this); and also: "his (Moshe's) attendant, Joshua, the son of Nun, a young man, would not depart from the tent" (Shmos 33:11). Likewise the wise man said regarding the general masses: "A rich man will rule over the poor, and a borrower is a slave to a lender" (Mishlei 22:7).,This category of submission, proper though it may be, is not of universal character, since it does not apply to all human beings, nor does it apply at all times and in all places. Because, when the prisoner leaves his prison, or when the slave redeems himself, or the lender pays back his debt, or the student leaves his teacher's presence, or the poor man leaves the rich man's presence - it is not their duty to submit to them, and to humble themselves and lower themselves before them anymore.,(3) The third category: submission to the blessed Creator. This duty applies to all rational beings. They are obligated in it at all times and in all places. To this (category of submission) was our intent in this gate.,The submitted one is called in scripture: "humble", "low in his eyes", "modest", "broken", "low of spirit", "broken spirited", "crushed", "soft hearted","weak in spirit", "broken hearted", "bowing spirit".,When we will speak of the term "submission", in general, our intent is only in this third category which is the highest degree of submission.,One who has reached this level, the path to nearness to G-d and [worthiness] to stand before Him is not far off. He will be accepted by G-d and be pleasing to Him, as written "The offerings of G-d are a broken spirit: a broken and a contrite heart, O G-d, You will not despise" (Tehilim 51:17).

(3) In what does one submit
The circumstances which will bring a person to submission and a lowly spirit after he has become proud are ten.,(1) When his physical strength wanes in its normal power of movement due to either sickness or frail temperament or weakening constitution and he becomes submissive due to this, and he pleas to G-d and to human beings, as written "And He submitted their heart with toil" (Tehilim 107:12).,(2) When he is smitten by troubles or suffers poverty and he now needs people whereby he previously did not need them, and he becomes submissive to them, and his spirit becomes too broken to be arrogant in his situation, as written: "And it will be that everyone who is left in your house, will come to prostrate himself before him for a silver piece and a morsel of bread"(Shmuel 2:36).,(3) When someone who is better off than him, will manifest his kindness towards him, he will make himself submissive towards him, as written "Many will entreat the favor of the generous man" (Mishlei 19:6).,(4) One who must pay back his fellow a debt but is unable to do so, and makes himself submissive before him as written "If you do not have what to pay, why should he take your bed from under you?" (Mishlei 22:27).,(5) One who is in the prison of his enemy - will make himself submissive towards him and his spirit will drop low, as written "They afflicted his foot with fetters; his soul was placed in irons"(Tehilim 105:18), and "if they be bound in fetters, and be held in cords of affliction; [Then He declared unto them their work, and their transgressions, that they have behaved themselves proudly. He opened their ear to discipline, and commanded that they return from iniquity]" (Iyov 36:8).,(6) A slave who does not have the ability to redeem himself (purchase freedom) from the hand of his master and becomes submissive towards him as written "Behold, as the eyes of servants look unto the hand of their masters" (Tehilim 123:2).,(7) When saddening troubles and disasters befall a man, his spirit will break and his heart will submit, as written "And that I also have walked contrary unto them, and have brought them into the land of their enemies; if then their uncircumcised hearts be submitted" (Vayikra 26:41).,(8) When one makes a personal accounting and sees that he has rebelled against G-d despite G-d's goodness towards him, and how instead of praising Him for it, he has kicked. Then, he will become submitted, ashamed, and humiliated from the Al-mighty, as written "O G-d, I am ashamed and blush to lift up my face to you, my G-d: [for our iniquities are increased over our head]" (Ezra 9:6).,(9) When the Creator rebukes him and humiliates him on having rebelled against Him, he will become submitted and terrified, as written on Achav "Have you seen how Ahab has submitted himself before Me?" (Melachim 21:29).,(10) When one senses the nearness of death, and the coming of his final day, and he contemplates the terror of death, and how he will be brought to trial and have to give an accounting, and he becomes submitted and bowed down. He will think little of himself and will regret the passing of his days, and wasting of his life without having prepared provisions of good deeds to come before him for his journey to the next world, as written "The sinners in Zion are afraid" (Yeshaya 33:14).

