Uninvolved Parenting: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-uninvolved-parenting-2794958
Uninvolved parenting, sometimes referred to as neglectful parenting, is a style characterized by a lack of responsiveness to a child's needs.
Uninvolved parents make few to no demands of their children and they are often indifferent, dismissive, or even completely neglectful.
These parents have little emotional involvement with their kids. While they provide for basic needs like food and shelter, they are uninvolved in their children's lives. The degree of involvement may vary considerably. Some uninvolved parents may be relatively hands-off with their kids, but may still have some basic limits such as curfews. Others may be downright neglectful or even reject their children outright.
Characteristics of Uninvolved Parents
Uninvolved parents tend to have these characteristics:
Children raised by uninvolved parents tend to suffer from these effects:
Researchers associate parenting styles with a range of child outcomes in areas such as social skills and academic performance. The children of uninvolved parents generally perform poorly in nearly every area of life. These children tend to display deficits in cognition, attachment, emotional skills, and social skills.
Due to the lack of emotional responsiveness and love from their caretakers, children raised by uninvolved parents may have difficulty forming attachments later in life. The complete lack of boundaries in the home makes it difficult to learn appropriate behaviors and limits in school and other social situations, which is why children with uninvolved parents are more likely to misbehave.
Uninvolved parenting, sometimes referred to as neglectful parenting, is a style characterized by a lack of responsiveness to a child's needs.
Uninvolved parents make few to no demands of their children and they are often indifferent, dismissive, or even completely neglectful.
These parents have little emotional involvement with their kids. While they provide for basic needs like food and shelter, they are uninvolved in their children's lives. The degree of involvement may vary considerably. Some uninvolved parents may be relatively hands-off with their kids, but may still have some basic limits such as curfews. Others may be downright neglectful or even reject their children outright.
Characteristics of Uninvolved Parents
Uninvolved parents tend to have these characteristics:
- They're emotionally distant from their children
- They offer little or no supervision
- They show little warmth, love, and affection towards their children
- They have few or no expectations or demands for behavior
- They don't attend school events and parent-teacher conferences
- They may intentionally avoid their children
- They're often too overwhelmed by their own problems to deal with their children
Children raised by uninvolved parents tend to suffer from these effects:
- They must learn to provide for themselves
- They fear becoming dependent on other people
- They're often emotionally withdrawn
- They tend to exhibit more delinquency during adolescence
- They feel fear, anxiety, or stress due to the lack of family support
- They have an increased risk of substance abuse
Researchers associate parenting styles with a range of child outcomes in areas such as social skills and academic performance. The children of uninvolved parents generally perform poorly in nearly every area of life. These children tend to display deficits in cognition, attachment, emotional skills, and social skills.
Due to the lack of emotional responsiveness and love from their caretakers, children raised by uninvolved parents may have difficulty forming attachments later in life. The complete lack of boundaries in the home makes it difficult to learn appropriate behaviors and limits in school and other social situations, which is why children with uninvolved parents are more likely to misbehave.
(א) וְיִפְתָּ֣ח הַגִּלְעָדִ֗י הָיָה֙ גִּבּ֣וֹר חַ֔יִל וְה֖וּא בֶּן־אִשָּׁ֣ה זוֹנָ֑ה וַיּ֥וֹלֶד גִּלְעָ֖ד אֶת־יִפְתָּֽח׃ (ב) וַתֵּ֧לֶד אֵֽשֶׁת־גִּלְעָ֛ד ל֖וֹ בָּנִ֑ים וַיִּגְדְּל֨וּ בְֽנֵי־הָאִשָּׁ֜ה וַיְגָרְשׁ֣וּ אֶת־יִפְתָּ֗ח וַיֹּ֤אמְרוּ לוֹ֙ לֹֽא־תִנְחַ֣ל בְּבֵית־אָבִ֔ינוּ כִּ֛י בֶּן־אִשָּׁ֥ה אַחֶ֖רֶת אָֽתָּה׃
(1) Jephthah the Gileadite was an able warrior, who was the son of a prostitute. Jephthah’s father was Gilead; (2) but Gilead also had sons by his wife, and when the wife’s sons grew up, they drove Jephthah out. They said to him, “You shall have no share in our father’s property, for you are the son of an outsider.”
