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B.B. 16b where it is stated that on the day that Abraham our father died, Jacob made a broth of lentils to comfort his father Isaac (v. Gen. XXV, 29-30 and Rashi a.l.), and the reason it was of lentils is that ‘just as the lentil has no mouth (i.e., no cleft), so too, the mourner has no mouth (i.e., for speech)’. Others say, ‘Just as the lentil is round, so too, mourning rolls and goes around to all the denizens of this world.’ The practical difference between these two explanations is whether we should comfort with eggs, which have no cleft, but are not perfectly round. Hence, according to the first reason offered in the Talmud (B.B. ibid.) one may provide the mourner’s meal with eggs. Some of the Later Authorities hold that also beverages should be provided by others at the first mourner’s meal — Leḥem ha-Panim. but at the second [meal] he is permitted [to eat of his own] even on the first day [of mourning].2Thus also Tur and Asheri who explain that the words, ‘on the first day’ mentioned in M.K. ibid. apply only to the first meal. Cf. Pes. 36a where the expression ‘first day’ (יומא קמא) refers to one meal. So also Hag. Maim. Ebel IV, 9 citing SeMaG, for the underlying principle is that we follow the lenient authority in laws of mourning (M.K. 18a; ‘Er. 46a a.e.). Tosaf. (M.K. 20b s.v. שכבר and 27b s.v. יום) maintain that the mourner must be provided with all the meals he requires on the first day, for they take ‘first day’ to mean the meals of the entire day. A religious duty rests upon his neighbours to provide food for him of their own in order that he should not eat of his own.3Y.M.K III, 5(82b). This refers only to the first meal. One may provide food for another person during the latter's mourning and the latter may in turn provide food for the former during his mourning,4Even though both are in mourning. M.K. 27b in the case of Rabbah and R. Joseph. provided they do not make such a stipulation at the outset.5Thus Asheri. For if such a stipulation is made it would be considered as though each one ate of his own.", "If mourning befell a woman, men should not provide the mourner's meal for her,6Sem(H). XI, 2 because it offers an occasion for sin. but women should provide her with the mourner's meal.7Asheri on the authority of R. Meir of Rothenberg. Cf. Lev. R. VI, 3 and Lam. R. IV, 10 (Buber), according to which a woman should provide the mourner’s meal for another woman in mourning. If mourning befell a married woman, she may not eat the first meal [after burial] of her husband.8Asheri ibid. For since the husband is required to feed her, the food is regarded as her own. When she provides other women with the mourner’s meal, she does not have to obtain her husband’s consent, for this is considered a small matter for which the husband’s approval is unnecessary. Ḥ.M. § 358 and supra § 248. However, if the husband refuses, she may not bring the mourner’s meal to other women. If both the husband and the wife are mourners, men are permitted to provide the mourner’s meal for both, since the meal in this case is provided mainly for the husband, and indirectly she eats too — A.H. For the same reason, one who obligated himself to feed his son and daughter-in-law or his daughter and son-in-law, and mourning befell them, the latter may not eat of his food — A.H. So too, one who has [in his employment] a scribe or a hired man, if [each of them] receives meals as his payment, and mourning befell him, he should not eat the first meal of his employer. But one who feeds a poor person or an orphan [because it is a meritorious act] or his son and daughter without any stipulation,9 supra par. 1, n. 5. Cf. B.B. 43b, RaShBaM s.v. זה שייך. and mourning befell them, — [the law is that] they may eat the first meal of the master of the house.", "If the mourner desires not to eat on the first day,10Derived from Y.Ber. III, 1(6a) according to the reading of Tur and N in T.H. Cur. edd. of Y. have a different reading. This means that if the mourner desires to fast on the first day, he is permitted (BaḤ) — ShaK. Or Zaru’a, however, rules that the mourner is not permitted to fast unless it is a public fast day, and during the days of Penitence (עשרת ימי תשובה) even if it is his custom to fast, he is not permitted to do so, for it is a religious duty to eat the mourner’s meal — A.H. Cf. M.Abr. to O.