(4) how should one conduct himself in it
In which matters is it a duty to conduct oneself with submission and lowliness? I say it is one's duty to conduct himself with submission in seven relations.,(1) In business dealings with his contemporaries, and in good conduct with his fellow human beings, as I will explain later. On this the verse says: "despised and disgraceful is he in his own eyes" (Tehilim 15:4).,(2) When meeting those who are wise in knowledge of G-d and of His torah, or pious men who are near to G-d, as written: "Let the righteous smite me in kindness and reprove me" (Tehilim 141:5), and "The evil bow before the good" (Mishlei 14:19).,(3) When one is praised for his good qualities, it is his duty to submit himself, and to reflect on previous sins and iniquities he committed, which the Creator knows about and yet keeps them secret, and holds back (retribution) from him so that he may repent from them. He should not rejoice in that his fellow men are mistaken about him. Rather, let him mourn, since the Creator knows truly the wickedness of his deeds, and his neglect in fulfilling his duties to Him and from rendering thanks for His kindnesses, and he should submit in his heart as written: "For I relate my iniquity; I worry about my sin" (Tehilim 38:19).,(4) If other people speak badly of him, he should submit himself to the Creator, and thank Him for having opened his eyes to a few of his many shortcomings in order to chasten him and rebuke him, so that he will repent to Him, as written "He opens also their ear to discipline, and says so that they return from iniquity" (Iyov 36:10).,(5) When the Creator bestows much good on him in this world, he should submit himself to G-d because of the heavy burden of gratitude he owes for them. He should also lower himself before Him out of fear that perhaps this good is for exacting retribution from him. For when G-d sends great wealth to a person, it is for one of three reasons:,1. as a benefit granted by the Creator.,2. as a trial and a test to the person.,3. for exacting retribution and to make him stumble.,Signs that the wealth is a benefit:,* If he is more occupied with fulfilling his duties to the Creator rather than with busying himself with his wealth.,* That the wealth causes him to increase his service of G-d.,* He does not set his heart on this benefit and does not place his trust in it, but spends it on fulfilling his duties to the Creator.,This is similar to how Iyov described how he would spend his wealth, how he would spend it for fulfilling his duties to G-d, and how he would not place his trust in it, as written: "If I put my hope in gold, and to jewelry I said, 'My confidence'" (Iyov 31:24).,Signs that the wealth is sent as a trial and test:,* That the wealthy man is more occupied in his worries with guarding and increasing his money and in fearing potential financial losses than he is with fulfilling his debt of gratitude to the Creator for it.,* That he has nothing but perpetual worry from it or from managing it.,Thus, the man is tested with the wealth and will need to give a judgment and an accounting (in the afterlife), of such a person it is said "For all his days are pains and his occupation is vexation; even at night his heart does not rest" (Koheles 2:23).,Signs that the wealth is for exacting retribution:,* That the wealthy man is so preoccupied with enjoying his money and deriving pleasure from it that he fails to pay his debts to the Creator and to his fellow man (such as tzedaka, maaser, good deeds -TL) that he owes on account of it, and from rendering thanks to his Benefactor (G-d). He does not feel that he is obligated to serve G-d on account of it, as the verse says: "And behold, joy and happiness, slaying cattle and slaughtering sheep, eating meat and drinking wine; 'Let us eat and drink, for tomorrow we will die.'" (Yeshaya 22:13), and "And there are harp and lyre, tambourine and flute, and wine at their drinking feasts; and the work of the L-ord they do not regard, and the deed of His hands they have not seen" (ibid. 5:12), and this is a retribution disguised as a benefit.,But for the intelligent person, when good fortune comes to him and all his matters go smoothly according to his wish, he will submit himself, fearing that perhaps this wealth may have come from the Creator for exacting retribution from him, as written: "riches kept by their owner for his harm" (Koheles 5:12).,(6) When one reads the torah and the books of the prophets, and he sees the rewards and punishments set forth, and he becomes aware how much he has neglected to fulfill his duties to the Creator, he will realize that it is his duty to submit and lower himself before the Creator out of fear of His punishment, as written on Yoshiyahu "And it was when the king heard the words of the scroll of the Law, that he rent his garments" (Melachim II 22:11). The Creator then said to him "Because your heart was tender, and you have humbled yourself before the L-ord, when you heard what I spoke against this place, and against the inhabitants thereof, that they should become a desolation and a curse, and have torn your clothes, and wept before Me; I also have heard you..." (ibid. 22:19).,(7) When one is involved in an act of service such as giving charity, prayer, or mitzva whether voluntary or obligatory, or in rebuking others, he should not have in his heart any pride or haughtiness, but rather should outwardly and inwardly submit himself and be lowly before the Creator. This act should be like nothing in his eyes compared to the magnitude of what is his duty to G-d which is many times more than that deed, as written "With what shall I come before the L-ord, bow before the Most High G-d?...[He has showed you, O man, what is good; and what does the L-ord require of you, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with your G-d?]" (Micha 6:6).

