Emor ~ The Egyptian guy

One of the most uncomfortable stories of Sefer Vayikra is the story of the Blasphemer. He is described as the son of Shelomit daughter of Dibri, tribe of Dan, and an Egyptian man.

Please come up with your own questions regarding this story. Here are a few of mine.

1. Who was the father of the unnamed man? Is this important? What other story you know about an unnamed Egyptian guy?

2. Why Shulamit's son was fighting with another man? Why did he blaspheme?

3. Why are we told Shulamit's name, but not given any explanation as to the connection between her and her son's fight and blasphemy?

4. Why are all the men in the story unnamed while she is named?

5. What lesson does the Torah want us to learn by offering such a difficult story, if we already knew from the Ten Commandments not to curse God's name?

6. How does the coda of laws in verses 17-21 fit in the story?

7. How does verse 22 fit in the story? How similar is it to verse 16?

8. Why did God have to order the punishment directly?

(י) וַיֵּצֵא֙ בֶּן־אִשָּׁ֣ה יִשְׂרְאֵלִ֔ית וְהוּא֙ בֶּן־אִ֣ישׁ מִצְרִ֔י בְּת֖וֹךְ בְּנֵ֣י יִשְׂרָאֵ֑ל וַיִּנָּצוּ֙ בַּֽמַּחֲנֶ֔ה בֶּ֚ן הַיִּשְׂרְאֵלִ֔ית וְאִ֖ישׁ הַיִּשְׂרְאֵלִֽי׃ (יא) וַ֠יִּקֹּב בֶּן־הָֽאִשָּׁ֨ה הַיִּשְׂרְאֵלִ֤ית אֶת־הַשֵּׁם֙ וַיְקַלֵּ֔ל וַיָּבִ֥יאוּ אֹת֖וֹ אֶל־מֹשֶׁ֑ה וְשֵׁ֥ם אִמּ֛וֹ שְׁלֹמִ֥ית בַּת־דִּבְרִ֖י לְמַטֵּה־דָֽן׃ (יב) וַיַּנִּיחֻ֖הוּ בַּמִּשְׁמָ֑ר לִפְרֹ֥שׁ לָהֶ֖ם עַל־פִּ֥י ה' (פ) (יג) וַיְדַבֵּ֥ר ה' אֶל־מֹשֶׁ֥ה לֵּאמֹֽר׃ (יד) הוֹצֵ֣א אֶת־הַֽמְקַלֵּ֗ל אֶל־מִחוּץ֙ לַֽמַּחֲנֶ֔ה וְסָמְכ֧וּ כָֽל־הַשֹּׁמְעִ֛ים אֶת־יְדֵיהֶ֖ם עַל־רֹאשׁ֑וֹ וְרָגְמ֥וּ אֹת֖וֹ כָּל־הָעֵדָֽה׃ (טו) וְאֶל־בְּנֵ֥י יִשְׂרָאֵ֖ל תְּדַבֵּ֣ר לֵאמֹ֑ר אִ֥ישׁ אִ֛ישׁ כִּֽי־יְקַלֵּ֥ל אֱלֹקָ֖יו וְנָשָׂ֥א חֶטְאֽוֹ׃ (טז) וְנֹקֵ֤ב שֵׁם־ה' מ֣וֹת יוּמָ֔ת רָג֥וֹם יִרְגְּמוּ־ב֖וֹ כָּל־הָעֵדָ֑ה כַּגֵּר֙ כָּֽאֶזְרָ֔ח בְּנָקְבוֹ־שֵׁ֖ם יוּמָֽת׃ (יז) וְאִ֕ישׁ כִּ֥י יַכֶּ֖ה כָּל־נֶ֣פֶשׁ אָדָ֑ם מ֖וֹת יוּמָֽת׃ (יח) וּמַכֵּ֥ה נֶֽפֶשׁ־בְּהֵמָ֖ה יְשַׁלְּמֶ֑נָּה נֶ֖פֶשׁ תַּ֥חַת נָֽפֶשׁ׃ (יט) וְאִ֕ישׁ כִּֽי־יִתֵּ֥ן מ֖וּם בַּעֲמִית֑וֹ כַּאֲשֶׁ֣ר עָשָׂ֔ה כֵּ֖ן יֵעָ֥שֶׂה לּֽוֹ׃ (כ) שֶׁ֚בֶר תַּ֣חַת שֶׁ֔בֶר עַ֚יִן תַּ֣חַת עַ֔יִן שֵׁ֖ן תַּ֣חַת שֵׁ֑ן כַּאֲשֶׁ֨ר יִתֵּ֥ן מוּם֙ בָּֽאָדָ֔ם כֵּ֖ן יִנָּ֥תֶן בּֽוֹ׃ (כא) וּמַכֵּ֥ה בְהֵמָ֖ה יְשַׁלְּמֶ֑נָּה וּמַכֵּ֥ה אָדָ֖ם יוּמָֽת׃ (כב) מִשְׁפַּ֤ט אֶחָד֙ יִהְיֶ֣ה לָכֶ֔ם כַּגֵּ֥ר כָּאֶזְרָ֖ח יִהְיֶ֑ה כִּ֛י אֲנִ֥י ה' אֱלֹקֵיכֶֽם׃ (כג) וַיְדַבֵּ֣ר מֹשֶׁה֮ אֶל־בְּנֵ֣י יִשְׂרָאֵל֒ וַיּוֹצִ֣יאוּ אֶת־הַֽמְקַלֵּ֗ל אֶל־מִחוּץ֙ לַֽמַּחֲנֶ֔ה וַיִּרְגְּמ֥וּ אֹת֖וֹ אָ֑בֶן וּבְנֵֽי־יִשְׂרָאֵ֣ל עָשׂ֔וּ כַּֽאֲשֶׁ֛ר צִוָּ֥ה ה' אֶת־מֹשֶֽׁה׃ (פ)