והיינו דקאמר להו נביא לישראל (ירמיהו ח, כב) הצרי אין בגלעד אם רופא אין שם
Regarding the incident of Jephthah, the Gemara remarks: And this is what the prophet said to the Jewish people: “Is there no balm in Gilead? Is there no physician there? Why then has the health of the daughter of my people not recovered?” (Jeremiah 8:22). This verse alludes to the fact that had he sought a means to do so, Jephthah could have had his vow annulled.
אשר לא צויתי זה בנו של מישע מלך מואב שנאמר (מלכים ב ג, כז) ויקח את בנו הבכור אשר ימלך תחתיו ויעלהו עולה ולא דברתי זה יפתח ולא עלתה על לבי זה יצחק בן אברהם
The Gemara interprets each phrase of this verse: “Which I did not command,” this is referring to the son of Mesha, king of Moab. King Mesha sacrificed his son, as it is stated: “Then he took his firstborn son, who would reign after him, and he offered him as a burnt-offering” (II Kings 3:27). “And I did not speak,” this is referring to Jephthah, who sacrificed his daughter as an offering. “Nor did it come into my heart,” this is referring to Isaac, son of Abraham. Although God commanded Abraham to sacrifice Isaac, there was no intent in God’s heart that he should actually do so; it was merely a test.
(י) וַיַּעֲבֵ֥ר יִשַׁ֛י שִׁבְעַ֥ת בָּנָ֖יו לִפְנֵ֣י שְׁמוּאֵ֑ל וַיֹּ֤אמֶר שְׁמוּאֵל֙ אֶל־יִשַׁ֔י לֹא־בָחַ֥ר ה' בָּאֵֽלֶּה׃ (יא) וַיֹּ֨אמֶר שְׁמוּאֵ֣ל אֶל־יִשַׁי֮ הֲתַ֣מּוּ הַנְּעָרִים֒ וַיֹּ֗אמֶר ע֚וֹד שָׁאַ֣ר הַקָּטָ֔ן וְהִנֵּ֥ה רֹעֶ֖ה בַּצֹּ֑אן וַיֹּ֨אמֶר שְׁמוּאֵ֤ל אֶל־יִשַׁי֙ שִׁלְחָ֣ה וְקָחֶ֔נּוּ כִּ֥י לֹא־נָסֹ֖ב עַד־בֹּא֥וֹ פֹֽה׃
(10) Thus Jesse presented seven of his sons before Samuel, and Samuel said to Jesse, “The LORD has not chosen any of these.” (11) Then Samuel asked Jesse, “Are these all the boys you have?” He replied, “There is still the youngest; he is tending the flock.” And Samuel said to Jesse, “Send someone to bring him, for we will not sit down to eat until he gets here.”
(ז) הֵן־בְּעָו֥וֹן חוֹלָ֑לְתִּי וּ֝בְחֵ֗טְא יֶֽחֱמַ֥תְנִי אִמִּֽי׃
(7) Indeed I was born with iniquity; with sin my mother conceived me.
(כח) וַיַּ֤רְא שָׁאוּל֙ וַיֵּ֔דַע כִּ֥י ה' עִם־דָּוִ֑ד וּמִיכַ֥ל בַּת־שָׁא֖וּל אֲהֵבַֽתְהוּ׃
(28) When Saul realized that the LORD was with David and that Michal daughter of Saul loved him,
(ט) וַיָּ֥קָם הַמֶּ֖לֶךְ וַיֵּ֣שֶׁב בַּשָּׁ֑עַר וּֽלְכָל־הָעָ֞ם הִגִּ֣ידוּ לֵאמֹ֗ר הִנֵּ֤ה הַמֶּ֙לֶךְ֙ יוֹשֵׁ֣ב בַּשַּׁ֔עַר וַיָּבֹ֤א כָל־הָעָם֙ לִפְנֵ֣י הַמֶּ֔לֶךְ וְיִשְׂרָאֵ֔ל נָ֖ס אִ֥ישׁ לְאֹהָלָֽיו׃ (ס)
(9) So the king arose and sat down in the gateway; and when all the troops were told that the king was sitting in the gateway, all the troops presented themselves to the king. Now the Israelites had fled to their homes.