(5) How one acquires it
The manner to acquire the trait of submission and the way to facilitate its acquisition is for one's thoughts and reflections to be set on seven topics:,(1) The root and origin of his existence is from a putrid drop (of human seed) and blood, after they became foul and stenchful. Afterwards, he was nourished from blood of tuma, all the days of his stay in his mother's belly. Afterwards, he exited, and was weak and fragile in body and limbs. Then, he advanced from stage to stage until most of his years have passed. Afterwards, he will become ill from old age until he completes his days (dies).,One of the wise men would say on this matter: "I am amazed at how one who has passed through the pathway of urine and blood two times can be proud and haughty?" Contemplating this or similar things regarding the nature of man necessarily brings humility, as king David said: "O L-ord, what is man that You should regard him, the son of man, that You should consider him?" (Tehilim 144:3), and "Man that is born of a woman is of few days and full of trouble" (Iyov 14:1), and "But I am a worm and not a man" (Tehilim 22:7), and "How much less man, that is a worm? and the son of man, which is but a maggot?" (Iyov 25:6).,(2) When one contemplates the severity of the tribulations that befall a man in this world such as hunger and thirst, cold and heat, sickness, accidents, worries, which one has no assurance against until death. When an understanding person puts all this to heart, and he realizes how weak he is, how limited and helpless he is from protecting himself from all of this, he will recognize his predicament. He is not only similar to a prisoner in this world, he truly is a prisoner! And so he will humble himself like the humbling of a prisoner who is placed in a dungeon, and who has no strategy or ability to free himself without his master's consent, as written: "May the cry of the prisoner come before You" (Tehilim 79:11), and "Bring my soul out of prison"(Tehilim 142:7).,(3) When one considers his fleetingness, and the swift coming of death, and the abrupt cutting off of his desires and aspirations at that time. He must leave all of his possessions, and abandon hope that he can take with him any of them as provisions or that any of them will be of use to him when he is in the grave. The countenance of his face has already dimmed, its appearance darkens. And his flesh (after death) will bring up worms, decay and putrid liquid. The signs of his physical beauty vanished and an increasingly rotten odor will exude from him,as if he had never washed or scrubbed or put on a good fragrance. When he puts this or similar considerations to mind, he will feel humble and lowly. He will not become arrogant. His heart will not arise and become high and proud, as written: "Withdraw yourselves from man whose breath is in his nostrils, for in what is he to be esteemed?" (Yeshaya 2:22), and "men of low degree are but vanity, and men of high degree are but a lie; were they to be put on a scale, together they would equal nothing" (Tehilim 62:10).,(4) When one contemplates on the service he owes to G-d for the benevolent goodness and abundant kindness bestowed on him, and he considers how much he has neglected the precepts and fallen short in their observance, both those which reason mandates and those which the torah commands, and how his pleas and excuses will be cut short when the day of reckoning comes and he will be full of regret on the great day of assembly. Then he will be submitted and his spirit will be broken, as written "For lo, the day comes, glowing like a furnace, and all the audacious sinners and all the perpetrators of wickedness will be stubble. And the sun that comes shall burn them up so that it will leave them neither root nor branch, says the L-ord of Hosts" (Malachi 3:19), and "who can endure the day He comes" (Malachi 3:2).,(5) When one contemplates the greatness of the Creator and His infinite might, who observes one's outer and inner life. When one fixes his mind on this great theme and considers what our sages report regarding the impressive and awesome presence of the pious sages in previous generations, for example "he (Rav Sheshes) gazed his eyes on him and the man (died and) became a pile of bones" (Berachos 58a), or as it was said of Yonatan ben Uziel: "when he would expound the torah, any bird that would fly over him was instantly burnt.",And there is no doubt that the prophets were greater than them, and you will find that the prophets' strength melted and they bent their knees and prostrated themselves when they were visited by angels, as written by Daniel, Yehoshua, and many like them. And you will find in the books of the prophets that the angels bow and prostate themselves before the Creator, as written "the hosts of the heavens bow to You" (Nechemia 9:6), and "Behold, He does not trust His servants and He casts reproach upon His angels" (Iyov 4:18), and "in His temple does every one speak of His glory" (Tehilim 29:9), and "And one cried unto another, and said, 'Holy, holy, holy, is the L-ord of Hosts'" (Yeshaya 6:3).,And when one reflects what is manifested to our intelligence in what He created, such as the sun, moon, stars, the celestial spheres, and the earth and all that is in it such as minerals, plants and animals - this should be sufficient for anyone who has understanding and intelligence, as written "How great are Your works, O L-ord! Your thoughts are exceedingly deep; A brutish man knows not; [neither does a fool understand this]" (Tehilim 92:6), and "all the nations are as nothing before Him" (Yeshaya 40:17), and "all the inhabitants of the earth are as nothing" (Daniel 4:32).,When an understanding man considers his significance relative to all of humanity, and the significance of humanity relative to the earth, and the earth relative to the lunar sphere, and the lunar sphere relative to the cosmos, and that everything relative to the greatness of the Creator is as nothing, he will be humbled in his soul and will lower himself before the Creator, as written "[when I contemplate Your sky, the moon and the stars..] What is man that You should be mindful of him?" (Tehilim 8:5).,(6) When one reads the books of the prophets and he sees the great punishment meted out to the arrogant and proud and also G-d's great protection over the humble and the lowly. Regarding the arrogant and proud it is written: "The lofty eyes of man shall be humbled, and the haughtiness of men shall be bowed down, and the L-ord alone shall be exalted on that day"(Yeshaya 2:11), and "For the day of the L-ord of Hosts shall come upon everyone that is proud and lofty, and upon everyone that is lifted up; and he shall be brought low" (Yeshaya 2:12).,Regarding both types, it is written: "The L-ord lifts up the meek: He casts the wicked down to the ground" (Tehilim 147:6), and "Though the L-ord be high, yet has He respect unto the lowly: but the proud He knows from afar." (Tehilim 138:6), and it is said about the lowly "the humble shall inherit the land" (Tehilim 37:11), and "the L-ord has anointed me to bring good tidings to the humble" (Yeshaya 61:1), and "With the lofty and the holy ones I dwell, and with the crushed and humble in spirit, to revive the spirit of the humble and to revive the heart of the crushed"(Yeshaya 57:15), and "Before destruction comes pride, and before stumbling [comes] a haughty spirit" (Mishlei 16:18), and "Before ruin, a man's heart becomes haughty, but before honor there is humility." (Mishlei 18:12).,(7) When one observes the changing of people's situations in this world, the swift changing of governments and rulers, and the passing of people from one condition to another, and the fall of one nation promoting the rise of another, while the end of all is death, as written "Like sheep, they are destined to the grave; death will devour them" (Tehilim 49:15), he will submit and will not pride himself on any worldly possessions, and he won't place his trust on any matter of them, as written "Praiseworthy is the man who made the L-ord his trust, and did not turn to the haughty and those who turn to falsehood" (Tehilim 40:5).,If a man's mind is never empty of these seven matters we mentioned, he will always be humble and lowly. Humility will cling to his nature and will not separate from him. When he clings to humility, all the snares of arrogance, haughtiness, and pride will keep far from him, as we mentioned. He will be saved from sin and from stumbling as written "and that His fear may be before your faces, that you sin not" (Shemos 20:20). And our sages said: "Reflect upon three things and you will not come to sin. Know from where you came and where you are going and before whom you are destined to give account and reckoning. From where have you come? - from a putrid drop. Where are you going? - to a place of dirt, worms, and maggots. Before whom are you destined to give account and reckoning? - before the supreme King of kings, the holy One, blessed be He" (Avos 3:1).