(10) There came out one, whose mother was Israelite and whose father was Egyptian, among the Israelites, and a fight broke out in the camp between that half-Israelite and a certain Israelite. (11) The son of the Israelite woman pronounced the Name in blasphemy, and he was brought to Moses—now his mother’s name was Shelomith daughter of Dibri of the tribe of Dan— (12) and he was placed in custody, until the decision of the LORD should be made clear to them. (13) And the LORD spoke to Moses, saying: (14) Take the blasphemer outside the camp; and let all who were within hearing lay their hands upon his head, and let the whole community stone him. (15) And to the Israelite people speak thus: Anyone who blasphemes his God shall bear his guilt; (16) if he also pronounces the name LORD, he shall be put to death. The whole community shall stone him; stranger or citizen, if he has thus pronounced the Name, he shall be put to death. (17) If anyone kills any human being, he shall be put to death. (18) One who kills a beast shall make restitution for it: life for life. (19) If anyone maims his fellow, as he has done so shall it be done to him: (20) fracture for fracture, eye for eye, tooth for tooth. The injury he inflicted on another shall be inflicted on him. (21) One who kills a beast shall make restitution for it; but one who kills a human being shall be put to death. (22) You shall have one standard for stranger and citizen alike: for I the LORD am your God. (23) Moses spoke thus to the Israelites. And they took the blasphemer outside the camp and pelted him with stones. The Israelites did as the LORD had commanded Moses.

~ The assumption of the coda is that the son of the Israelite woman was trying to kill the other man, using the name of God.

~ Note the structure of the text: the curse, the affirmation of one law for everyone, the punishments, the reaffirmation of one law for everyone, and then the end of the story.

~ The inclusion of the stranger is paramount in this.

The verse to curse, mekalel, is not the only thing the blasphemer does. The text also uses n.k.v. (verse 11), translated here as "pronounce in blasphemy" but that has another meaning: to perforate, to make a hole in.

