What is Sex and what is Gender?
People that want to argue about the definition of biological sex usually lead with chromosomes, but in sexually reproducing, anisogamous species, we distinguish that by the size of gametes (that's what anisogamous means). Large gamete/small gamete differences hold up across almost all sexually reproducing species. People who ask "what is a woman?" as some kind of gotcha question are really asking, "what size gametes should you be biologically producing?" whether they know it or not...
Let's start with some terms that appear frequently in our text:
tumtum - a person with no distinguishable genitalia
androgynos - a person with both sets of external genitalia
Following are some passages from the Mishnah, one that mentions the tumtum and angrogynos (bolded when they appear) with regard to pilgrimage festivals and obligations, and where the definition is further fleshed out.
הַכֹּלחַיָּיבִין בִּרְאִיָּיה, חוּץ מֵחֵרֵשׁ שׁוֹטֶה וְקָטָן, וְטוּמְטוּםוְאַנְדְּרוֹגִינוֹס, וְנָשִׁים, וַעֲבָדִים שֶׁאֵינָם מְשׁוּחְרָרִים, הַחִיגֵּר וְהַסּוֹמֵא, וְהַחוֹלֶה וְהַזָּקֵן, וּמִי שֶׁאֵינוֹ יָכוֹל לַעֲלוֹת בְּרַגְלָיו.
Mishnah: All are obligated in "the appearing" [i.e. making a pilgrimage on the major holidays to the Temple], except a deaf man, a mentally ill person, and a child, and one of doubtful gender, and one of double gender, and women, and slaves who are not freed, the lame man, and the blind man, and the sick man, and the old man, and he who is not able to go up on his feet.
אַנְדְּרוֹגִינוֹס יֵשׁ בּוֹ דְּרָכִים שָׁוֶה לַאֲנָשִׁים, וְיֵשׁ בּוֹ דְּרָכִים שָׁוֶה לַנָּשִׁים, וְיֵשׁ בּוֹ דְּרָכִים שָׁוֶה לַאֲנָשִׁים וְנָשִׁים, וְיֵשׁ בּוֹ דְּרָכִים אֵינוֹ שָׁוֶה לֹא לַאֲנָשִׁים וְלֹא לַנָּשִׁים:
The hermaphrodite is in some ways like men, and in other ways like women. In other ways he is like men and women, and in others he is like neither men nor women.
כֵּיצַד שָׁוֶה לַאֲנָשִׁים: מְטַמֵּא בְּלֹבֶן כַּאֲנָשִׁים, וְזוֹקֵק לְיִבּוּם כַּאֲנָשִׁים, וּמִתְעַטֵּף וּמִסְתַּפֵּר כַּאֲנָשִׁים, וְנוֹשֵׂא אֲבָל לֹא נִשָּׂא כַּאֲנָשִׁים, וְחַיָּב בְּכָל מִצְוֹת הָאֲמוּרוֹת בַּתּוֹרָה כַּאֲנָשִׁים:
In what ways is he like men? He causes impurity with white discharge, like men; He dresses like men; He can take a wife but not be taken as a wife, like men. [When he is born] his mother counts the blood of purification, like men; He may not be secluded with women, like men. He is not maintained with the daughters, like men; He transgresses the law of: “You shall not round” (Leviticus 19:2 and “You shall not defile for the dead,” (Leviticus 21:1) like men; And he must perform all the commandments of the Torah, like men.
כֵּיצַד שָׁוֶה לַנָּשִׁים: מְטַמֵּא בְּאֹדֶם כַּנָּשִׁים, וְאֵינוֹ מִתְיַחֵד עִם הָאֲנָשִׁים כַּנָּשִׁים, וְאֵינוֹ עוֹבֵר עַל "בַּל תַּקִּיף" וְלֹא עַל "בַּל תַּשְׁחִית" וְלֹא עַל "בַּל תְּטַמֵּא לַמֵּתִים" כַּנָּשִׁים, וּפָסוּל מִן הָעֵדוּת כַּנָּשִׁים, וְאֵינוֹ נִבְעַל בַּעֲבֵירָה כַּנָּשִׁים, וְנִפְסַל מִן הַכְּהֻנָּה כַּנָּשִׁים:
And in what ways is he like women? He causes impurity with red discharge, like women; And he must not be secluded with men, like women; And he doesn’t make his brother’s wife liable for yibbum (levirate marriage); And he does not share [in the inheritance] with the sons, like women; And he cannot eat most holy sacrifices, like women. At his birth his mother counts the blood of her impurity like [they do when they give birth to a] girl; And he is disqualified from being a witness, like women. If he had illicit intercourse, he is disqualified from eating terumah, like women.