(6) How the submitted should conduct himself
The manners of conduct, which are proper for the submitted person to adopt, are ten.,(1) Knowledge of G-d, and of His good attributes, and the higher qualities He bestowed on man over other living creatures, as written "You give him dominion over the work of Your hands; You have placed everything beneath his feet" (Tehilim 8:7).,When one recognizes the infinite greatness of the Creator and His exalted omnipotence and supreme wisdom, he will submit to Him and become humbled before Him. And he will learn from the verse: "Do not glorify yourself before a king" (Mishlei 25:6) and draw the inference - how much more so before the King of kings, and the Master of masters, who is exalted beyond any likeness or comparison, as Chana said: "There is none as holy as the L-ord, For there is none like You" (Shmuel 2:2).,(2) He should know the duties ordained by the torah and those which reason teaches us. He should read G-d's torah, and gain understanding in the wisdom derived from reason, the written law, and the oral law (talmud) so as to learn from there the conditions for humility, and the areas where it applies.,(3) To cultivate a broad heart (forbearance -TL) and ability to bear patiently words and deeds one hates, [and do so] for the Creator's sake, as written "If I repaid the one who did evil to me, Or have plundered him who without cause was my enemy" (Tehilim 7:5), and "Do not say, 'As he did to me, so will I do to him; I will repay the man according to his deeds'" (Mishlei 24:29), and our sages taught (Gitin 36b): "those who are insulted, but do not retaliate, who hear themselves humiliated and do not respond, serve (G-d) with love and rejoice [even] in suffering, on them the verse (Shoftim 5:31) says: "those that love Him will be like the sun when it goes forth in its might". The sages refer to this as "Ma'avir Al Midosav" (lets offenses pass and is forgiving).,(4) He should do good to others, speak well of them, judge them favorably, not speak of their faults, forgive them when they speak badly of him, even if they do not deserve this, as written "Even in your thoughts, do not curse a king" (Koheles 10:20), and "You let loose your mouth for evil, and you accustomed your tongue to deceit, you slandered your own mother's son"(Tehilim 50:19). Regarding forgiving others who speak ill of him, the verse says: "and Miriam and Aharon spoke of Moshe", and then "the man Moshe was exceedingly humble", i.e. he had forgiven them. Likewise, the wise man said: "Also take no heed on all words that are spoken" (Koheles 7:21), and adds "For your heart knows that many times you too cursed others"(Koheles 7:22).,And our Sages taught (Taanis 25b) that Rebbi Eliezer once (in a time of drought) became Chazan (cantor) and offered 24 supplications for rain and there was no response. Afterwards, Rebbi Akiva became Chazan and said only: "Our Father, our King..." and his prayer was accepted. A heavenly voice proclaimed "not because the latter sage was greater than the former, but only because he was 'Ma'avir Al Midosav' (lets offenses pass and is forgiving) while the former does not behave thus.",And it is said of a pious man who passed by an extremely foul smelling carcass of a dog. His disciples said to him: "how foul-smelling is this carcass!". He answered them "how white are its teeth!" And they regretted on having spoken disparagingly about the carcass. If it is improper to speak disparagingly of a dead dog, all the more so for a living human being. And if it is proper to praise the carcass of a dead dog for the whiteness of its teeth, how much more so, according to this, is it a duty to praise a human being endowed with intelligence and understanding. His intent was to rebuke them, to not habituate their tongues to speak badly, as this will enter their nature.,Likewise, when one habituates his tongue to speak good, it will become part of his nature, as written "He who does not habituate/slander with his tongue" (Tehilim 15:3), and it says regarding the opposite of this "Your tongue devises mischief, [as a sharpened razor, working deceit], You love all devouring words" (Tehilim 52:4), and "What does it give to you, what does it increase unto you, O deceitful tongue?" (Tehilim 120:3), and "The words of a wise man's mouth are gracious; but the lips of a fool will swallow him up" (Koheles 10:12),(5) There should be humility in all his worldly matters, whether they are public or private, in speech and in deed, when he is active or resting - that his interior does not contradict his exterior, nor his hidden matters contradict his revealed matters. Rather his behavior should be weighed, proper, harmonious, and consistent - all going in the spirit of submission and humility to G-d and also towards human beings, in accordance with each person's merits (their wisdom and fear (reverence) of G-d - TL) and the good he benefits from them in religious and secular matters, as written "Good is the man who is gracious and lends, who conducts his affairs with discretion" (Tehilim 112:5). And our sages said: "be humble in spirit before all men" (Avos 4:12), and "Be submissive to an elder and courteous to the young." (Avos 3:12).,(6) That one's esteem be high and one's desire great for matters of the next world, that it should not be sufficient for him whatever comes his way, and he should not consider that what he does is enough. Rather, his good deeds, service, and efforts should be little in his eyes. He should always strive to reach a higher level, as the verse says of Yehoshafat "And his heart was lifted up in the ways of the L-ord" (Divrei Hayamim II 17:6), and let one always complain to himself that he is not doing enough of his torah duties to G-d and men. And he should seek help from G-d, and strengthen to add in the service and in good deeds, as written "I pray that my ways be directed to keep Your statutes" (Tehilim 119:5).,(7) That his deeds be little in his eyes, and that he should complain to himself over his shortcomings in the fulfillment of his religious duties to G-d and to his fellow men. He should pray to G-d for help and strength. For the sake of G-d, he should put aside all haughtiness, and renounce personal pride and dignity while he is performing any religious service, whether he is alone or among a crowd of people. As the verse said about Aharon, in his exalted status (as head priest), "And he shall lift out the ashes" (Vayikra 6:3). The Creator obligated him to take out the ashes every day in order to lower and remove pride from his heart. And similar to this by king David: "and she saw the king David leaping and dancing before the L-ord; and she despised him in her heart" (Shmuel II 6:16), and the rest of the matter, and also "I will speak of your testimonies before kings, and will not be ashamed" (Tehilim 119:46).,(8) He should be contented with whatever means of livelihood present themselves, and with whatever he finds, because he regards himself as insignificant and of little worth. He should accustom himself to abstain from gratifying bodily desires in order to be free to pay his duties to G-d for His many favors and great goodness towards him, as David said "I will run the way of your commandments, for You will free my heart" (Tehilim 119:32).,(9) To exact vengeance from the wicked for the honor of the Creator. Let one not be enticed on account of his own practice of forgiving others in matters that only affect himself to also forgive them in matters of G-d, or to forgive those who speak against His prophets, or his pious and treasured ones. Likewise, let one not conduct himself in his personal way of forgiving others, when he sees a man oppressing another man. Rather, he should come to the rescue of the oppressed and help to free them from the hands of their oppressors, as written "O house of David, thus said the L-ord; Execute judgment in the morning, and deliver him that is spoiled out of the hand of the oppressor" (Yirmiya 21:12), and "I broke the jaws of the wicked, and plucked the spoil out of his teeth" (Iyov 29:17).,He should teach others the service of G-d, rebuke them and make them feel ashamed. He should exhort them on the good, and warn them on the evil forcefully and by word of mouth to the extent of his ability, and be swift to exact the punishment G-d commanded to administer to one who is guilty. He should not be humble or lowly in this, as written by Pinchas: "Then Pinchas stood up and exacted justice, and the plague was stopped. It was accounted for him as a merit for generation to generation forever" (Tehilim 106:30).,(10) He should speak little and in a low voice. He should laugh little. He should seldom take an oath in the name of G-d even if what he swears is true. No falsehood should come out of his lips. He should not sit in the company of men engaged in laughter and idle talk, nor delight in the worldly things ignorant people delight in. He should act like this out of submission and lowliness of spirit, not out of arrogance and pride as the prophet said "I sat not in the assembly of merrymakers, nor did I rejoice; because of Your hand I sat alone, for You filled me with indignation" (Yirmiya 15:17).

