The mitzvah of tochecha (rebuke) of an Israelite that is not behaving properly - to rebuke one from Israel that is not behaving properly, either concerning things between man and man or between man and God, as it is written, "You shall surely rebuke your neighbor and do not bear sin because of him." And it says in Sifre (Kedoshim 4:8) From where do we learn that if you rebuked him four and five times and he did not repent, you must go back and rebuke (again)? For this reason it says hochach tochiach, "You shall surely rebuke." And also chaza"l said in the Gemara (Bava Metzia 31a) "You shall surely rebuke" even 100 times. And Sifrei also said, could it be that you rebuke him and his face changes (becomes pale or humiliated)? For this reason it says, "Do not bear sin because of him." This teaches that in the beginning of the rebuke that is proper for a person, to rebuke him in private and with a soft tongue and words of calm, in order that he will not be shamed, and no doubt if he does not repent after this, we castigate the sinner in public and publicize his sin and excoriate him until he returns to the good. (Translation mine)
- What is the significance of the three mitzvot in this pasuk being bundled together, according to the sources?
- What is the meaning of the verse from Proverbs?
- What does Rabbi Tarfon feel is wrong with the way people in his day receive rebuke?
- Elazar Ben Azaryah gives no example of why he wonders whether anyone knows how to rebuke? What is he concerned about?
- How does the last sentence from Sefer haChinuch fit with your understanding of Jewish law on public rebuke? At what times do we - or should we - practice this way? At what times is this approach unacceptable? How does our community behave on this issue?
- How does the discussion in Shelah resonate in our time? How do our leaders behave? How do we behave? And how should we regard the example of Pinchas? What else have the rabbis taught about his behavior?