Ḥ. § 581, n. 12 and Ba’er Heteb. he may eat of his own11e., on the second day or on the night following the first day, even if it is his first meal — ShaK. even the first meal. Gloss: So too, if he was not provided with the mourner's meal on the first day until12Lit. ‘which extended to.’ the night, he is permitted to eat at night of his own13On the same principle as supra n. 10. and he is not required to be provided with the mourner's meal.14Tur on the authority of the majority of the Codifiers — G. If the burial took place at night, the mourner’s meal is provided at night, and if he did not eat at night he is provided with same on the following day, for the day follows the night. Isserles’ ruling applies only if the mourner’s meal was not provided during the day after burial for the reasons mentioned above — P.Tesh. If the burial took place late Friday afternoon, and there was not sufficient time to provide the mourner’s meal, it must be provided Saturday night — Birke Yos.", "It was customary to fast on the day of the death of scholars.15Y.M.K. III, 7(83b) in the case of R. Abbahu, cited by Asheri, Ta‘an. Cf. Y.Ned. VIII, 1(40d) and supra § 376 Gloss n. 39. From this ruling it follows that the relatives also fasted and did not partake of the mourner’s meal — A.H.", "[In the case of] one who was buried on the eve of the Sabbath close to nightfall prior to twilight,16On the time of the day designated ‘twilight’ (בין השמשות) v. Shab. 34b. there is an authority who says that he should be provided then with the mourner's meal.17Mord. M.K. III end in accord with R. Jose in Pes. 99b. But it seems to me that since this is not obligatory,18 supra par. 3. it is better not to provide him then with the mourner's meal on account of the honour due to the Sabbath.19In order to partake of the Sabbath meal with appetite. Cf. O.Ḥ. § 249, 2. If the mourner desires to eat prior to the advent of the Sabbath, he must not eat of his own — Ḥok. Adam. And thus is the accepted custom.", "The mourner's meal is not provided for [one whose] infant child died, unless it was thirty complete days old,20e., it died on the thirty-first day after birth. or one knows for certain that its months [of pregnancy] were complete.21Shab. 136a in the case of the death of the grandson of R. Dimi b. Joseph. One who suffers another bereavement during his mourning period should be provided with the mourner’s meal, although he is in the midst of observing mourning rites for the first bereavement for which he was already provided with the mourner’s meal — A.H.", "One may sprinkle or sweep [the floors] in the house of mourning and wash dishes, cups, flasks and drinking vessels.22M.K. 27a. This is not considered pleasure. However, one does not bring therein perfumes or spices,23Ibid. but he may bring them into a house wherein the corpse lies,24For fumigation purposes on account of the bad odour emitted by the corpse. and one does not recite a benediction over them.25Ibid., in accord with Bar Kappara. The benediction is not recited since the purpose of the perfumes and spices is merely to deodorize the house. One does not expound legal matters or homiletical interpretations in the house of mourning,26Ibid. 23a. This refers to a Ḥakam who died, whose Academy is in recess (v. supra § 344, 18), and according to Sem(H). X, 14 where the same ruling is found, it appears that this applies to those who assemble at the Academy where the mourning rites are observed at which place it was customary under normal conditions to raise legal and Aggadic questions. In the case of other mourners, studies may be conducted at the place of mourning — A.H. but one sits and is silent.", "As soon as the corpse is buried, he27The mourner. may eat meat and drink some wine28 Ta‘an. 13b; Ned. 56a. during the meal in order to dissolve the food in his bowels, but [he must] not drink to the full.29 Ket. 8b where it is reported that ten cups were instituted to be drunk in a mourner’s home, — three before, three during and four after the meal (cf. Sem(H). XIV, 14 for a different version). Later four more cups were added. However, when this led to intoxication, they reverted to the ‘original practice.’ According to Rashi ‘original practice’ refers to the ten cups; according to N in T.H. it refers to the three cups during the meal only. Cf. Y.Pes. X, 7(37d); ‘Wine during the meal does not lead to intoxication.’ On this ruling cf. also Yad, Ebel IV, 6.", "[In] a locality where it is the adopted custom to provide the mourner's meal with meat, wine and savoury dishes, they do so.30Sem(H). XIV, 13 cited by T.H. and Tur. Cf. also Ned. 56a; Y.Ber. III, 1(6a). [However], at first they provide the mourner's meal with eggs or a dish of lentils as a symbol of mourning,31 supra par. 1, n. 1. and then they eat their sufficient requirement.", "A great number of people should not [assemble] to eat with the mourner, for this would necessitate that they separate themselves to two different places.32Hag. Maim. derived from Y.M.K. III, 2(82a). If they are obliged to divide themselves into two groups, it would appear more like a social gathering. Hence, the prohibition — ShaK. Those who are relatives may eat with the mourner. So too, those who make the lamentation. Mishna M.K. 24b; ibid. 25a; Shab. 105b; T.H.", "Where one is required to count seven [days of mourning] after the Festival,33In the case of one who suffered a bereavement on the Festival or on Ḥol ha-Moed. O.