(7) When it applies and when it does not
The signs by which true submission is verified in a humble person are five.,(1) When he is intensely angry towards someone who reviled him, whether in word or deed, and he rules over his spirit, and forgives, despite that he has the ability to take revenge, and instead forgives him out of humility and lowliness - this attests to true submission.,(2) When he is struck with a severe financial loss, or some calamity occurs to one of his loved ones - if his calmness overcomes his shock, and he humbly accepts the Creator's decree, and justifies the Divine judgment - this attests to good submission and to his lowliness before G-d, as the verse tells of Aharon when Nadav and Avihu were killed (by a heavenly fire): "And Aharon was silent" (Vayikra 10:3), and David said: "Be silent to G-d and wait patiently for Him" (Tehilim 37:7), and "Therefore the wise shall keep silence in that time" (Amos 5:13).,(3) When a deed he does becomes generally known, whether it is good or bad.,If it is a good deed and he is praised for it, and he belittles the deed to the one who praised him, and he will consider in his thoughts that the deed is small and lacking in quality to be acceptable to the Creator due to his being obligated to do deeds many times more than this. And he will say to the one who praised him: "stop my brother, because compared to my sins, it is like a spark of fire (trying to extinguish) the sea, and even if it is worth something, how can I know if it is saved from the things which nullify a mitzvah (as described in Gate #5), and that the Creator will accept it from me, and will not return it to me, or throw it back into my face?, as written: "When you come to appear before Me, who requested this of you, to trample My courts?" (Yeshaya 1:12), and "You shall no longer bring vain flour-offerings, it is smoke of abomination to Me" (ibid 1:13).,All the more so, if the praise is false, that he must reject it, and say to the speaker: "My brother, it is bad enough that I am lacking in fulfilling my obligations to the Creator, do not add to my discredit the iniquity of accepting praise for something I have not done, for I am aware of my sins and iniquities better than you are, as David said: 'For I know my transgressions..' (Tehilim 51:5).,If people speak of bad things he did (which are true):,He will admit his failings and will not seek false excuses to absolve and justify himself, as Yehuda said: "She has been more righteous than I" (Bereishis 38:26), and he won't attempt to shame the speaker and make him out a liar, nor condemn him for having exposed him, rather, he will say to him: "my brother, the amount of bad things you have observed in me is little compared to what you don't know about me and which the Creator has for so long kept hidden. If you knew the full extent of my bad deeds and transgressions, you would flee from me, fearing that the punishment of the Creator which they merit, would befall you too, as a poet once said: "if my neighbors could smell my sins, they would run away and keep far from me", and as Iyov said: "Did I, like men, cover my transgressions, to conceal my iniquity in my hiding place?" (Iyov 31:33).,If the bad thing that was said of him was false, he should say to the person who reported it: "my brother, I am not amazed that the Creator has saved me from doing that which you accuse me, since He has bestowed upon me so many benefits. What really amazes me, is that He allowed to remain concealed what is far worse and more reprehensible than that which you have told over about me. Stop my brother, and be concerned for your merits, that you do not lose them without your noticing it. For it is told of a pious man about whom someone spoke badly of, that when he heard of this, he sent a basket full of the choicest fruits of his province to the one who spoke badly of him and wrote to him: 'I have been notified that you sent me an offering of your merits, and I am sending you this gift in return' ",Another pious man once said: "Many people will come on the day of judgment, and when they are shown their deeds, they will find in the book of their merits, good deeds that they did not do, and they will say: 'we did not do these things'. They will be answered: 'they were done by someone who spoke badly of you'. Likewise, at that time, those who spoke badly of others will find that some of their merits will be missing, they will seek them, and will be told: 'you forfeited them when you spoke of this or that person'.,Similarly, some people will find in their book of sins, sins they did not do, and when they will protest saying "we did not commit these things", they will be told "these were added to the list of your misdeeds for having spoken of this or that person", as written: "And return to our neighbors sevenfold into their bosom, their reproach with which they reproached You, O L-ord"(Tehilim 79:12). And on this the scripture warns us: "remember what the L-ord your G-d did to Miriam on the journey" (Devarim 24:9).,(4) When G-d bestows a special benefit on him such as exceptional wisdom and understanding, or great wealth, or honor from the ruling king, or other things like this which people commonly take pride in and become haughty on account of, and yet one remains in his humility as before and even increases in humility and lowliness before G-d, and honors and benefits other people, as written by Avraham who said: "I am but dust and ashes" (Bereishis 18:27) when the Creator praised him saying "how can I hide from Avraham what I intend to do"(Bereishis 18:17). And Moshe and Aharon said "we are nothing" (Shmos 16:7), and David said: "I am a worm and not a man" (Tehilim 22:7). (If one acts like this), it will clarify his interior and affirm his submission is true. The wise man said of this matter: "If the spirit of the ruler rise up against you, leave not your place; for gentleness pacifies great offenses" (Koheles 10:4).,(5) When the humble man rebukes himself, exacts the Creator's justice upon himself of his own initiative, and voluntarily submits to it, even though no human authority has the power to enforce it - this points to his true humility before G-d as well as his lowliness and submission to Him, as written: "We have trespassed against our G-d, and have taken strange wives of the people of the land" (Ezra 10:2), and "they gave their hand to send away their wives" (Ezra 10:19).,Through these situations and others similar to them will be fulfilled the signs of [true] submission to G-d and humility from the submitted and whether their heart is faithful in them.

