Dependence/Independence
Pride/Humility
Self Actualization/Self Resignation
Receptiveness/Control
(יז) וזאת היא גאוות הגוף שהיא טובה: שמא יאמר האדם: הואיל והגאווה היא מידה רעה כל כך, אפרוש ממנה ביותר – עד שלא יאכל בשר ולא ישתה יין, ולא ישא אשה, ולא ישב בדירה נאה, ולא ילבש מלבוש נאה אלא השק והצמר, וקרועים ומלוכלכים; ומשתמש בכלים מלוכלכים ומאוסים, ולא ירחץ פניו ידיו ורגליו עד שישחיר תארו משאר אנשים. וכל זה כדי שיתרחק מן הגאווה, עד שלא יוכל להתרחק יותר.
(17) And there is a sort of personal pride or pride in one's person that is good and necessary. Otherwise, a man might say, "Since arrogance is so evil a quality I shall separate myself from pride even more." And then he denies himself meat, drinks no wine, does not marry, does not live in a nice dwelling, does not put on a nice garment, but wears sackloth and coarse wool, and torn, soiled clothes, uses soiled and ugly dishes and utensils, does not wash his face, hands and feet until his appearance becomes more bedraggled than the appearance of other men and he does all this so as to remove himself from pride as far as is possible.
Duties of the Heart 34:5, Rabbi Bahya ibn Pakuda
The admirable kind of pride is that, when the wise man prides himself on his wisdom, and the just man on his works, he should acknowledge, in these things, the great beneficence of the Creator, and should rejoice on account of these gifts. Such pride in these gifts will then induce him to increase them and make good use of them, and to be meek with all around him; and to rejoice with his fellows, and be eager for their glory, and to cover over their folly, and to speak in praise of them, to love them, and to rejoice over them, and to be careful of their honour. Then, also, his own good deeds will appear so small in his eyes, that he will be continually striving to increase them. He will be humble because of his sense o[ inability to attain to the realization of his ideal in respect to them, and he will be full of gratitude to G-d for giving him these precious qualities. Such pride is helpful, and not harmful, to humility.
Tales of the Chassidim: Rabbi Simcha Bunim of Peshischa, Martin Buber
Everyone must have two pockets, with a note in each pocket, so that he or she can reach into the one or the other, depending on the need. When feeling lowly and depressed, discouraged or disconsolate, one should reach into the right pocket, and, there, find the words: "For my sake was the world created." But when feeling high and mighty one should reach into the left pocket, and find the words: "I am but dust and ashes."