נָקַב (v) heb
    • to pierce, perforate, bore, appoint
      • (Qal)
        • to pierce, bore
        • to prick off, designate
      • (Niphal) to be pricked off, be designated, be specified
    • (Qal) to curse, blaspheme

~ In a way, one could imagine that "do not take God's name in vain" has its greatest expression in the idea of using God's name to kill another human being.

(ג) וַיֵּצֵא בֶּן אִשָּׁה יִשְׂרְאֵלִית, מֵהֵיכָן יָצָא, רַבִּי לֵוִי אָמַר יָצָא מֵעוֹלָמוֹ, כְּמָה דְאַתְּ אָמַר (שמואל א יז, ד): וַיֵּצֵא אִישׁ הַבֵּנַיִם. רַבִּי בֶּרֶכְיָה אָמַר מִפָּרָשָׁה שֶׁל מַעְלָן יָצָא, אָמַר כְּתִיב (ויקרא כד, ה): וְלָקַחְתָּ סֹלֶת וְאָפִיתָ אֹתָהּ, דַּרְכּוֹ שֶׁל מֶלֶךְ לִהְיוֹת אוֹכֵל פַּת חַמָּה, שֶׁמָּא צוֹנֶנֶת, כְּהַהִיא דִּתְנִינַן תַּמָּן לֶחֶם הַפָּנִים אֵין נֶאֱכָל פָּחוּת מִתִּשְׁעָה וְלֹא יֶתֶר עַל אַחַד עָשָׂר, כֵּיצַד נֶאֱפָה בְּעֶרֶב שַׁבָּת וְנֶאֱכַל בְּשַׁבָּת, לְתִשְׁעָה. חָל לִהְיוֹת יוֹם טוֹב בְּעֶרֶב שַׁבָּת, נֶאֱכָל לַעֲשָׂרָה, שְׁנֵי יָמִים טוֹבִים שֶׁל רֹאשׁ הַשָּׁנָה נֶאֱכָל לְאַחַד עָשָׂר, כִּדְאִיתָא בְּתַנְחוּמָא. תָּנֵי רַבִּי חִיָּא מִפָּרָשַׁת יוּחֲסִין יָצָא, שֶׁבָּא לִטַּע אָהֳלוֹ בְּמַחֲנֵה דָן, אָמְרוּ לוֹ מַה לְּךָ לִטַּע אָהָלְךָ בְּמַחֲנֵה דָן, אָמַר לָהֶם מִבְּנוֹת דָּן אֲנִי, אָמְרוּ לוֹ כְּתִיב (במדבר ב, ב): אִישׁ עַל דִּגְלוֹ בְאֹתֹת לְבֵית אֲבֹתָם וְלֹא לְבֵית אִמּוֹתָם, נִכְנַס לְבֵית דִּינוֹ שֶׁל משֶׁה וְיָצָא מְחֻיָּב, עָמַד וְגִדֵּף.

And the son of an Israelite woman came out — From where did he go out? [Surely not from the camp, since the text “and a fight broke out in the camp”] Rabbi Levi said, “He went out from his eternal life (עולמו; R. Levi connects ויצא with the last word of v. 8: the everlasting covenant, ברית עולם - ie, by his blasphemy he lost his eternal life). R. Berachya said: “he came out (יצא) (with an argument) from the above section. He said: it is written 'You shall take choice flour and bake of it twelve loaves [...every Shabbat] (Lev. 24:5-9)'. Surely it is the way of a king to eat warm bread every day; is it perhaps His way to eat bread that has been cold for nine days?! [technical explanation from the Tanchuma] Rabbi Chyia taught: “he came out (יצא) (with an argument) from the section regarding family connections. He had gone to pitch his tent in the camp of the tribe of Dan. They told him: "what [claim] do you have to pitch your tent in the camp of Dan?" He replied: "I am from one of the daughters of the tribe of Dan". They said to him: "It is written (Numbers 2:2) 'Every man [of the children of Israel shall encamp] by his own standard, that bears the signs of their father's house' - and not the mother's!" He went in to the judicial court of Moses to have the matter decided and came out (יצא) declared to be in the wrong. He then stood up and blasphemed.