(8) does submission depend on good traits or the opposite
Is submission secondary to other moral qualities or are other moral qualities secondary to it? I answer this as follows:,It is well known to us, that the first prerequisite for the service of G-d is for one to divest from himself completely the trait of masterhood and leave it to G-d alone and that he accepts on himself all the traits of slavehood to the Creator.,Because slavehood and masterhood are interdependent, one cannot exist without the other, a man cannot be called a slave if he does not have a master, and a master is not fit for this title until he has a slave. Neither one can precede the other whether by title or by relationship, similar to a buyer and a seller.,Hence, a human being's service of G-d can only exist when he assumes all the traits of slavehood, namely submission and humility before Him, shedding from himself all traits of masterhood, namely, self-glory, honor, splendor, pride and the like.,One of the wise men said: "Grandeur is the garment of the Creator. Whoever wishes to come into His presence in this garment will be pushed out. David said: "The L-ord reigns; He is clothed in majesty" (Tehilim 93:1).,PROOF THAT SUBMISSION IS FIRST AND FOREMOST
The believer cannot acquire [extra] piety until he [first] discharges his [basic] obligation, as written "Has the L-ord as much desire in burnt offerings and peace-offerings, as in obeying the voice of the L-ord? Behold, obedience is better than a peace-offering" (Shmuel 15:22).,And he cannot succeed in fulfilling the [basic] duty until he undertakes the service of the Creator.
And he cannot succeed in undertaking the service of the Creator until he first designates G-d alone with all the traits of masterhood and divests them from himself for His sake.
And he cannot succeed in this until he undertakes all the conditions of slavehood.,And he cannot succeed in undertaking the [conditions of] slavehood except through training to submit himself to G-d, and to humble himself and lower himself before Him, as we explained.,Hence, it follows that all moral qualities are secondary to the trait of submission, which is the head and beginning of all of them. And it follows logically from this, that no piety can possibly exist in one whose heart is devoid of submission to G-d or has in it any trace of arrogance or pride.,Therefore the beginning of repentance is lowliness, humility, and submission, as the verse says: "If My people, who are called by My Name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek My face, [and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hearken from heaven, and will forgive their sin...]" (Divrei II Hayamim 7:14), and "They have submitted themselves; therefore I will not destroy them, but I will grant them some deliverance" (Divrei Hayamim II 12:7).

(9) if it is possible for a man's heart to contain submission and arrogance simultaneously
Can submission and pride co-exist in the heart of the believer? I answer this as follows:,There are two categories of pride:,(1) A man's pride in his body, and its conditions, or in all things that further his body's well being.,(2) A man's pride in his spiritual qualities - the wisdom used and good deeds he performed in the service of G-d.,Any pride which stems from bodily things distances submission from the heart. It is impossible for both to co-exist simultaneously since they mutually repel each other. For if a man takes pride in any secular thing, what brings him to this pride is:,* belittling the Source of this good (G-d),* downplaying the value of this good,* little consciousness of how swiftly it can be taken from him or leave him.,Rather, he will consider it that he himself is the creator of his good fortune, that he has acquired it with his own strength and ingenuity, as written about Sancheriv "by the strength of my hand I have accomplished" (Yeshaya 10:13), and about Nebuchadnezar "Is this not the great Babylon, which I built for a royal palace with the strength of my power and for the honor of my glory?" (Daniel 4:27), and Pharaoh "My river is my own..." (Yechezkel 29:3), and you already know what swiftly followed their boastful proclamations - the destruction of their kingdom and their land.,Pride in spiritual qualities divides into two categories, one reprehensible and one praiseworthy.,The reprehensible one - that a person prides himself on his wisdom or a righteous man on his good deeds. This causes the wisdom and righteousness to become magnified in his eyes, so that he is satisfied with what he has already accomplished, and thinks that it is enough for him the good reputation and praise he has achieved from his fellow men. This will cause him to look down on others, despise them, and speak badly of them, to belittle the wise men of his generation in his eyes, and glorify himself in the shortcomings and ignorance of other people. Our Rabbis of blessed memory call this: "one who seeks honor by putting down others (has no share in the world to come)". One like this will never be submitted nor humble.,The praiseworthy one - the pride of the wise man in his wisdom or of the righteous man in his good deeds when it is an expression of his gratitude to the Creator for helping him greatly on them, and of his joy in them. When it causes him to improve and continue exerting himself in them, and to be humble to his colleagues, happy with their success, and concerned for their honor. To not reveal their failings and to speak good of them. To love them and judge them favorably, and to be careful of their honor. All of his own good deeds will seem few in his eyes, and he will always exert himself to increase them. He will be humbled by his inability to reach his longing in them. He will lower himself before someone who he hopes will help him to increase in them. He will be grateful to G-d for having graced him with qualities and thanks Him for helping him to reach exalted levels.,This kind of arrogance (aggrandizing) is not detrimental to submission and does not repel it. The verse says of Yehoshafat "And his heart was uplifted in the ways of the L-ord" (Divrei Hayamim II 17:6), just the opposite - such pride helps humility and increases his submission as written "In the wake of humility comes fear of the L-ord, riches, honor, and life" (Mishlei 22:4).