כֵּיצַד שָׁוֶה לַאֲנָשִׁים וְלַנָּשִׁים: חַיָּבִים עַל מַכָּתוֹ וְעַל קִלְלָתוֹ כַּאֲנָשִׁים וְכַנָּשִׁים, וְהַהוֹרְגוֹ שׁוֹגֵג גּוֹלֶה וּמֵזִיד נֶהֱרַג כַּאֲנָשִׁים וְנָשִׁים, וְיוֹשֶׁבֶת עָלָיו דָּם טָמֵא וְדָם טָהוֹר כַּאֲנָשִׁים וְכַנָּשִׁים, וְחוֹלֵק בְּקָדְשֵׁי קֳדָשִׁים כַּאֲנָשִׁים וְכַנָּשִׁים, וְנוֹחֵל לְכָל הַנְּחָלוֹת כַּאֲנָשִׁים וְכַנָּשִׁים, וְאִם אָמַר "הֲרֵינִי נָזִיר שֶׁזֶּה אִישׁ וְאִשָּׁה" הֲרֵי זֶה נָזִיר:
In what ways is he like both men and women? One who strikes him or curses him is liable, as in the case of men and women; One who unwittingly kills him must go into exile, and if on purpose, then [the slayer] receives the death penalty, as in the case of men and women. His mother must [at his birth] bring an offering, as in the case of men and women. He may eat holy things that are eaten outside of the Temple; And he may inherit any inheritance, as in the case of men and women.
כֵּיצַד אֵינוֹ שָׁוֶה לֹא לַאֲנָשִׁים וְלֹא לַנָּשִׁים: אֵין חַיָּבִים לֹא עַל מַכָּתוֹ וְלֹא עַל קִלְלָתוֹ לֹא כַּאֲנָשִׁים וְלֹא כַּנָּשִׁים, וְאֵינוֹ נֶעֱרָךְ לֹא כַּאֲנָשִׁים וְלֹא כַּנָּשִׁים, וְאִם אָמַר "הֲרֵינִי נָזִיר שֶׁזֶּה לֹא אִישׁ וְלֹא אִשָּׁה" אֵינוֹ נָזִיר. רַבִּי מֵאִיר אוֹמֵר: אַנְדְּרוֹגִינוֹס בְּרִיָּה בִּפְנֵי עַצְמָהּ הוּא וְלֹא יָכְלוּ חֲכָמִים לְהַכְרִיעַ עָלָיו אִם הוּא אִישׁ אוֹ אִשָּׁה. אֲבָל טֻמְטוּם אֵינוֹ כֵּן, פְּעָמִים שֶׁהוּא אִישׁ פְּעָמִים שֶׁהוּא אִשָּׁה:
And in what is he different from both men and women? One does not burn terumah if it came into contact with his discharge, Neither is he liable for entering the temple while impure, unlike men or women. He must not be sold as a Hebrew slave, unlike men or women. He cannot be evaluated, unlike men or women. If one says: “I will be a nazirite, if he is neither a man nor a woman,” then he becomes a nazirite. Rabbi Yose says: the hermaphrodite is a unique creature, and the sages could not decide about him. But this is not so with a tumtum (one of doubtful), for sometimes he is a man and sometimes he is a woman.
אמר רב נחמן אמר רבה בר אבוה שרה אמנו אילונית היתה שנאמר (בראשית יא, ל) ותהי שרי עקרה אין לה ולד אפי' בית ולד אין לה
Rav Naḥman said that Rabba bar Avuh said: Our mother Sarah was initially a sexually underdeveloped woman [aylonit], as it is stated: “And Sarah was barren; she had no child” (Genesis 11:30). The superfluous words: “She had no child,” indicate that she did not have even a place, i.e., a womb, for a child.