~ What are the causes offered by the rabbis of the blasphemer's actions?

~ Should have he known better?

~ Should the community have known better?

(יא) וַיְהִ֣י ׀ בַּיָּמִ֣ים הָהֵ֗ם וַיִּגְדַּ֤ל מֹשֶׁה֙ וַיֵּצֵ֣א אֶל־אֶחָ֔יו וַיַּ֖רְא בְּסִבְלֹתָ֑ם וַיַּרְא֙ אִ֣ישׁ מִצְרִ֔י מַכֶּ֥ה אִישׁ־עִבְרִ֖י מֵאֶחָֽיו׃ (יב) וַיִּ֤פֶן כֹּה֙ וָכֹ֔ה וַיַּ֖רְא כִּ֣י אֵ֣ין אִ֑ישׁ וַיַּךְ֙ אֶת־הַמִּצְרִ֔י וַֽיִּטְמְנֵ֖הוּ בַּחֽוֹל׃ (יג) וַיֵּצֵא֙ בַּיּ֣וֹם הַשֵּׁנִ֔י וְהִנֵּ֛ה שְׁנֵֽי־אֲנָשִׁ֥ים עִבְרִ֖ים נִצִּ֑ים וַיֹּ֙אמֶר֙ לָֽרָשָׁ֔ע לָ֥מָּה תַכֶּ֖ה רֵעֶֽךָ׃ (יד) וַ֠יֹּאמֶר מִ֣י שָֽׂמְךָ֞ לְאִ֨ישׁ שַׂ֤ר וְשֹׁפֵט֙ עָלֵ֔ינוּ הַלְהָרְגֵ֙נִי֙ אַתָּ֣ה אֹמֵ֔ר כַּאֲשֶׁ֥ר הָרַ֖גְתָּ אֶת־הַמִּצְרִ֑י וַיִּירָ֤א מֹשֶׁה֙ וַיֹּאמַ֔ר אָכֵ֖ן נוֹדַ֥ע הַדָּבָֽר׃ (טו) וַיִּשְׁמַ֤ע פַּרְעֹה֙ אֶת־הַדָּבָ֣ר הַזֶּ֔ה וַיְבַקֵּ֖שׁ לַהֲרֹ֣ג אֶת־מֹשֶׁ֑ה וַיִּבְרַ֤ח מֹשֶׁה֙ מִפְּנֵ֣י פַרְעֹ֔ה וַיֵּ֥שֶׁב בְּאֶֽרֶץ־מִדְיָ֖ן וַיֵּ֥שֶׁב עַֽל־הַבְּאֵֽר׃

(11) And it came to pass in those days, when Moses was grown up, that he went out to his brethren, and looked on their burdens; and he saw an Egyptian smiting a Hebrew, one of his brethren. (12) And he looked this way and that way, and when he saw that there was no man, he smote the Egyptian, and hid him in the sand. (13) And he went out the second day, and, behold, two men of the Hebrews were striving together; and he said to him that did the wrong: ‘Why are you hitting your fellow?’ (14) And he said: ‘Who made you a ruler and a judge over us? Are you thinking to kill me, as you killed the Egyptian?’ And Moses feared, and said: ‘Surely the thing is known.’ (15) Now when Pharaoh heard this thing, he sought to slay Moses. But Moses fled from the face of Pharaoh, and dwelt in the land of Midian; and he sat down by a well.

~ The two stories scream "connect me" through the unknown Egyptian, and also through the presence of a fight. In one case there is fleeing, in the other, a punishment. There are those who say that Moshe has to flee because he will receive capital punishment.