(10) benefits of submission in this world and the next
The benefits of submission in matters of this world and the next world are six things, three of them refer to matters of this world and three to matters of the next world.,For matters of this world:,(1) That one is happy in his portion. Because for one whom arrogance and pride have entered in him, the entire world and everything in it is not enough for his needs due to his inflated heart and due to his looking down with contempt on the portion allotted to him. But if he is humble, he does not consider himself as having any special merit, and so whatever he attains of the world's goods, he is satisfied with it for his sustenance and other needs. This will bring him peace of mind and minimize his anxiety. He will eat what is available and wears and dwells with what he can find. Due to his submission, even the minimum of the world's goods is enough for him. But for the arrogant - the entire world will not satisfy his lacking due to the pride of his heart and arrogance, as the wise man said: "A righteous man eats to sate his appetite, but the stomach of the wicked shall feel want" (Mishlei 13:25).,(2) The humble man can bear it when troubles befall him or when reverses in his affairs occur to him due to his lowliness and humble spirit. But for the proud man, his fear will be great and his ability to bear will be little when hit by troubles because his soul is proud, his heart is haughty, and he is dissatisfied with his matters, as written by one who was in this way: "How have you fallen from heaven, oh morning star? You (Nebuchadnezar) have been cut down to earth, You who cast lots on nations" (Yeshaya 14:12).,(3) The humble man will find more favor in people's eyes. He is beloved by them, and will easily fit in with them and adopt their customs.,It was already said on a king who would hasten his steps when walking. He was asked about this and answered: "because it keeps me away from the way of pride, and also so I arrive more quickly to my destination",A wise man was asked: "How were you able to become accepted as head of your entire generation?" He replied: "Because I never met one of them that I did not see in him a quality in which he is greater than me. If he was wiser than me, I concluded that he must be more G-d fearing than me since his wisdom is greater than mine. If he had less wisdom than I have, I considered that on the day of Judgment, he will be held less accountable than I, because my transgressions were committed with knowledge and intent while his were committed in error. If he was older than me, I would reason that his merits must be greater than mine since he came into the world before me. If he was younger, I thought that his sins were fewer than mine. If he was equal to me in age and wisdom, I would tell myself: maybe his heart is more devoted to G-d than mine, because I know of my past sins, but I don't know of any that he committed. If he was wealthier than me, I would think that due to his wealth, he likely served G-d more than me, in doing charities and helping the poor. If he was poorer than me, I would consider that he was more low and humble than me due to his poorness, and he is better than me. Due to this, I never ceased to honor all of them and humble myself before them.",Similarly, our sages taught "judge every man favorably" (Avos 1:6), "receive every person with a cheerful countenance" (Avos 1:15), and "Be very, very lowly of spirit" (Avos 4:4), and "One should always be flexible as a reed and not unyielding as a cedar. This is why the reed has merited to have made from it a quill to write a Sefer Torah, Tefilin and Mezuzot" (Taanis 20b).,(4) The fourth benefit, which is for matters of the afterlife, is that the humble person is nearer to attaining wisdom, since he is drawn to the Sages, he submits to them, and frequently goes to them, as written: "He who goes with the wise will become wise" (Mishlei 13:20). Our sages of blessed memory said: "Let your house be a meeting house for the sages; sit amidst the dust of their feet and drink in their words thirstily" (Avos 1:4). G-d will help him to attain wisdom as written: "The humble will He guide in justice: and the humble will He teach his way" (Tehilim 25:9). But for one who has a proud heart, true wisdom will never endure in him, and he will never reach the goal of clear knowledge, because he feels too important to go to the wise men and torah sages, as written "The wicked, through the pride of his countenance will not seek..." (Tehilim 10:4).,(5) The humble man hastens to do his religious duties with diligence and zeal. He does not become arrogant because he fulfills them, and does not take lightly any of them as our sages said: "Be as scrupulous about a light precept as of a grave one" (Avos 2:1). But one who is proud procrastinates from doing the service, due to his high heartedness and inflated spirit. He does not sense this until he falls and becomes low, as written: "Say unto the king and to the queen, Humble yourselves, sit down: for your rule shall come down, even the crown of your glory" (Yirmiya 13:18), and "Six things the L-ord hates, and the seventh is an abomination of His soul; Haughty eyes..." (Mishlei 6:16).,(6) The service of the humble man is acceptable to G-d, as written: "The sacrifices of G-d are a broken spirit; [O G-d, You will not despise a broken and crushed heart]" (Tehilim 51:19). His sin is quickly forgiven if he repents from it, as written: "He who conceals his sins will not succeed, but he who confesses and abandons [them] will obtain mercy" (Mishlei 28:13), and "When men are cast down, then you shall say, There is lifting up; and He shall save the humble person" (Iyov 22:29).,FINAL WORDS
These ten roots of submission will clarify for you, my brother, the remaining qualities of this important, supremely lofty virtue, which I have not mentioned in this gate. Remember therefore what I have called to your attention concerning this virtue. Place it before your eyes. Ponder it always. Strive to acquire it. Be constantly checking it with your soul and faculties. Seek the help of G-d in this. Plea to Him for it, in order that you be drawn closer to Him and attain His favor. Perhaps He will and straighten you to this virtue, thereby preparing for you the path to Him, as the pious would ask after their prayers: "O G-d, keep my tongue from evil and my lips from deceit. Help me to be silent in the face of derision, and let my soul be like dust to everyone.",Be on guard against the imaginations of your heart, and enticements of the yetzer (evil inclination) towards you that would mislead you to haughtiness, arrogance, pride, lust for ruling, self-glorification and domineering. The wise man already exhorted us as to the right road a man should take in this world in saying: "Two things have I asked of you... Remove far from me vanity and lies: [give me neither poverty nor riches]; give me my daily bread. [lest I become sated and deny, and say, 'Who is the L-ord?' Or lest I become poor and steal" (Mishlei 30:7-9).,Wake up my brother! Do not evade from healing the sickness of pride from your soul and your traits with the medicines I have taught you. Let not your observing of the masses' neglecting the healing their souls from this disease stop you from doing so, in saying to yourself: "I will share the same fate as them". Because, if a blind man finds the potions which can benefit and heal him if he applies them, it is not proper for him to procrastinate using them and say "I will share the same fate of my blind friends". Anyone who heard him saying such a statement would scorn his words and ridicule his reasoning.,According to this, examine your soul, and exert yourself with all of your might to promote its well-being. Do not neglect what will benefit you in this world and in the next, lest you die without fulfilling your longing for exalted spiritual levels which you are capable of reaching, as the wise man said: "The desire of a lazy man will bring about his death, for his hands refuse to labor"(Mishlei 21:25), and "By the fields of a lazy man, I passed and by the vineyard of a man without sense. And behold, thistles had grown all over it; nettles had covered its surface, and its stone fence had been torn down" (Mishlei 24:30), and the rest of the matter.,May the Al-mighty teach us and you the path to His service, in His mercy and kindness. Amen.