For non-Orthodox Jews, these definitions often give us a reason to believe there is a place for nonbinary in our traditions.[1]
Some modern scholars say the androgynos IS our nonbinary category. For others more familiar with the texts, their contexts, and their applications over the centuries, it's obvious they do not correlate to how we are thinking of it today—at least not directly.
When liberal movements, and let's include Modern Orthodox practices that include female ordination in this, moved away from the gender binary in performance of the mitzvot, do we still also need the binary definitions of gender anymore?
The Reform and Conservative Movements both have strong resolutions affirming transgender rights.
Nonbinary Hebrew
Camp Galil, a Habonim Dror program in Pennsylvania, worked with Keshet, Moving Traditions, and Transplaining to train staff and a few years ago, removed gendered Hebrew from its camp place names. Names like "bogrim" were changed to "bogrimot."
There's a whole, developed system of nonbinary grammar that is functionally coherent! [2]
- Synagogues
- Camps
- Modern Hebrew
"A non-Jewish burial is preferable to one that is insulting and degrading."
It is well-known halachah that women may perform a tahara for a man, but not the other way around.
האיש אינו כורך ומקשר האשה אבל האשה כורכת ומקשרת האיש:
A man does not wrap or tie [burial garments] around a woman, but a woman wraps or ties [burial garments] around a man.
Tahara is, for obvious reasons, the literal last thing we think of when it comes to ritual inclusion. But it is a chesed shel emes, "a charity of truth" or true lovingkindness that cannot be repaid. So the wishes of the deceased and their dignity is of the utmost importance to us.
Conservative Jewish halachah says, "We conclude that there is no valid halakhic prohibition for either men or women, cis or trans; gay or straight; or non-binary; helping to prepare the body of any Jew for burial." [3]
Let's think about a visit to the mikveh:
From "A Trans Jew in the Mikveh":
"In all the many ways mikva’ot are used, the lowest common denominator is change. One enters a mikveh in a certain state and leaves in a different state. Above all else, mikveh marks a transition. I came to realize that, in a way, this makes it especially relevant to the transgender community. But what made it painful for me to draw this connection is that mikveh was created for the cisgender, heterosexual body. Rabbis always imagined the person participating in niddah as a cisgender woman preparing to return to her cisgender husband, and the practice of immersion developed in response to these archetypes. And you can tell. Immersion traditionally takes place naked, the idea behind this being to parallel the new beginning of a baby in a womb, or the waters of creation in Genesis. The rabbis teach that we exist in the mikveh water as our most stripped-down, essential selves and emerge renewed. But for all its theoretical significance, the ritual depends on the physical body. When one immerses in a mikveh, their body itself takes on the significance of whatever transition they are undergoing physically, spiritually, or emotionally. We call it an “embodied ritual” for a reason." [4]
Can and should our communities support transition rituals recognize a new identity?
For the majority of us, we may not govern our actions whether or not it's permitted under Jewish law. But some do. Is SRS permitted? Is brit milah required of a transgender woman?
Where do we go from here as individual Jews and a Jewish community?
Sources
- Perleberg, Ellen, and Grace Elizabeth C. Dy. "Growing Up on the Wrong Side of the Mechitza: A Case Study of Contemporary Queer Jewish Language". Journal of Jewish Languages 10.1 (2022): 120-139. https://doi.org/10.1163/22134638-bja10019 Web.
- https://www.nonbinaryhebrew.com/
- https://www.rabbinicalassembly.org/sites/default/files/public/halakhah/teshuvot/2011-2020/transgender-halakhah.pdf
- https://www.keshetonline.org/a-trans-jew-in-the-mikveh/
Further Reading
- https://www.rabbinicalassembly.org/story/resolution-affirming-rights-transgender-and-gender-non-conforming-people
- https://urj.org/what-we-believe/resolutions/resolution-rights-transgender-and-gender-non-conforming-people
- https://www.rabbinicalassembly.org/sites/default/files/2022-05/non-binary-torah-honors_0.pdf
- https://www.rabbinicalassembly.org/sites/default/files/public/halakhah/teshuvot/2011-2020/transgender-halakhah.pdf