(כב) וְעַתָּ֗ה הִשָּׁ֤בְעָה לִּי֙ בַּֽה' אִם־תַּכְרִ֥ית אֶת־זַרְעִ֖י אַֽחֲרָ֑י וְאִם־תַּשְׁמִ֥יד אֶת־שְׁמִ֖י מִבֵּ֥ית אָבִֽי׃ (כג) וַיִּשָּׁבַ֥ע דָּוִ֖ד לְשָׁא֑וּל וַיֵּ֤לֶךְ שָׁאוּל֙ אֶל־בֵּית֔וֹ וְדָוִד֙ וַֽאֲנָשָׁ֔יו עָל֖וּ עַל־הַמְּצוּדָֽה׃ (פ)
(22) So swear to me by the LORD that you will not destroy my descendants or wipe out my name from my father’s house.” (23) David swore to Saul, Saul went home, and David and his men went up to the strongholds.
(ט) מ֭וּזָר הָיִ֣יתִי לְאֶחָ֑י וְ֝נָכְרִ֗י לִבְנֵ֥י אִמִּֽי׃
(9) I am a stranger to my brothers, an alien to my kin.
Information on David from 'Nitzevet' article on Chabad
https://www.chabad.org/theJewishWoman/article_cdo/aid/280331/jewish/Nitzevet-Mother-of-David.htm
This psalm describes the life of a poor, despised and lowly individual, who lacks even a single friend to comfort him. It is the voice of a tormented soul who has experienced untold humiliation and disgrace. Through no apparent cause of his own, he is surrounded by enemies who wish to cut him down; even his own brothers are strangers to him, ravaging and reviling him.
Amazingly, this is the voice of the mighty King David, righteous and beloved servant of G‑d, feared and awed by all.
King David had many challenges throughout his life. But at what point did this great individual feel so alone, so disgraced, and so undeserving of love and friendship?
What caused King David to face such an intense ignominy, to be shunned by his own brothers in his home (“I have become a stranger to my brothers”), by the Torah sages who sat in judgment at the gates (“those who sit by the gate talk about me”) and by the drunkards on the street corners (“I am the taunt of drunkards”)? What had King David done to arouse such ire and contempt? And was there no one, at this time in his life, who would provide him with love, comfort and friendship?
This psalm, in which King David passionately gives voice to the heaviest burdens of his soul, refers to a period of twenty-eight years, from his earliest childhood until he was coronated as king of the people of Israel by the prophet Samuel.
David was born into the illustrious family of Yishai (Jesse), who served as the head of the sanhedrin (supreme court of Torah law), and was one of the most distinguished leaders of his generation. Yishai was a man of such greatness that the Talmud (Shabbat 55b) observes that “Yishai was one of only four righteous individuals who died solely due to the instigation of the serpent”—i.e., only because death was decreed upon the human race when Adam and Eve ate from the Tree of Knowledge at the serpent’s instigation, not due to any sin or flaw of his own. David was the youngest in his family, which included seven other illustrious and charismatic brothers.
Yet, when David was born, this prominent family greeted his birth with utter derision and contempt. As David describes quite literally in the psalm, “I was a stranger to my brothers, a foreigner to my mother’s sons . . . they put gall in my meal, and gave me vinegar to quench my thirst.”
David was not permitted to eat with the rest of his family, but was assigned to a separate table in the corner. He was given the task of shepherd because “they hoped that a wild beast would come and kill him while he was performing his duties,” and for this reason was sent to pasture in dangerous areas full of lions and bears.
https://www.chabad.org/theJewishWoman/article_cdo/aid/280331/jewish/Nitzevet-Mother-of-David.htm
This psalm describes the life of a poor, despised and lowly individual, who lacks even a single friend to comfort him. It is the voice of a tormented soul who has experienced untold humiliation and disgrace. Through no apparent cause of his own, he is surrounded by enemies who wish to cut him down; even his own brothers are strangers to him, ravaging and reviling him.
Amazingly, this is the voice of the mighty King David, righteous and beloved servant of G‑d, feared and awed by all.