חובת הלבבות הוא ספר פילוסופיה פרי עטו של רבי בחיי בן יוסף אבן פקודה (הידוע בשם רבינו בחיי). החיבור, המהווה ניסוח של "תורת המוסר" היהודית, נכתב בשנת 1080 ותורגם לעברית בידי רבי יהודה אבן תיבון בשנת 1161. לספר הייתה השפעה על המוסר היהודי והלא-יהודי. הוא תורגם מחדש לשפות רבות.

מה הם שני הסוגים של גאווה שרבינו בחיי מדבר עליהם? האם אפשר לחבר אותם לשתי המשמעויות שדיברנו עליהם כבר?

כמו בת יענה / עמליה זיו

אני יושבת ושוברת את הראש בנסיון להבין מדוע יש הומואים ולסביות (בנוסף ללא מעט סטרייטים) שכל כך קשה להם עם המושג גאווה. נכון, במסורת היהודית-נוצרית גאווה היא מונח שלילי (חטא הגאווה וכו'). אבל נדמה לי שלא רק בכך העניין. נדמה לי שהרתיעה מ"גאווה" מקורה בדיוק באותו היפוך סימטרי בין "גאווה" ל"בושה". כלומר שהקושי של מי שנרתעים מן המונח נובע מכך שהם שומעים בו את ההד של "תתביישו לכם". או במילים אחרות, לומר שאתם גאים מזכיר לכם שיש מי שחושב שיש לכם במה להתבייש. אתם רוצים להיות אנשים רגילים, עם חיים רגילים, ולאנשים רגילים אין במה להתבייש ואין במה להתגאות. אני מזדהה עם הרצון הזה ואני מסכימה שבאופן עקרוני נטייה מינית לא צריכה להיות עניין לדיון, אלא צריכה להיות כמו כל נתון גפוני או אישיות אחר. צריכה להיות. זהו החזון האוטופי שאנחנו שואפים אליו, אבל זה בהחלט לא המצב כיום.

להעמיד פנים שזה המצב פירושו לנקוט באסטרטגיית בת היענה. גם אם נחזור ונשנן לעצמנו לאחרים שאנחנו רגילים לגמרי, אלו שחושבים שיש לנו במה להתבייש לא בהכרח ישתכנעו. חלק מן הנרתעים ממושג הגאווה, טוענים שנכון יותר לשאוף לשלמות פנימית. בעיני שלמות עצמית היא דבר ראוי לקינאה, אבל בהקשר שלנו יש כאן הצעה נאיבית, ואפילו מסוכנת, ופיה עבודה פנימית יכולה לבוא כתחליף למאבק חיצוני. ובעניין המאבק, השאלה על מה הגאווה, מזכירה לי משפט שאני שומעת הרבה מפי נשים צעירות. המשפט "אני לא פמיניסטית". שני המשפטים מצביעי על העדר תודעה היסטורית. כשם שעבור רבים סטונוול הוא סוג של קלישאה ושלושים שנה הן המון זמן, כך אותן 'לא פמיניסטיות' שוכחות שנשים קיבלו זכות בחירה רק בשנות העשרים של האמה הנוכחית, וגם אז, לא בזכות טוב ליבם של הגברים אלא בזכות הסופרג'יסטיות שהיו מוכנות לשבת בכלא ולשבות רעב. נשים שאומרות היום "אני לא פמיניסטית" מוחקות את ההיסטוריה הזאת ועיוורות לפנים הרבות של הדיכוי הנשי שלא במהרה יעבור מן העולם. באופן דומה, לסביות והומואים שמסרבים להיות גאים לא רק מתעלמים מן הדיכוי ההומופובי אלא גם לוקחים חלק בהעלמתו.

לעומת אסטרטגיית בת היענה, אני מאמינה בעיקרון המרקיסיסטי שעל מנת להיאבק בדיכוי צריך קודם כל להכיר בו, כלומר לפתח תודעה פוליטית. זו המשמעות של הגיי ליבריישן. זו המשמעות של גאווה.

ד"ר עמליה זיו היא חוקרת ישראלית, העוסקת בנושאים פמיניסטיים וקוויריים. בזכות כתיבתה בתחום המיניות הלסבית זיו נחשבת לדמות בולטת בקהילה הפמיניסטית והלהטב"קית בישראל. זיו הייתה פעילה בארגון כביסה שחורה, שהגדיר את עצמו "לסביות, הומואים, טרנסג'נדרים ואחרות, נגד הכיבוש ולמען צדק חברתי".

עמליה זיו מציגה כאן דברים שונים מאד ממה שראינו עד כה, ומשמעות בגאווה קווירית שלא מקובל בכל הקהילה. מה את.ה מקבל.ת מדבריה ומה לא?