We have the tradition of 13 attributes of mercy of the Holy One. Those are inside our conscience at the moment one hears them on the High Holidays.
The idea of thirteen middot - 13 attributes - is an important one, connecting Torah, humans and the Holy One of Blessing.
Torah - there are 13 middot through which we explain the text. You can find a list in the beginning of any traditional siddur, they are usually called "the thirteen rules of Rabbi Ishmael".
For the Zohar, the collective Israel is surrounded by 13 middot of mercy. Note that the Zohar does not specify the attributes themselves.
A fundamental idea to hold on to is the idea that when we say "God is One" we are saying 'it is all One" - us, Torah, God - it is all a unity, but we need to work on ourselves to become more perfect.
Rabbi Moshe Cordovero reminds us that there is internal work to be done in order to get closer to the Holy One and Torah. Cordovero also wants us to step back and see that there is another verse in which to find those 13 middot, and this is a verse that we recite during Tashlich.
Middah: Not withholding goodness (Tolerance is the next one)
~ What are examples that you can find of this being true in your life? Have you ever been given goodness in ways you didn't expect; or were you ever kind in ways other people were not or didn’t expect?
~ Have you ever gone above and beyond because of love?
~ How do we expand goodness in our own lives, towards people we know and engage with?
~ What are the limits of giving?
~ Watch yourself for feelings of pride.
~ Pay attention to what you let in your home: what words and ugly things do you allow come in, through TV or internet?
~ Notice how even small bugs are exquisitely constructed and made. Pay attention to nature.
~ Even behind a mask or the wheel, treat people with goodness and respect: the cashier, the mailperson, the trash collector, the flagger at construction sites. People are not their jobs, they are people, all created in the greatness of God's image.
~ Do not withhold your better side when people push your buttons.