King David had many challenges throughout his life. But at what point did this great individual feel so alone, so disgraced, and so undeserving of love and friendship?
What caused King David to face such an intense ignominy, to be shunned by his own brothers in his home (“I have become a stranger to my brothers”), by the Torah sages who sat in judgment at the gates (“those who sit by the gate talk about me”) and by the drunkards on the street corners (“I am the taunt of drunkards”)? What had King David done to arouse such ire and contempt? And was there no one, at this time in his life, who would provide him with love, comfort and friendship?
This psalm, in which King David passionately gives voice to the heaviest burdens of his soul, refers to a period of twenty-eight years, from his earliest childhood until he was coronated as king of the people of Israel by the prophet Samuel.
David was born into the illustrious family of Yishai (Jesse), who served as the head of the sanhedrin (supreme court of Torah law), and was one of the most distinguished leaders of his generation. Yishai was a man of such greatness that the Talmud (Shabbat 55b) observes that “Yishai was one of only four righteous individuals who died solely due to the instigation of the serpent”—i.e., only because death was decreed upon the human race when Adam and Eve ate from the Tree of Knowledge at the serpent’s instigation, not due to any sin or flaw of his own. David was the youngest in his family, which included seven other illustrious and charismatic brothers.
Yet, when David was born, this prominent family greeted his birth with utter derision and contempt. As David describes quite literally in the psalm, “I was a stranger to my brothers, a foreigner to my mother’s sons . . . they put gall in my meal, and gave me vinegar to quench my thirst.”
David was not permitted to eat with the rest of his family, but was assigned to a separate table in the corner. He was given the task of shepherd because “they hoped that a wild beast would come and kill him while he was performing his duties,” and for this reason was sent to pasture in dangerous areas full of lions and bears.
Shameless characters represent children of abusive families (modern day example) https://www.theodysseyonline.com/how-shameless-accurately-portrays-children-of-parents-with-mental-illness-and-substance-abuse-issues
Those who have seen the series are aware that father Frank Gallagher is an alcoholic who neglects his six children, leaving his eldest daughter Fiona Gallagher to raise her five siblings. Five of the six Gallagher siblings represent five of the personality subtypes that are found in adolescent and adult children of alcoholics.
Two studies were conducted by Jonathan Hinrichs, M.S., Jared DeFife, Ph. D, and Drew Westen, Ph.D. through the National Institute of Mental Health to validate potential personality subtypes in adolescents and adult children of alcoholics. The study mentions that over 28 million people in the United States are adult children of alcoholics.
The personality subtypes mentioned in the study are:
1. The Enabler (Rescuer)
2. The Hero
3. The Scapegoat (Rebel)
4. The Lost Child
5. The Mascot
Five of the Gallagher siblings represent one of these personality subtypes. (The youngest sibling, Liam Gallagher, does not seem to represent a personality subtype because of his age) I'll begin describing the traits of the personality subtypes starting with the oldest Gallagher, Fiona.
1. Fiona Gallagher - "The Hero"
Fiona, the eldest Gallagher, is a representation of the "Hero" or the "Responsible Child". According to Adult Children of Alcoholics of Arizona, the Hero is described as an achiever and a workaholic. Throughout the series, Fiona is often working multiple jobs to support her family to ensure the bills will be paid and food will be on the table. She frequently sacrifices her own well-being since she did not have a choice early on in her life when she was "forced" to take care of her younger siblings.
2. Lip Gallagher - "The Mascot"
Lip Gallagher often uses humor and sarcasm. He is known for being a "smart ass" by relatives, friends, and teachers. He frequently makes quips about situations and outsmarts others. We have also seen Lip engage in illegal behaviors, such as theft and destruction of property. According to the ACA of Arizona, the mascot uses humor or other distracting behavior, such as being exceptionally clumsy or always in trouble.
3. Ian Gallagher - "The Lost Child"
Ian Gallagher is an example of the "lost child." In the series, we see Ian drifting at times and trying to find his own way. The lost child "adopts whatever behavior that will allow them to stay invisible," according to ACA of Arizona. In the series, there are instances when he distances himself from the family, which is something a "lost child" might do to avoid feeling pain and sadness.