~ The midrash will explore that connection, and create, as usual, an interesting story to fill in that gap.

וַיֹּ֨אמֶר ה' אֶל־מֹשֶׁה֙ בְּמִדְיָ֔ן לֵ֖ךְ שֻׁ֣ב מִצְרָ֑יִם כִּי־מֵ֙תוּ֙ כָּל־הָ֣אֲנָשִׁ֔ים הַֽמְבַקְשִׁ֖ים אֶת־נַפְשֶֽׁךָ׃
The LORD said to Moses in Midian, “Go back to Egypt, for all the men who sought to kill you are dead.”
דָּבָר אַחֵר, וַיַּרְא בְּסִבְלֹתָם, רָאָה שֶׁאֵין לָהֶם מְנוּחָה, הָלַךְ וְאָמַר לְפַרְעֹה מִי שֶׁיֵּשׁ לוֹ עֶבֶד אִם אֵינוֹ נָח יוֹם אֶחָד בַּשָּׁבוּעַ הוּא מֵת, וְאֵלּוּ עֲבָדֶיךָ אִם אֵין אַתָּה מֵנִיחַ לָהֶם יוֹם אֶחָד בַּשָּׁבוּעַ הֵם מֵתִים. אָמַר לוֹ לֵךְ וַעֲשֵׂה לָהֶם כְּמוֹ שֶׁתֹּאמַר, הָלַךְ משֶׁה וְתִקֵּן לָהֶם אֶת יוֹם הַשַּׁבָּת לָנוּחַ. וַיַּרְא אִישׁ מִצְרִי, מָה רָאָה, אָמַר רַב הוּנָא בְּשֵׁם בַּר קַפָּרָא בִּשְׁבִיל אַרְבָּעָה דְבָרִים נִגְאֲלוּ יִשְׂרָאֵל מִמִּצְרַיִם, אֶחָד שֶׁלֹא שִׁנּוּ שְׁמוֹתָם [כמו שכתוב בשיר השירים רבה, ובויקרא רבה פרשה לב]. וּמִנַיִן שֶׁלֹא נֶחְשְׁדוּ עַל הָעֶרְוָה, שֶׁהֲרֵי אַחַת הָיְתָה וּפִרְסְמָהּ הַכָּתוּב, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר (ויקרא כד, י יא): וְשֵׁם אִמּוֹ שְׁלוֹמִית בַּת דִּבְרִי וגו'. אָמְרוּ רַבּוֹתֵינוּ זִכְרוֹנָם לִבְרָכָה נוֹגְשִׂים הָיוּ מִן הַמִּצְרִיִּים וְשׁוֹטְרִים מִיִּשְׂרָאֵל, נוֹגֵשׂ מְמֻנֶּה עַל עֲשָׂרָה שׁוֹטְרִים. שׁוֹטֵר מְמֻנֶּה עַל עֲשָׂרָה מִיִּשְׂרָאֵל. וְהָיוּ הַנּוֹגְשִׂים הוֹלְכִים לְבָתֵּי הַשּׁוֹטְרִים בָּהַשְׁכָּמָה לְהוֹצִיאָן לִמְלַאכְתָּן לִקְרִיאַת הַגֶּבֶר, פַּעַם אַחַת הָלַךְ נוֹגֵשׂ מִצְרִי אֵצֶל שׁוֹטֵר יִשְׂרָאֵל וְנָתַן עֵינָיו בְּאִשְׁתּוֹ שֶׁהָיְתָה יְפַת תֹּאַר בְּלִי מוּם, עָמַד לִשְׁעַת קְרִיאַת הַגֶּבֶר וְהוֹצִיאוֹ מִבֵּיתוֹ, וְחָזַר הַמִּצְרִי וּבָא עַל אִשְׁתּוֹ וְהָיְתָה סְבוּרָה שֶׁהוּא בַּעֲלָהּ וְנִתְעַבְּרָה מִמֶּנּוּ, חָזַר בַּעֲלָהּ וּמָצָא הַמִּצְרִי יוֹצֵא מִבֵּיתוֹ שָׁאַל אוֹתָהּ שֶׁמָּא נָגַע בָּךְ, אָמְרָה לוֹ הֵן, וּסְבוּרָה אֲנִי שֶׁאַתָּה הוּא, כֵּיוָן שֶׁיָּדַע הַנּוֹגֵשׂ שֶׁהִרְגִּישׁ בּוֹ הֶחֱזִירוֹ לַעֲבוֹדַת הַפֶּרֶךְ וְהָיָה מַכֶּה אוֹתוֹ וּמְבַקֵּשׁ לְהָרְגוֹ. וְהָיָה משֶׁה רוֹאֶה אוֹתוֹ וּמַבִּיט בּוֹ וְרָאָה בְּרוּחַ הַקֹּדֶשׁ מַה שֶּׁעָשָׂה בַּבַּיִת, וְרָאָה מַה שֶּׁעָתִיד לַעֲשׂוֹת לוֹ בַּשָֹּׂדֶה, אָמַר וַדַּאי זֶה חַיָּב מִיתָה, כְּמוֹ שֶׁכָּתוּב (ויקרא כד, כא): וּמַכֵּה אָדָם יוּמָת, וְלֹא עוֹד אֶלָּא שֶׁבָּא עַל אִשְׁתּוֹ שֶׁל דָּתָן, עַל כָּךְ חַיָּב הֲרִיגָה, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר (ויקרא כ, י): מוֹת יוּמַת הַנֹּאֵף וְהַנֹּאָפֶת, וְהַיְנוּ דִּכְתִיב: וַיִּפֶן כֹּה וָכֹה וגו', רָאָה מֶה עָשָׂה לוֹ בַּבַּיִת וּמֶה עָשָׂה לוֹ בַּשָֹּׂדֶה.