Ḥ. § 548, 2 and infra § 399, 13. and so too, if one heard [near] tidings on the Sabbath,34 D.M. a.l. who rules in accord with B.Yos. that the mourner’s meal may be provided on the Sabbath. Cf. however, Ba’er Heteb a.l. the first mourner's meal which is partaken of during the days of mourning must be provided [by others].35 M.K. 20a, Tosaf. s.v. שכבר. However, some say that since the first day [of mourning] was postponed, the mourner's meal is not provided [by others]. And thus is the common practice,36Mord. M.K. III on the authority of ‘some say;’ N.Yos. — G. even where the [first day] enters into the counting of the seven [days of mourning], e.g., in localities where two [Festival] days are observed,37In the Diaspora. further on this ruling infra § 401, 4; O.Ḥ. § 547, 8-9. [in which case] the second [Festival] day is counted [in the seven days of mourning].", "The mourner's meal is not provided in the case of distant tidings.38Mord. and N.Yos. to M.K. end. Cf. M.K. 24b, Tosaf. s.v אלא In the case of ‘near tidings’ the mourner’s meal is provided even if the death occurred in another place — A.H. On near and distant tidings, v. infra § 402.", "The distinguished comforter among them breaks bread, i.e., breaks bread to recite the blessing before the meal,39During weekdays. and on the Sabbath he40The mourner. breaks bread in his usual manner.41Yalk. Prov. s. 947, on the verse, ‘The blessing of the Lord it maketh rich’ (Prov. I, 22) which refers to the blessing of the Sabbath, ‘and toil addeth nothing thereto’ (ibid.) which refers to mourning. Hence, on the Sabbath which bestows its blessings upon us, the comforter need not hand the bread to the mourner, but during the weekdays when the mourner is engrossed in his mourning (-toil), the comforter hands the bread to the mourner, which is not done under normal conditions. Cf. also Y.Ber. II, 7(5b); Y.M.K. III, 5(82d) ; Gen. R. XI, 1; ibid. C, 7; Shab. 119a (ref. Deut. XIV, 22); Pesik. R. § 46; Hag. Maim. Yad, Ebel IV, 9; Yad, Berakoth VII, 5; O.Ḥ. § 167, 18; Ginzberg L. Commentary on the Palestinian Talmud Vol. I, pp. 385-6."], "he": ["דיני סעודת הבראה לאיש ולאשה. ובו י\"ג סעיפים:
אבל אסור לאכול משלו בסעודה ראשונה אבל בשניה מותר אפילו ביום ראשון ומצוה על שכניו שיאכילוהו משלהם כדי שלא יאכל משלו ויכול אחד להאכיל את חברו בימי אבלו והוא יחזור גם כן ויאכילנו בימי אבלו ובלבד שלא יתנו בתחילה:", "אשה שאירעה אבל אין לאנשים להברותה אבל נשים מברין אותה ואשה נשואה שאירעה אבל אינה יכולה לאכול סעודה ראשונה משל בעלה וכן מי שיש לו סופר או שכיר אם אוכל בשכרו ואירעו אבל לא יאכל סעודה ראשונה משל בעל הבית אבל מי שזן עני או יתום או לבנו ובתו בלא תנאי ואירעם אבל יכולים לאכול סעודה ראשונה משל בעל הבית:", "אם רצה האבל שלא לאכול ביום הראשון מותר לאכול משלו אפילו סעודה ראשונה: הגה וכן אם לא הברוהו ביום ראשון שנמשך עד הלילה מותר לאכול בלילה משלו ואין צריך הבראה (טור בשם רוב הפוסקים):", "היו נוהגים להתענות ביום מיתת החכמים:", "מי שנקבר בערב שבת סמוך לחשכה קודם ביה\"ש יש מי שאומר שמברין אותו אז ולי נראה דכיון שאינו חובה טוב שלא להברותו אז מפני כבוד השבת וכן נוהגין:", "אין מברין על הקטן אא\"כ הוא בן שלשים יום שלימים או קים ליה ביה שכלו לו חדשיו:", "מרביצין ומכבדין בבית האבל ומדיחין קערות כוסות וצלוחיות וקיתונות ואין מביאין שם לא בשמים ולא מוגמר אבל מביאים אותם בבית שהמת שם ואין מברכים עליהם ואין אומרים שמועה ואגדה בבית האבל אלא יושבים ודוממים:", "כיון שנקבר המת מותר לאכול בשר ולשתות יין מעט בתוך הסעודה כדי לשרות אכילה שבמעיו אבל לא לרוות:", "מקום שנהגו להברות בבשר ויין ומיני מטעמים עושים ומברין תחילה בבצים או בתבשיל של עדשים זכר לאבילות ואח\"כ אוכלים כל צרכם:", "אין לאכול עם האבל כל כך בני אדם שיתחלקו לשני מקומות:", "היכא שצריך למנות שבעה אחר הרגל וכן אם שמע שמועה בשבת צריך להברותו הבראה ראשונה שבימי אבלות (וי\"א שכיון שנדחה יום ראשון אין מברין אותו וכן נוהגים (במרדכי במ\"ק בשם י\"א ונ\"י) ואפילו היכא דעולה לו למנין ז' כגון במקומות שעושין שני ימים ששני עולה):", "אין מברין על שמועה רחוקה:", "פריס (פירוש בוצע לחם לברך המוציא) מנחם גדול דבהון ובשבת פריס כאורחיה :"], "versions": [{"status": "locked", "priority": 2.0, "license": "CC-BY", "versionNotes": "", "formatAsPoetry": "", "digitizedBySefaria": true, "method": "", "heversionSource": "", "versionUrl": "", "versionTitleInHebrew": "קובץ החוק העברי, חיים נ. דנבורג, מונטריאול 1955", "versionNotesInHebrew": "", "shortVersionTitle": "Chaim N. 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