4. Debbie Gallagher - "The Enabler/Rescuer"
Debbie Gallagher is a prime example of the "enabler"/"rescuer." Earlier in the series, we see Debbie trying to help her father Frank by doing what he asks her to do, even if it is toxic. If he asks her for alcohol or money, she does what she can to get him alcohol or money. As Debbie grows up throughout the series, she continues the role by trying to help people who she believes are in need, even if it may be harmful to her well-being. The ACA of Arizona states, "The Rescuer finds those in need, lets them move in or marries them or finds a job for them while supplying other needs and is very understanding of the frequent betrayals."
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5. Carl Gallagher - The Scapegoat/Rebel
Carl Gallagher is portrayed as the "scapegoat" or the "rebel" of the family. Throughout the series, Carl frequently acts out by bullying others in school, participating in destructive behaviors and becoming involved in criminal activity at a young age. The scapegoat/rebel may try to help the family by acting out, such as Carl does in the show by stealing to help provide for his family.
Those who have seen the series are aware that father Frank Gallagher is an alcoholic who neglects his six children, leaving his eldest daughter Fiona Gallagher to raise her five siblings. Five of the six Gallagher siblings represent five of the personality subtypes that are found in adolescent and adult children of alcoholics.
Two studies were conducted by Jonathan Hinrichs, M.S., Jared DeFife, Ph. D, and Drew Westen, Ph.D. through the National Institute of Mental Health to validate potential personality subtypes in adolescents and adult children of alcoholics. The study mentions that over 28 million people in the United States are adult children of alcoholics.
The personality subtypes mentioned in the study are:
1. The Enabler (Rescuer)
2. The Hero
3. The Scapegoat (Rebel)
4. The Lost Child
5. The Mascot
Five of the Gallagher siblings represent one of these personality subtypes. (The youngest sibling, Liam Gallagher, does not seem to represent a personality subtype because of his age) I'll begin describing the traits of the personality subtypes starting with the oldest Gallagher, Fiona.
1. Fiona Gallagher - "The Hero"
Fiona, the eldest Gallagher, is a representation of the "Hero" or the "Responsible Child". According to Adult Children of Alcoholics of Arizona, the Hero is described as an achiever and a workaholic. Throughout the series, Fiona is often working multiple jobs to support her family to ensure the bills will be paid and food will be on the table. She frequently sacrifices her own well-being since she did not have a choice early on in her life when she was "forced" to take care of her younger siblings.
2. Lip Gallagher - "The Mascot"
Lip Gallagher often uses humor and sarcasm. He is known for being a "smart ass" by relatives, friends, and teachers. He frequently makes quips about situations and outsmarts others. We have also seen Lip engage in illegal behaviors, such as theft and destruction of property. According to the ACA of Arizona, the mascot uses humor or other distracting behavior, such as being exceptionally clumsy or always in trouble.
3. Ian Gallagher - "The Lost Child"
Ian Gallagher is an example of the "lost child." In the series, we see Ian drifting at times and trying to find his own way. The lost child "adopts whatever behavior that will allow them to stay invisible," according to ACA of Arizona. In the series, there are instances when he distances himself from the family, which is something a "lost child" might do to avoid feeling pain and sadness.
4. Debbie Gallagher - "The Enabler/Rescuer"
Debbie Gallagher is a prime example of the "enabler"/"rescuer." Earlier in the series, we see Debbie trying to help her father Frank by doing what he asks her to do, even if it is toxic. If he asks her for alcohol or money, she does what she can to get him alcohol or money. As Debbie grows up throughout the series, she continues the role by trying to help people who she believes are in need, even if it may be harmful to her well-being. The ACA of Arizona states, "The Rescuer finds those in need, lets them move in or marries them or finds a job for them while supplying other needs and is very understanding of the frequent betrayals."
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5. Carl Gallagher - The Scapegoat/Rebel
Carl Gallagher is portrayed as the "scapegoat" or the "rebel" of the family. Throughout the series, Carl frequently acts out by bullying others in school, participating in destructive behaviors and becoming involved in criminal activity at a young age. The scapegoat/rebel may try to help the family by acting out, such as Carl does in the show by stealing to help provide for his family.