Another interpretation: "And he saw their suffering" that they did not have rest. He went and said to Pharaoh, " One who has a slave, if he does not rest one day a week, he will die! While your slaves, if you don't allow them rest one day a week , they will die!" He said to them, "Go and do for them as you are saying." Moses went and established the Sabbath day for them to rest. "And he saw an Egyptian man." What did he see? R. Huna say in the name of Bar Kaprah, for 4 things the Israelites were redeemed from Egypt, one was for not changing their names (Shir ha-Shirim Rabbah, Vayikra Rabba 32). And from where do we learn that they didn't engage in adultery? Because it happened once and the verse publicized it, as it's written: And his mother's name was Shlomit bat Divri etc. (Lev 24:10). Our teachers say there were taskmasters among the Egyptians and officers from the Israelites, one taskmaster appointed over ten officers. One officer appointed over ten Israelites. And the taskmasters would go to the houses of the officers at daybreak to make them go call the workers. Once an Egyptian taskmaster went to [do so to] an Israelite officer and he set his eye on his wife who was beautiful without blemish. He called the man and brought him out of his house, then the Egyptian returned and had relations with his wife and she thought that he was her husband and became pregnant from him. Her husband returned and found the Egyptian leaving his house. He asked her, Did he touch you? She said yes, but I thought he was you. When the taskmaster saw that he suspected him he returned him to hard labor and struck him and sought to kill him. Moshe saw this and looked at him and saw with Ruah Hakodesh [prophetic inspiration] what he did in the house, and saw what would be done in the field, and said surely he deserves death, as it is written: "One who strikes a man shall die." And not only this, but moreover he slept with the wife of Datan and therefore deserved killing, as it says: "The adulterer and adulteress shall surely die" (Lev 20:10), and that is why it is written: "And he turned this way and that etc.," he saw what he did to him at home and what he did to him in the field.

