Kabbalat Hatorah: Ladies First?!

(2) "So you shall say to the house of Jacob" (Exodus 19:3) -- these are the women. God said to Moshe, speak to them of the general matters [literally: heads of things] that they are able to hear. "And tell to the children of Israel" (Exodus 19:3) -- these are the men. God said to Moshe, say to them particulars of things that they are able to hear. Another explanation: why were the women first? Since they are keen with mitzvot. Another explanation, so that they could accustom their children to Torah. Rabbi Tachlifa Dekeisarin ["kingmaker"?] said, the Holy Blessed One said 'When I created the world, I commanded only the First Man; and after that Chava was commanded, and she transgressed and corrupted the world. Now, if I do not call to the women first, they will nullify the Torah.' So it says, "So say to the House of Jacob".

THE REVELATION ON SINAI

(6) Rabbi Phineas said: On the eve of Sabbath the Israelites stood at Mount Sinai, arranged with the men apart and the women apart. The Holy One, blessed be He, said to Moses: Go, speak to the daughters of Israel, (asking them) whether they wish to receive the Torah. Why were the women asked (first)? Because the way of men is to follow the opinion of women, as it is said, "Thus shalt thou say to the house of Jacob" (Ex. 19:3); these are the women. "And tell the children of Israel" (ibid.); these are the men. They all replied (as) with one mouth, and they said: "All that the Lord hath spoken we will do, and be obedient" (Ex. 24:7).

-Maharsha (17th -century Poland): The verse should be understood as: Thus shall you say to the house of Jacob, [that is, the women, so they can in turn] declare to the children of Israel [that is, her own children]...” [Maharsha on Sotah 21a] So God wanted to inspire the women to be zealous in transmitting Torah to their children....

(1) כה תאמר לבית יעקב, “So you shall say to the House of Yaakov.” Moses was to address the women. The word כה means he was to speak to them in Hebrew. The word תאמר means he was to speak to them kindly. The reason G’d told Moses to address the women first was to teach them ethics and general rules of behavior. Furthermore, in order to make the women receptive for further Torah legislation, Moses gave them an overview of the headings and subject matters that the Torah contains. They needed special preparation for all this as their minds function differently from the minds of men, seeing that their daily tasks did not allow them so much free time to think about their spiritual needs as did the minds of the men.
Moreover, a good woman is the main reason Torah has a future. The mother encourages her young son to attend a Torah academy; seeing she is at home throughout the day she is the one who responds to the various needs, both real and imagined, of her children. She protects them against all kinds of dangers. She does all this so that he will cleave to the path of Torah also when he becomes old (Proverbs 22,6). This is why it is incumbent upon a woman to pray to G’d at the time she lights the Sabbath candles, a commandment which is especially addressed to her, that He may grant her children who will learn Torah and observe its precepts. Any prayer is more likely to evoke a positive response when it is offered at a time when one performs a commandment.

The merit acquired by lighting the Sabbath candles which provide physical light helps her children to become Torah scholars. This is alluded to by Solomon in Proverbs 6,23 כי נר מצוה ותורה אור, that by lighting a candle to provide physical light when one is performing a מצוה, the result will be the spiritual light dispensed by her children who have studied Torah.

...Not only was it in the merit of righteous women that our forefathers were redeemed from Egypt, but that the geula from our current galus will also come in the merit of righteous women.