(ה) ...רַב הוּנָא אָמַר בְּשֵׁם בַּר קַפָּרָא בִּשְׁבִיל אַרְבָּעָה דְּבָרִים נִגְאֲלוּ יִשְׂרָאֵל מִמִצְרַיִם, שֶׁלֹּא שִׁנּוּ אֶת שְׁמָם וְאֶת לְשׁוֹנָם וְלֹא אָמְרוּ לָשׁוֹן הָרָע, וְלֹא נִמְצָא בֵּינֵיהֶם אֶחָד מֵהֶן פָּרוּץ בְּעֶרְוָה...וְלֹא נִמְצָא אֶחָד מֵהֶם פָּרוּץ בְּעֶרְוָה, תֵּדַע לְךָ שֶׁהָיָה כֵּן אַחַת הָיְתָה וּפִרְסְמָהּ הַכָּתוּב, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר (ויקרא כד, יא): וְשֵׁם אִמּוֹ שְׁלֹמִית בַּת דִּבְרִי לְמַטֵּה דָן, שְׁלֹמִית, דְּאָמַר רַבִּי לֵוִי דַּהֲוַת פַּטָּטָא בִּשְׁלָמָא, שְׁלָם לָךְ שְׁלָם לְכוֹן. בַּת דִּבְרִי, אָמַר רַבִּי יִצְחָק שֶׁהֵבִיאָה דֶּבֶר עַל בְּנָהּ. לְמַטֵּה דָן, גְּנַאי לְאִמּוֹ, גְּנַאי לוֹ, גְּנַאי לְמִשְׁפַּחְתּוֹ, גְּנַאי לְשִׁבְטוֹ שֶׁיָּצָא מִמֶּנּוּ.

Rav Huna said, in the name of Bar Kappara: due to four things Israel was redeemed from Egypt: they did not change their names, nor their language, did not speak lashon hara and there was none that had committed sexual immorality... And you say that there was none who committed sexual immorality? There was one, and the Text announced her: "and the name of his mother was Shelomit bat Dibri of the tribe of Dan. Shelomit: as Rabbi Levi says, she would continuously say "Shalom" to all she encountered. Bat Dibri: Rabbi Itzchak says: she brought a plague [dever] on her son. Of the Tribe of Dan: this is a shame for his mother, a shame for him, a shame for his family, a shame for the tribe from which he came.

בת דברי. דַּבְּרָנִית הָיְתָה, מְדַבֶּרֶת עִם כָּל אָדָם, לְפִיכָךְ קִלְקְלָה:

בת דברי (from the root דבר “to speak”) — she was talkative — talking with every person, and in consequence of this she got into trouble.

~ I don't find useful or inspiring the "blame the mother" technique. And all, in this story, are in the wrong - no one is just a victim, and no one is just a perpetrator. The tribe that did not include, and the man who did not refrain his anger. In part, this is why this story is difficult - and also because it brings a difficult subject for us nowadays: the status of those who have two competing identities.

But, I find the end of this particular midrash important: the end of the blasphemer, the fact that the whole story ends in disgrace of God's name and death, brings shame on everyone. The coda of "one law for all" which is mentioned not once, but twice, indicates a need to include all who are part of a community in the community's existence, for good and for bad. That same idea: "one law for all, citizen and stranger alike" is repeated seven times in the Torah. And again, "do not oppress the stranger" is 36 times. Because it is very easy to exclude those who do not fit perfectly in our categories of those we say "us". It is very easy to say "no, people like you, not in my tribe".

I recently heard a professor talking about what is called "identity politics". And she was saying that what people assume is that those who are similar to us make our communities safe. But that is not true. Crimes are perpetrated by people in all communities, to people of those communities, that look like them. Kind people are what makes a community safe - any community. And they may not look like you, or dress like you, or worship like you. It is inclusion that make for community, and it is kindness that makes for a safe community.

May we find a space in our Shabbat to include all those in our community, and may we find kindness to guide us through our interactions in this communities and in all the other communities we belong to.